Kicking out a Bridesmaid

suz62984

For the zillionth time:

1-Consider your WP before you pick them. Maybe even wait a few months after you get engaged to ask?!?!
2- There is NO POLITE WAY to kick out a WP member
3- Yes, it will end your friendship

Anyone else feel like they read the same thing over and over?

bablingbrooke

Lol when I saw the title I thought, "Oh, crap, not another one!"

emilyinchile

Brooke, me too! But then I realized OP's name looked familiar and hoped for the best.

suz62984

haha-I knew i'd suck you guys in

stina93446

Ditto brooke. I was thinking "OMG, have you NOT checked out the board?!"

SarahPLiz

I was ready to type "see below"

gottahavashorti

Ditto Emily.  But even then, I was still scared.

CTGirl30

Hahahah. I was thinking, "Here we go again...."

lalap69

But my situation is SPECIAL!

Leah&Christian09

But I am a unique snowflake and she won't come to my BM meeting!  Waaaahhh!

aerinpegadrak

So they fixed the ampersand thing?

megk8oz

Oh, I got nervous for a moment, too. Even with the name, I was like "I know her, she was doing so well! Wtf happened?". Lol.

MyNameIsNot

Weird!  My computer crashed and it re-logged me in.  I guess I have both now.  Which should I use?

banana468

I love when my pearls of wisdom get re-posted.

nikkiarmstrong

I don't understand this entire thread. Apparently it's an inside joke. Looks like I will have to take my sadistic voyeurism of other people's drama to MTV's the Real World. 

katiebenes

Yes, it is a joke. a mean one. one that picks on brides freaking out... giving specific details aabout why the girl is no longer going to be in the court.
It picks on girls that are trying to find a situation specific solution, and as you can tell there are girls on the board that are just ready to jump all over the poor stressing brides that come here for help and end up getting ridicule

bablingbrooke

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_kicking-out-bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:020bec27-e618-4314-8145-041d791d9f30Post:6f4866c8-6bf3-458f-9e1c-c8c3cd75ce4c">Re: Kicking out a Bridesmaid</a>:
[QUOTE]Yes, it is a joke. a mean one. one that picks on brides freaking out... giving specific details aabout why the girl is no longer going to be in the court. It picks on girls that are trying to find a situation specific solution, and as you can tell there are girls on the board that are just ready to jump all over the poor stressing brides that come here for help and end up getting ridicule
Posted by katiebenes[/QUOTE]

<div>If you dislike the advice so much, no one's forcing you to read it.</div><div>
</div><div>99% of BM problems are friend problems and don't need to involve the wedding.  Since kicking out a BM almost NEVER reflects well on the bride (regardless of the reason), and since the question is asked 10 times a day with the same answer every. single. time, this seems more efficient :)  Even though every bride thinks she's a beautiful and unique snowflake and her situation is "totally different" than everyone else's.</div>

emilyinchile

The first post is not a joke. It is a clarification. The "inside joke" about Leah/MyNameIsNot is that Leah's old SN was not allowed after the changeover because it had an ampersand, but apparently now she can use it.

Katie, please remove panties from bunch before posting. 99% of situations are not unique, and this advice is in fact the best solution. Also, it's not a court. We are not 17, it's not homecoming.

suz62984

Katie, it wasn't a mean post it was a clarification like emily said. Stick around this board and you will begin to see what i'm talking about

Banana-I know...they were good pearls of wisdom though!

banana468

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_kicking-out-bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:020bec27-e618-4314-8145-041d791d9f30Post:6f4866c8-6bf3-458f-9e1c-c8c3cd75ce4c">Re: Kicking out a Bridesmaid</a>:
[QUOTE]Yes, it is a joke. a mean one. one that picks on brides freaking out... giving specific details aabout why the girl is no longer going to be in the court. It picks on girls that are trying to find a situation specific solution, and as you can tell there are girls on the board that are just ready to jump all over the poor stressing brides that come here for help and end up getting ridicule
Posted by katiebenes[/QUOTE]

It's tongue in cheek.

I think you might need to just lighten up a bit.  That's part of the thing here.  As a bride, freaking out over your bridal party just isn't worth it.

mags0607

Suz- I don't know you, but I like you after this post : ) Although, I was waiting to read some fun drama, and sadly there wasn't any (worthwhile). Plus, you look like one of my friends and it freaked me out a little when I looked at your pic.

MyNameIsNot

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_kicking-out-bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:020bec27-e618-4314-8145-041d791d9f30Post:6f4866c8-6bf3-458f-9e1c-c8c3cd75ce4c">Re: Kicking out a Bridesmaid</a>:
[QUOTE]Yes, it is a joke. a mean one. one that picks on brides freaking out... giving specific details aabout why the girl is no longer going to be in the court. It picks on girls that are trying to find a situation specific solution, and as you can tell there are girls on the board that are just ready to jump all over the poor stressing brides that come here for help and end up getting ridicule
Posted by katiebenes[/QUOTE]

Yes, it's a joke.  It picks on girls that are nasty enough to ruin friendships over a party.  Sadly, there are a lot of selfish people like that out there. 

megk8oz

I'm debating turning into a validation machine. Maybe I'm just tired of reading the same "Can I do this totally rude thing because I'm special-er than the other 50 billion brides that asked the exact same question?" everyday on every board (Kicking out BP members is bad, head tables w/o BP dates are hypocritical, having a cash bar because you're "above supporting alcoholisn" is a bs reason .... ).

I'm not invited to any of these weddings, I'm not any of these brides' friends or family members, I don't have to see these people at Christmas. Screw it, be a b!tch, it's no skin off my nose if everybody you know secretly (or not-so-secretly) thinks you suck.

Lol, Meg clearly needs a break.

nikkiarmstrong

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_kicking-out-bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:020bec27-e618-4314-8145-041d791d9f30Post:c2fbc9e0-a09e-4035-b6b8-281d9cd55887">Re: Kicking out a Bridesmaid</a>:
[QUOTE]Suz- I don't know you, but I like you after this post : ) Although, I was waiting to read some fun drama, and sadly there wasn't any (worthwhile). Plus, you look like one of my friends and it freaked me out a little when I looked at your pic.
Posted by mags0607[/QUOTE]

<div><span style="font-size:12px;" class="Apple-style-span">Exactly, Mags. That is what I meant by my post (that I was just coming on here for some entertaining drama) - thought that the sarcasm would seep out of the comparison to The Real World... I did not mean to start a knot-fight. Maybe I need to learn to use emoticons. </span></div><div><font size="3" class="Apple-style-span"><span style="font-size:12px;" class="Apple-style-span">
</span></font></div><div><font size="3" class="Apple-style-span"><span style="font-size:12px;" class="Apple-style-span">:)</span></font></div>

bablingbrooke

Katie: Chill.  Just chill.  

If we all stopped reading the posts no one would get advice from brides who have been there, done that.