Our wedding was supposed to be in October, but we postponed it until April. We had already sent STD's to everyone before we decided to postpone it. We just recently brought a new house together so thats why we changed the date. So last week I find out that I'm pregnant. The baby is due march 4. The wedding is April 2 and everything is already booked. He thinks we should save the money on the wedding because now we will have two kids plus the new mortgage but we have the money saved. He wants to have a small wedding with just our family. Im i selfish to still want my dream wedding or is he for wanting to uninvite people to the wedding.
Re: My fiance wants to uninvite people to the wedding.
I agree that if you had money set aside for the wedding, and your house bills, then follow through else elope, or just have a very small wedding.
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[QUOTE]Not sure what the etiquette is, but since you've only sent out save the date cards, and not the actual invitations, you could invite the folks that you want from your STD list.
Posted by kpwedkk[/QUOTE]
Nope, technically everyone who gets a std gets an invitation. THAT is proper ettiquite. Now if you decided to elope or have the most intimate of ceremonies (seriously ONLY your parents, sibblings, one best friend) then maybe it would be okay to let everyone know that you've changed your plans. But you can't really just arbitrarily cut people from your list but keep a bunch of others. That's a little rude.
I agree with PPs that only if you are cancelling the whole thing and having like 10 or 20 people tops at the ceremony with a "reception" being dinner at a restaurant, then you can't just cut your list from say 200 to 100. If you can afford your dream wedding, have it, by all means. If you can afford it, do it or there's a good chance you'll resent FI later. But if you really need the money to cover medical and family expenses, then cancel the entire thing and have a simple, intimate wedding.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: My fiance wants to uninvite people to the wedding. : <strong>Nope, technically everyone who gets a std gets an invitation. THAT is proper ettiquite. </strong> Now if you decided to elope or have the most intimate of ceremonies (seriously ONLY your parents, sibblings, one best friend) then maybe it would be okay to let everyone know that you've changed your plans. But you can't really just arbitrarily cut people from your list but keep a bunch of others. That's a little rude.
Posted by frenchy730[/QUOTE]
Don't uninvite people. A change of plans/circumstances is a different story. And like frenchy said, then you will need to find a way to let people know that.
If not, let the people you sent STD's to know that wedding plans have changed and with the new addition to your family, plans for the entire event may change as well. Don't feel like you HAVE to invite everyone or you can only have a small wedding. Invite the people that matter most to you. If you still want a rather large wedding but can't afford everyone you invited, I would say do it. It's your day. Don't worry about everyone else, they will get over it.