My fiance and I are thinking that we will both have four people stand up for us (four bridesmaids, including the maid of honor) and four groomsmen (including the best man). I have two older brothers and no sisters, so my bridesmaids are a few of my friends. My fiance has a lot of brothers...three older half-brothers (who are all married and have kids) and then one younger brother. He is only having his younger brother stand up in the wedding and then three of his friends. So, he's already got the people that he wants. Here's my thing--I need one more bridesmaid and have been debating between asking my fiance's sister and my soon-to-be sister-in-law. I don't see my fiance's sister much because she lives in Illinois and I live in Wisconsin...I see my brother's fiance more often and am going to be in their wedding in a couple of months. Upon telling my fiance and his mom that I thought I might ask his sister to be in the wedding, they both wondered why I would since her and I aren't that close. So, I don't have pressure to ask her....which has me leaning toward asking my brother's fiance, then. However, is it weird or rude to have my brother's fiance in the wedding but not have my brothers as groomsmen? If we were to have them stand up, I would have to find two other bridemaids. I have a lot of acquaintances but my closest friends are already bridesmaids, so I'm not sure who else I would want to ask.
I can't see my brothers being upset, especially because they are both kind of laid back and lazy
but, I was thinking that we could ask them to be ushers. I'm just hoping to get some opinions on what you think of this idea. Thanks!