How to incorporate friends of the opposite sex

shunt22f

Both my fiance and myself have a very good friend of the opposite sex. We want to stick to the traditional all female/all male bridal party but would each like to include our friend into the wedding someone. Any idea how to incorporate these two?

aerinpegadrak

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[QUOTE]Both my fiance and myself have a very good friend of the opposite sex. We want to stick to the traditional all female/all male bridal party but would each like to include our friend into the wedding someone. Any idea how to incorporate these two?
Posted by shunt22f[/QUOTE]

Why do you want the gender-split wedding party?

EK2013

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[QUOTE]Both my fiance and myself have a very good friend of the opposite sex. We want to stick to the traditional all female/all male bridal party but would each like to include our friend into the wedding someone. Any idea how to incorporate these two?
Posted by shunt22f[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I agree with PP: Why is maintaining the gender split important to you?</div><div>
</div><div>If these are "bridal-party level" friendships, I'd urge you each to invite the good friends to stand up on the side of the friend. If they're not "bridal-party level"--just "very good"--the title "guest" is still inclusive.</div>

StephBeanWed61502

I think you're being ridiculous not just including them in your respective parties, and to he!l with dated gender traditions, but then again, my brother was my MOH, so I'm biased.

With that said, another way to incorporate people into your wedding (without giving them a lame job better left to paid help than an actual friend, like "guest book attendant") is by asking them to do readings during the ceremony.  

calliopeia2013

Agree with PPs.  If you want to honor them, why should their sex matter?  FWIW, reader is the only other job other than the wedding party that's actually an honor.  But seriously, same-sex wedding parties are one tradition not worth maintaining.