My Matron of Honor likes to dabble in graphic design and, as a gift, she wanted to do our wedding invites. My mother was also interested in doing my invites (being even less skilled than my MOH in graphic design) but eventually conceded the task to my MOH. She worked on a sample for about a month and finally she sent me a sample which, I thought, with a few tweaks, could look very sleek, modern and stylish. When I showed my mom her design she said that it "didn't go" with my "wedding style" and that it was "ugly". She promptly sent me her design which, while pretty, I thought was just too busy. When I told my mom my feelings she played it off but I could tell she was hurt. How do I make this better? I mean, I would love to save the money on invites but if it is going to cause such drama I might as well just off and buy some myself. Thoughts?
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Do you like the MOH's design? If you do, I would go with that, and tell your mom that while you value her opinion, you like the invites and don't think everything has to match. I agree with PP that she sounds very interested in helping with the wedding, so perhaps having her help with something else will make her feel better.
If you aren't crazy about MOHs design and feel this will just cause more unnecessary drama, then perhaps politely decline both hers and your mother's designs and go in a different direction totally with your invitations.
Don't entertain Mom's competitiion.
I agree with pps that mom could be given some other task. I'd make it something that she can feel important doing but isn't really all that big a deal, like escort cards or an insert with hotel information or something.
Our paper also did not match. Our wedding stuff was pretty well coordinated (invites, menus, table numbers,etc.) but our programs and my shower invites were DIY projects that were just slightly different. I don't really think anyone noticed, or cared if they did.