Height issues!

mags0607

My bridal party goes from 5 feet even to 5'11. I stand right at about 5'7 and probably won't have too much heel because I tend to fall and trip over my own two feet. The 5'11 bridesmaid will probably be the one in the tallest heels and she will probably have the sparkliest accessories she can find. She is a boutique owner, and a fashionista; and that's part of the reason I love her. But, you know what, I could care less, I will be the one on the alter marrying my best friend and she will be there with me, heels and all. Worrying about the height of the people standing up with you and not why they are standing up with you is just making things harder on yourself. And yes its being selfish. Plus I think if you were a reader of this particular post and not the writer, you might raise an eye at it too. Keep the day in perspective and you will avoid ALOT of headache.

SarahPLiz

This post remids me of the Bridezillas episode last night where the Bride picker her BMs because they were all heavier than her. She made them weigh in the day before and NOT wear spanx or other support undergarments so she would look the thinnest. SHe actually tried to force feed them so they would be heavier than her and chastized them for losing weight. That bride took low self-esteem to the max with that one, and it sounds like you too are sliding down that sippery slope. Your BM are not there to make you look good, slim, or tall. To put their comfort (or health in the case of the b-zilla), in jeopardy to make you feel better about yourself is just ludicris.

JennM31

Yes you are being selfish! You can be selfish about some things, but heights are out of your control. Yes you are asking too much. I will be the shortest of the wedding party. Even with my one sister being the same height as me, because i know that she will get sky high heels which is fine with me. The other girls are 5'2" and 6' and I told both of them to wear whatever heels they wanted. The 6' bridesmaid was debating about it because she didnt want to be taller than the groomsmen that would escort her, First i told her not to worry cause even if he was shorter i would want her in heels, but she lucks out cuz the groomsmen is 6'4"

caymans_christy

I think that pointing out that these girls are too tall is going to make them both self-conscious and uncomfortable during the wedding.  That will make for bad pictures.  Let them wear what they are most comfortable in...

bablingbrooke

Sarah: I saw that episode and refuse to believe that was real. For the sake of my own faith in humanity. I can't imagine anyone would have gone along with that without putting up a fight. I know I would have been out of that wedding faster than you can say "Bridezilla"--and I'm not even overweight. But then you see a post like this...

aerinpegadrak

FI was immensely relieved to learn that Bridezillas is staged.  He saw the Jamaican bride (supposedly living in NY) in a Starbucks in Long Beach.  He didn't want to admit to recognizing her, but a couple of girls did and were asking her a bunch of questions.  She wasn't wearing a wedding ring, didn't have an accent, and kept saying that she "doesn't watch her own work."

lilcassers

You don't selfish but think about this... why is being tall necessarily a good thing? I am small and 5'1" and I think it's much mroe adorable. I love being short (eva longoria is my body type) My tallest bridesmaid is 5'9" and i could careless. I will be the bride (and so will you) and all eyes will be on you anyways... plus most of your family won't even know all of your bridesmaids in most cases. If they want to look ridiculous in 3 inch heals and be as tall as the guys, let them lol

stina93446

I am 5'4" and my tallest bm and gm were both 6'3". Get over it. You're being ridiculous!

Lolo85

lol, some people sound upset by my post... but not everybody. I would think I would have been far more of a bridezilla if I had just went ahead with my idea instead of asking advice. I actually don't want to CONTROL any aspect of what they wear except the bridesmaid dress itself and I actually got all of their opinions on that.

What I ended up doing was picking out about 4 or 5 different pairs of shoes in the same color range and letting them pick their own out of that instead of just picking out 1 pair. My taller bridesmaids didn't want to wear extremely high heels anyway so they went with 2 1/2 inch heels. The issue really isn't if people will not notice I am the bride... I am pretty sure they will, it was more so just how the pictures would look, but it turns out that after reading some of the posts that said I was being selfish in a way that I really didn't say anything to any of the girls. BUT, just in case any of you were getting your panties in a wad I have NOT decided to control their heel size, nor their fingernail polish color or what color lipstick they wear. Thanks for the advice :-)

Lolo85

True... they love being tall and they should, however it turns out they don't necessarily wanna wear 3 or 4 inch heels. People seem to think it's a competition thing... ALL of my bridesmaids are really really pretty, they all look different and unique, they will just add to how beautiful the wedding is... it's really just about my pictures, nothing more and nothing less.

banana468

That's great if they're picking shorter shoes....but that should be THEIR choice and not yours.  That's all that the ladies here are trying to say.

Lolo85

Your right Banana, it is should be THEIR choice. I agree. I sort of think it depends on who your friends are... some girls would be highly offended and take it to heart (as I've read) and others, like my friends, are like Ok i don't care, cause they want to be in your wedding, you've pretty much let them do as they pleased in all other aspects and they can wear stilettos the other 364 days of the year. In fact my sister said she didn't want to be towering over everybody. Everybody feels differently about their height, some girls embrace it and will volunteer to add another 4 inches to it and more power to them and others embrace it and are content with not being any taller. They didn't go home and think I am anti-tall cause I'm a shorty and they don't think i'm hating on them. We are all getting sleep at night :-) I would not have stopped being their friends if they said NO, and I knew they wouldn't stop being mine if they did not want to appease. Thanks for the advice all.

banana468

That's great Lolo.

FWIW, I was a BM in a wedding a few months ago and the bride and I are about the same height.  In a long gown, I wouldn't have worn flats and I probably would have laughed if she didn't want me to be taller than her.