Woman Groomsman

MLBarker80

Hello all!

My FI is having his sister as a groomswoman and I'm super excited about it.  The problem is finding a tux that fits her well.  She's about 5'4" and weighs about 130 and I want to make sure that she looks feminine.  Has anyone had any experience with Men's Warehouse and providing a woman's tux.  We would like them just to provide the shirt, jacket, vest and tie and then we would buy her a long black skirt (instead of pants).  Any suggestions would be appreciated!

bablingbrooke

Couldn't she wear a black dress that complements the men's tuxes?  Or is she really wanting to wear a tux?

mbcdefg

Does she want to wear this? She doesn't have to wear a tuxedo just because she's one of the groom's attendants ... she could wear a black version of your bridesmaids' dresses, or just any black dress that she chooses.

Or she could just wear a nice black woman's suit, maybe from Ann Taylor or something like. Personally, I think either a dress or a woman's suit would look MUCH nicer than a tuxedo jacket with a skirt. Maybe I'm not picturing it right, but the image I have in my head of this outfit seems very jumbled and like it won't coordinate well or look nice.

But, if this is what she wants to wear, then talk to MW or another formalwear shop and ask what they can do for her. We're not using MW and I have never looked into woman's tuxedos, so I don't have any advice on that end, sorry. I've heard of women wearnig feminine tuxes but I've never seen it done in real life. Hopefully it works out!

MLBarker80

She absolutely wants to wear a tux.  And I've seen it at a wedding we attended in May.  I'm not requiring that she wear a tux and FI and I gave her a choice...but she insisted on a tux and I'm completely cool with that but I want her to look like a woman, not like a woman in drag.  (If that makes any sense at all).

caseyandlizzie

I have heard good things about Mens Wearhouse working with women, so if I were you I would check there. GL!

bablingbrooke

Would she be okay in a woman's suit?  I don't have the first idea of where to find a woman's tux so I'm sorry I can't be more helpful

There's a same-sex weddings board under "Special Topic Wedding Boards" on the left of the page, they may have some ideas and suggestions?  A friend was once a BM in a lesbian wedding and one of the women getting married wore a tux, so must exist.

aerinpegadrak

I've heard pretty good things about Men's Wearhouse working with women. 

This post has some really good advice about women finding appropriate men's wear.  I think it applies no matter her sexual preferences, if she's really gung-ho about the tux.

http://offbeatbride.com/2009/07/butch-wedding-suits

mbcdefg

I was getting this vibe at first, which IMO doesn't look good: http://www.buyatux.com/pages/wait_tux_wo.html

But I found other pics where it looks nice ... just looks like the key is getting something that fits her body really well and is tailored properly:

http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=2z68784&s=2

http://www.contactmusic.com/pics/m/GLAAD_media_awards_show_270408/ellen_degeneres_5126109.jpg

There was a SS-board Knottie a while back whose wife got a custom-made white suit for their wedding, and I thought it looked awesome. (http://i8.photobucket.com/albums/a15/Kendylann/kbio0009454_0009454-R1-064-30A.jpg) Maybe your FSIL would be interested in a custom outfit? She could get quotes from seamstresses and compare that to the rental fees and see if a custom outfit would be worth it (especially if she wants to keep it for future events).