Thoughts on uneven wedding parties

cardoso84y

I have my two loves who have appointed themselves as Maid of Honor and Matron of Honor. Yeah I said it you appointed yaselves LMAO yeah I know, I know that's what best friends do. 

But I also have 3 more ladies in my life who I adore and would love them to be a part of my wedding....except my fiancee has one best friend and I could suggest two additions to his groomsmen but it's his wedding too and I don't want to really. 

So as is no additions it would be guys 2 and girls 3 with additions of my girls it would be guys 2 and girls 6. With the suggested 2 for him it would be 3 to 3 with out the girls I adore or 3 to 6 with the girls I adore. Wedding is a long ways away but just thinking about it. 

Your thoughts....traditions are meant to be broken we all know that and I also know that I can incorporate my three girls I adore in another way and not have them spend money on a bridesmaid dress. 

HobokensFury

I personally like even WPs for photos sake but I wouldn't think twice if someone had an uneven party.

MyNameIsNot

If you'll look at the introduction on this page, you'll see that uneven wedding parties are mentioned and encouraged on this board.  I had an uneven party, and I wouldn't have had it any other way.  People are so much more important than numbers or having pictures that look perfectly staged. 

You say the wedding is a long way off.  If that's true, it's best to wait a bit before asking anyone until you are within a year of the wedding.  Friendships change and you may end up not as close to someone, or you may meet someone new and want to ask them without having them feel like a second thought.  

cardoso84y

When you look into your wedding album on your 25th anniversary, you'll see the loving faces of friends.  You won't calculate bride vs groom ratios and count heads to see how many folks are in the photo.

I do greatly appreciate that final comment. Thanks.

aerinpegadrak

Our wedding party was uneven.  When I brought up the idea of it being uneven, DH actually really liked it.  Since his brother bailed, if we'd kept my brother on his side, it would have been even, but we liked having the uneven sides, so we moved him to my side (well, that, and he was being a huge drama queen).

Even sides are one of those things that are nice if they work out, but not worth fighting for, so if it's a matter of excluding people you really want or dredging up warm bodies to fill slots, just go with what you've got.  What matters is being surrounded by those you love.

rlavach

Our wedding party was uneven also. Everyone looked fabulous.

littleluckypenny

My wedding party was uneven.  My marriage is still valid and the world hasn't ended because of it. 

Maggie0829

Uneven wedding party right here!  Everyone looked great and the pics looked amazing, so unlike what a PP said, having a even WP will not make your pictures look better.

skantrowitz

Four bridesmaids and three groomsmen in ours. Was going to be four, but one couldn't make it. Pictures look great and it wasn't a big deal.

mcda04

There's nothing wrong with uneven. I have 5 girls and he has 7 guys.   They'll be walking in alone instead of couples so it's gonna be fine.

clairemt

I wanted to do this so badly! My mom and fiancé absolutely shut it down (I also heard "no boys on the girl's side!" when I wanted my best friend who's a guy to stand up with me and not my fiancé). So we had to ask "filler people" instead of just having those people that mean the most to us. I think the pictures will look a lot less like your prom photos if the wedding party is uneven.