So my self conscious yet one of my closest friends in town was the last person I reluctantly asked to be in my party. I didnt even entertain the thought of having her as a bridesmaid just because I knew she wouldnt enjoy taking a billion pics.
All my other bridesmaids are over 5'6" and slender enough to fit nicely in any dress so I went dress shopping with this particular person for something flattering to her.
While at salons she gravitated toward anything with a broach or belt no matter how hideous. I kept reinforcing that my dress is simple and plain and Id want the bridesmaid dresses to compliment it.She also looked at more expensive dresses which I cautioned I wanted the cost to be affordable for all. She retorted that even tho its my day bridesmaids need to look nice too and price should not be a factor.
We finally found a dress that she found flattering it was a corsette type for $185, because I bought my dress there there's a $20 discount so $165 which is above what Ithought would be ideal but decided to make it up to them with gifts etc. She stated she would lose some weight before ordering (its late April wedding in Sept, dresses need to be ordered 8-10 wks ahead of time).
While chit chatting about weight loss programs she mentioned that almost $200 was way too much to spend on a dress and she's gonna look around at Ross or Burlington for something nice. Then added the only problem with sopping in these places is you always find things you dont need but cant resist buying.
Background info on her, she a spendthrift and buys anything that she rests her eyes on. Income is not an issue she's a nurse. She's disappointed me once before which worked out in my best interest but overall she's a great person and awesome friend.
However, at this point I REALLY want to releave her of the stress of being in my bridal party because I can see it going down hill really quickly from here.
How do I break it to her gently?