Paying for the wedding

Ashly018

So my fiance and I just got officially engaged on New Years Eve.  It's my second marriage and his first.  I want the "wedding" so I will be paying for most of it, my mom has offered to help me as a wedding present.  My fiance says he will help also, since it will be his wedding too, but is it wrong of me to think maybe his parents should help also.  I mean traditionally the grooms family payed for the rehearsal dinner and a few other things... I don't know if I should even ask about it, or if I should just see if they offer or what....

MyNameIsNot

It is wrong to ask or expect anyone (besides you and your FI) to contribute to the wedding.

Never bring it up.  Asking for a gift of money is wrong.

charlsie26

don't expect the money.  If they offer, then great!  But if they do offer, expect that the money comes with strings attached, and they get a say in what to do with the money they are giving. 

trix1223

Welcome back Tide.  And welcome to Tidette. 

duckie1905

No one is required to pay for any part of your wedding, no matter how big or small.  Don't ask and don't even touch the topic unless they bring it up first.  They don't owe anything to the wedding just because their son is getting married.