I recently got the very excited phone call from a someone telling me that she was engaged. What followed was her TELLING me that I was going to be a bridesmaid, what color I had to die my hair for the wedding, and several other things that I was not very happy to be told.
Two days later, I received a phone call asking me if and when I was going to have a baby and her telling me that I had to make sure that it did not interfere with her wedding.
The first day I was hoping that she was excited and that she would lay off some of the demands. The pregnancy comment sent me a little over the edge.
Without giving too much detail so that no one recognizes her here, I cannot just refuse to be a bridesmaid. However I am considering being 9 months pregnant so I don't have to deal with the wedding. How do I tell her to calm down and stop making demands? Two of us are already about to explode over this.
Re: Bride troubles
[QUOTE]I recently got the very excited phone call from a someone telling me that she was engaged. What followed was her TELLING me that I was going to be a bridesmaid, what color I had to die my hair for the wedding, and several other things that I was not very happy to be told. Two days later, I received a phone call asking me if and when I was going to have a baby and her telling me that I had to make sure that it did not interfere with her wedding. The first day I was hoping that she was excited and that she would lay off some of the demands. The pregnancy comment sent me a little over the edge. Without giving too much detail so that no one recognizes her here, I cannot just refuse to be a bridesmaid. <strong>However I am considering being 9 months pregnant so I don't have to deal with the wedding.</strong> How do I tell her to calm down and stop making demands? Two of us are already about to explode over this.
Posted by kmbsf[/QUOTE]
The bolded really disturbs me. That is a terrible reason to have a baby. There are so many couples who want to have children and can't, and here you are "considering" having a child just so you don't have to be in a wedding.
You CAN decline being a BM.
A bride CANNOT dictate your reproductive schedule, nor can she dictate what color hair you have.
ETA: Honestly, if she is acting like this, she can't be too good of a friend.