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bablingbrooke

banana, she posted about a week ago that one of her BMs wasn't ordering the dress by the shop's drop dead date, so I'm assuming that's who she's referring to.

mbcdefg

If they all love the flip-flops, then that is another story. But if you are just asking for opinions, then my vote is no. Sorry. As for where to get size 13 dress shoes ... where do those girls normally get their dress shoes? If you just specify a color, then hopefully they can figure it out on their own. (I was just using strappy sandals as an example.) Zappos.com has nice shoes. I had a friend who was a very tall girl with large feet. She actually got most of her dress shoes at - no joke - a store for cross-dressers. And they actually looked very nice and feminine. Who knew?

bablingbrooke

And I'm going to defend dressy flip flops. You don't want sore feet at your wedding, and heels make me sore! I wore a pair of dressy flip flops for my wedding because I wanted to be comfortable, and I'm the only person at my wedding who wasn't shoeless by the end of the night. They were also the perfect height (I had to get the dress hemmed 4 months before the wedding before I got my shoes so I had to find 1 3/4" heels) and the name of the shoe was...Brooke.

Leah&Christian09

I have pics in my bio of my girls wearing all different hair and shoes. They mostly wore up do's, since it was summer in Georgia, but one girl wore hers down. They looked great, b/c they all looked their personal best and were comfortable. I had 4 girls of 3 different races. There was no way they were going to all look even remotely the same, no matter what. They all still look amazing, and they look great together and coordinated. For the girl that you are concerned with, make plans for everyone to get ready together. If she is bad at hair or make up, she'll probably ask one of the other girls to help her. The hard to find shoe size is just another reason to go with "pick any black shoe" and let them run with it. With such a hard to find size, these girls know where to shop, and they surely own or will buy a comfortable pair of black shoes that will work well.

stina93446

Look at the picture in my signature. No one has matching hair. No one has matching dresses. And if you go to my married bio, NO ONE has matching shoes. Please don't make them all match exactly. One of my girls has size 13 feet and there is not way that something that looks good on my sister's size 6 foot is going to look or feel good on my friend's foot. I paid for their hair and let them decide how to do it up. They're all adults. They can decide for themselves. I just wanted everyone to look and feel amazing.

stina93446

BTW sara, if you want it to look "similar" why not just have them all pick a similar base....(all updos, all half down,etc.)

sarabear23

yeah brooke, thats who im talking about. i tried to talk to her about the situation, and she blew me off. so im not demoting her, or kicking her out, or anything like that. she is an adult, and knows what she needs to do in order to be there, and if she doesnt its on her. if she has the dress on the day, thats awesome. if not, ill be happy to have her there as a guest.

sarabear23

stina, i like the way your girls look in the picture. i like the idea of giving them a guide as to how i would like them to do their hair. thanks!

trix1223

i like the idea of giving them a guide as to how i would like them to do their hair. thanks! ::face palm:: WHY WHY WHY WHY WHY do you feel a need to "guide" them about how their hair should be?

tiffspff

My mom offered to pay for my bridesmaids to get their hair done. I suggested updos, but said really it was their decision. Most of my girls found pictures of what they wanted beforehand. All their hair looked different, and it fit their personalities and hair style/texture. 3 of the girls had really curly hair, 1 had short hair, 1 had long thick hair, 1 long thin hair... They also all wore silver shoes. They had long dresses, no one saw their feet. And at the reception, most of them were barefoot. Except my sis-in-law who brought slippers so she could chase her 1.5 year old daughter around.

stina93446

That's not exactly what I meant Sara. I paid for my girls to get their hair done and they kept asking me "how do you want us to get our hair done?" and I would just reply, "You're all big girls, you know what looks best on you." One did all up, one did a side ponytail, one did curls with braids and the other did wavy messy curls. I guarantee that they all looked uniform still. What I meant was that if you want it to look uniform, tell them to get their hair done all up, but let them choose HOW.

stina93446

I understand that stage. I also paid for all my girls' hair and makeup. Sara, unless you are paying for it, you really can't dictate how they wear their hair. So if you want to have any say on it, (which you should really reconsider) you need to pay for it.

liashke

Just one quick comment re: flip-flops.  Dressy or not, I think it depends on the setting/style of the wedding.  But I personally can't wear them at all... that thong between the toes makes me limp within 10 minutes.  One of my BMs is the same way.  You probably know if your particular BMs can wear them comfortably, but it shouldn't be assumed.  I wasn't sure if the crystal sandals you mentioned were flip-flops.In general, I'm for BMs picking both hairstyles and shoes that are unique to them and what looks good and is comfortable for them.  I don't want them matchy-matchy.I would hope that if you pick a shoe color, they could find something even with 13W.  I love silver, but black would probably be easiest, and they might own some already (which would really cut back the shoe-shopping headache).As a BM, I'd planned to wear my hair long and loose (not confident in my ability to style), but I was the one who went to the salon with the bride that morning and it was the stylist who decided I was going to do no such thing. :>  So when she stuffed the bride under the dryer, she tackled me.  She gave me tips about styling my hair I never would have otherwise known.

lilcassers

if you have them in long dresses, let them get their own shoes.. hell, most of them will be off by the time they hit the dance floor. Just maybe require a certain color. It is really expensive being a bridesmaid and I was relieved when my friend let us choose our own shoes. As for the hair... everyone looks diff in certain styles. I think it's beautiful to see many different up-dos then all of the same. These are jsut my opinions. good luck!!