Please help!!! Did my MOH steal my thunder??? Or am I wrong???

mrsbruff2b

Take the high road.

Stop talking wedding stuff with her.  Let her go first.  Laugh at all her mistakes (privately of course) and makes yours better.  If sh wants to be the rough copy wedding, it's fine. xD

I'm a biotch.

tpender13

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[QUOTE]Take the high road. Stop talking wedding stuff with her.  Let her go first.  Laugh at all her mistakes (privately of course) and makes yours better.  If sh wants to be the rough copy wedding, it's fine. xD I'm a biotch.
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Yup. This.

alyssalowe

I only read a few of the responses but everyone seems on point. Try making the situation work out for you by asking the vendors if they get two brides if they will cut a deal. Im doing this and it helps me save since I am second...

foureyes07

Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery!

rena5498

At this point it seems like she is either trying to push your buttons because who would want their very day they every woman dreams of to resemble so much as someone elses wedding thats a month after their friends?who does that?lol I dont think thats flattery maybe if she picked a thing here and there but everything you said is a bit much. Now she sounds like a copy cat your wedding is first anyway. Just dont discuss anything else with her.

However, i would personally explain to her that on your wedding day you would appreciate if she didnt discuss her wedding planning with your or any one attending any meeting you have with the bridal party including rehearsal hair and make up trials wedding date whatever. That would really tick you off so nip it in the bud now nothing worse then her talking about her planning on YOUR day. Frankly its rude but if shes doin this much im sure she will brag about her wedding when all of you meet up and its not about her its about you until your wedding is over. I wouldnt even talk anything wedding to her at all she may get the hint if your nonresponsive to what she says just shake your head say ok and change the subject.

calindi

Wasn't this the exact plot of "Bride Wars"?

Regardless of her motives, all you can do is change how you react to her.  I totally think it's a great idea to see if you can get discounts with vendors (caterer, DJ, limo, florist, etc.) if you want to use the same ones for booking two weddings.  But don't share details anymore - no pictures of dresses, no hairstyles, no song lists, no menus, no flower inspirations, nothing.  Even if you use the same vendors all down the line, it's the details of what they do for you that will make it unique.  If it's a good florist or a good caterer, they'll be able to create two entirely different weddings that are both spectacular in their own way.  Just don't give this girl any more ammo than she already has.

Also, don't worry about your wedding being compared to hers.  At the end of the day, you'll have your photos and videos.  It's not like she's going to wear her wedding gown to your wedding and people will compare who rocks the style better - it's a month apart!  They'll just be happy to see each of you looking beautiful on your respective days.

AngieAyrton

I kind of had the same problem only it was my older sister. It seemed to me that she rushed to get married before I did. She got engaged at the beginning of the year and married in July and I got engaged around November of last year. But I just didn't talk wedding plans with her and just let it go. It only becomes a competition if you make it out to be. Don't let it ruin your day. It will still be beautiful and I don't think you'll have identical weddings.

CaseyandSalley

How odd, I agree with what everyone has said here, no more talking about the wedding and if she asks you just say you havent decided yet and change the subject.
Personally I think all wedding dresses look the same, everyone has the strapless ball gown look, in every single wedding i went to this year, they all looked the same. so maybe thats how it is there I dont know.
But hopefully even if she is using the same vendors shes not using your same exact ideas for flowers decor ect ect
Best of luck, Id be pretty confused myself lol