May need to kick out a bridesmaid...

tldh

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[QUOTE]Hmm, she deleted all her posts...
Posted by bablingbrooke[/QUOTE]

Should we take this as an admission that everyone except her was right then?

Manwaithiel

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: May need to kick out a bridesmaid... : <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e-i7rz9CsIM" rel="nofollow">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e-i7rz9CsIM</a>
Posted by aerinpegadrak[/QUOTE]

Yeah baby!

bablingbrooke

I'm not going to come down hard on you, but I do think you mischaracterize.  If you read her posts, she insulted everyone.  Multiple times.  I don't think she quite fits the bill of "innocent new poster who dared disagree."  She came out guns blazing, throwing out insults.  That's going to yield a response.

Manwaithiel

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[QUOTE]No you should take her deleting her post that  you guys have embaressed someone into deleting their posts so that you would please leave them alone...just because some people disagree with you or may be naive, young, thin-skinned, new to weddign stuff...does not mean you should harass and make fun of them.  I think it is great that you guys are stil on here because you have great advice to give but sometimes you should ease up and not team up together against them.  That's it...I know you guys will probably come down hard on me too but I had to get it out
Posted by pretzelgrrl[/QUOTE]

So saying "You stupid girls just don't understand me and you need to get a life!!" is a scared little poster? Sounds like a spoiled brat to me.

And quite frankly, your little post sounds like a passive aggressive bait to get some riled up responses.

No one made fun of her until she started with the stuff I said above. Go read her quoted posts. I know you want to defend her and I get where you're coming from, but I seriously doubt you read everything before you jumped to her defense.

lalap69

Pretzelgrrl, I think you need to re-read the quoted responses and posts with a fresh eye.  Everyone was gently pointing out to her that she had been mislead until she flipped and started attacking us, calling us stupid and saying we don't have lives.  At which point we responded in kind, while still not resorting to any name-calling.

If she's embarrased I hope it's because she realizes that she completely overreacted.

8daysaweek

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[QUOTE]I'd just like to say to most of you to get a life. Some of you made good points that I can take into consideration. As for the rest of you: 1. I said "we" narrowed down dress choices, not "I"...I didn't just choose dresses and say ok pay now 2. I agree, she can spend her money on whatever the hell she wants, but if you commit to something, then commit and don't wait over a year and until the deposit is due to complain 3. I discussed budget with the girls, and also told them to let me know if the price range was going to be an issue 4. I didn't promise anyone a dress under $100. I told them that I'd look at all the options, and the issue with the cheaper dresses was that they don't come in bigger sizes that one of my other girls could fit in. That wouldnt be fair to her. 5. the bridal shop suggested they be ordered now, since some of the girls are in a different city and we'll need to allow time for them pickup and alterations...so ya, it's a good time to order 6. also, the store just needs a damn deposit right now, not the entire thing 7. this wouldn't be happening a few weeks before Christmas if she hadn't delayed things until now 8. Finally, the dress itself is not the issue, the issue is that if she has put something like this off and acts like she could give a crap now, then it's just going to continue with other things...obviously she's not going to care as much as I do, but she's given us zero input for the dress style despite my efforts She's honestly acting like she doesn't want to be a part of the wedding, and if she doesn't then I know she's not going to bring it up (and if she does, it'll be like a month before the wedding). So if she doesn't, I want to discuss it with her, and I may have to let her go. <strong>Anyway, I suppose even if I wrote "my BM tried to stab me, and I'm considering kicking her out", some of you who have nothing better to say (or do) would still tell me that she didn't actually stab me and I'm overreacting, and how dare I judge her for trying to hurt me?</strong> Sleep tight
Posted by morningglow[/QUOTE]

Eh. From what I've seen so far, I actually wouldn't be terribly surprised if she had tried to stab you.