Dollar Dance Alternatives...as if.

emilykathleen511

I think there was drama regarding this person and this particular post before, but she has posted the exact. same. post. on FIVE different boards. So, um, if anyone else feels that that is spamming, feel free to report her. Or just respond with the exact. same. response. on each of the posts. That would work too.

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-theme-boards_fall-weddings_dollar-dance-ideas

emilykathleen511

for posterity in case she is banned: <div>In Response to <a style="text-decoration:none;font-weight:normal;color:#1f1f1f;" href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-theme-boards_fall-weddings_dollar-dance-ideas?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Theme%20BoardsForum:346Discussion:e8a2a323-ceee-44c8-b0f9-842e4cf3b27ePost:e16990bc-babb-436c-8f95-42cf7f85ac24">Dollar Dance ideas</a>:
[QUOTE]In case you don't know what the Dollar Dance is this is what it is: guests pay $1 (or more if they choose) to dance with either the bride or groom for about 30 seconds; it's a chance for the couple to get some more money to use for whatever (honeymoon, house, savings, etc.). Both of my sisters had a Dollar Dance at their weddings, and I would love to do that at our wedding. There's a problem though, my FI doesn't like dancing in front of people unless he's drunk because of his anxiety, so he REALLY doesn't want to do a Dollar Dance; I finally got him convinced that we should have a first dance together.   The other night we were talking about the Dollar Dance on the phone, and he said we could do it since I want to; it's not just my wedding though.  That's why I'm trying to think of something that is the same concept, but doesn't have anything to do with dancing. One sister suggested that they could pay $1 to limbo with us, or let them pay $1 to get their pic taken with us. We are going to have a designated place outside the barn for them to get their pic taken for the guestbook, so I'm not sure I want to have to pay $1 to get a pic taken with us. I've also had the suggestion to do a tug of war or something else that would pit the two of us against each other.  Do any of you have suggestions for Dollar Dance alternatives? Thank you for any ideas.
Posted by farmgirl8806[/QUOTE]</div>

blackfire5th

HAHHAHAHAAHAHHAAHA!

Basically, what is another way that we can get guests to give us more money?

We didn't have a dollar dance, but I did have one older gentleman give me $20 after he danced with me, so I guess I still had a dollar dance.  

blackfire5th

<span style="color:#000000;font-family:'Times New Roman';line-height:normal;font-size:medium;" class="Apple-style-span"><div style="font-family:Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:10px;background-color:initial;background-image:none;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;color:#1f1f1f;font:normal normal normal 11px/14px Arial, sans-serif;text-align:left;">In Response to <a style="text-decoration:none;font-weight:normal;color:#1f1f1f;" href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-theme-boards_fall-weddings_dollar-dance-ideas?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Theme%20BoardsForum:346Discussion:e8a2a323-ceee-44c8-b0f9-842e4cf3b27ePost:ae2178e2-1368-4bee-a06e-47911c814e32">Re: Dollar Dance ideas</a>:
[QUOTE]My FI and I are thinking about doing a "money tree."  Neither one of us like to dance and we are doing a fall/outdoor theme.  We are going to have the place cards hanging on a group of tree branches with clothes pins.  As guests take their place cards they will leave a dollar bill in its place.  We are considering putting up a sign to let guests know that we are doing the "money tree" instead of the dollar dance.   Just an idea!! 
Posted by jmbusch130[/QUOTE]
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</div><div style="font-family:Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:10px;background-color:initial;background-image:none;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;color:#1f1f1f;font:normal normal normal 11px/14px Arial, sans-serif;text-align:left;">I can understand the dollar dance for a small chance to talk with guests, but just plain asking for money....</div></span>

jagore08

I had responded to this girl a while ago.  Is this post really old or is she reposting it months later?  Either way, she's ridiculous.

jagore08

Okay, I guess it wasn't months ago but it feels like it.  I love when people ask for advice but really just want validation. 

CTGirl30

Jagore - I swear I read this exact. same. post a few weeks back as well....deja vu??   Ugh.   if I can gather the energy later maybe I can reply about how rude it is to charge your guests at your party for the priviledge of having a photo taken with you. Because that makes the Dollar Dance more klassy in comparison.

nhelene

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_dollar-dance-alternativesas?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:91346e13-4f37-4e37-b7de-ef18f4a1289fPost:352920da-3073-432a-8a46-724812d46042">Re: Dollar Dance Alternatives...as if.</a>:
[QUOTE]HAHHAHAHAAHAHHAAHA! Basically, what is another way that we can get guests to give us more money? We didn't have a dollar dance, but I did have one older gentleman give me $20 after he danced with me, so I guess I still had a dollar dance.  
Posted by blackfire5th[/QUOTE]

I'm going to try to do a 'well-wishes' dance where people can write a note to the B&G as their 'fee' to dance.  The more I think about it, the more I like it. I'm excited to see what people will write.

megk8oz

Is she really still posting this? I remember like 2 or 3 weeks ago she asked this like 7 times and then got p!ssed that people were just copy and pasting there responses from board to board ... I think at one point she outright said "I posting everywhere so I could hear from different people!".

I think I can honestly say I hate this girl, lol.

baystateapple

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_dollar-dance-alternativesas?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:91346e13-4f37-4e37-b7de-ef18f4a1289fPost:773642ed-c62f-4319-aa90-5bc64f6c433c">Re: Dollar Dance Alternatives...as if.</a>:
[QUOTE]Is she really still posting this? I remember like 2 or 3 weeks ago she asked this like 7 times and then got p!ssed that people were just copy and pasting there responses from board to board ... I think at one point she outright said "I posting everywhere so I could hear from different people!". I think I can honestly say I hate this girl, lol.
Posted by megk8oz[/QUOTE]

She really did that?  What a tool.

She should just do what Miss Manners advises in this situation -- put a hat upside down on the floor with a sign that says "Donations."  Why beat around the bush if that's all that you're looking for?  Bonus: it lets everyone see what you're really like.  Win-win for everyone!

caseyandlizzie

Is this the same girl that wanted people to pay for taking a photo with her? If so, that girl was ridiculous!

CTGirl30

Looks she cut and pasted the same exact question from when she originally asked it on March 8th -

http://forums.theknot.com/default.aspx?path=http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2010-weddings_dollar-dance-suggestions

So weird. She's asked several other times about it, too.

caseyandlizzie

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_dollar-dance-alternativesas?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:91346e13-4f37-4e37-b7de-ef18f4a1289fPost:7c875380-7004-43c8-8417-2a87db57c407">Re: Dollar Dance Alternatives...as if.</a>:
[QUOTE]Looks she cut and pasted the same exact question from when she originally asked it on March 8th - <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/default.aspx?path=http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2010-weddings_dollar-dance-suggestions" rel="nofollow">http://forums.theknot.com/default.aspx?path=http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2010-weddings_dollar-dance-suggestions</a> So weird. She's asked several other times about it, too.
Posted by CTGirl30[/QUOTE]

Isn't that the definition of insanity....doing the same things, yet expecting different results?

baystateapple

CaseyandLizzie, your dress is to die for!  I love it!

caseyandlizzie

thanks!  the store I bought it from does replicas and they told me it was a vera wang, but for the life of me I can't find a picture of the dress anywhere, not that it matters, but I'm curious.

CTGirl30

Yes, I'm pretty sure that is indeed the definition of insanity. Or perhaps she has amnesia.

skippylouwho

Honest, when I read these posts about dollar dances all I can think of is:  HOOKER.

Can you tell I hate dollar dances, I'm not being too obvious am I?

caseyandlizzie

They don't do them around here so I didn't understand what one was until i come on tk, but still, it just sounds like an awful idea.

CTGirl30

Well, technically one IS dancing for dollars....okay, I've got to stop commenting on this. It's taking up too much of my mental energy this morning.

jagore08

I had been to a wedding that had a dd once and it was awkward.  

emilyinchile

My photog/BM and I actually had a heated conversation about this the other day in which I managed to hurt her feelings. She'd grown up with them and felt like I was basically calling her friends trash for doing them. I'd never heard of them before TK, and I too make the stripper association plus just think it's weird and rude to expect guests to give you money at your wedding even if it's optional. I still don't think that there's an objectively good argument for why to do them, but she made me realize that for some people it really is tradition just like I'm sure in other cultures registering for gifts is pretty horrible, but here it's totally fine.

That said, I judge the hell out of anyone who wants to add one if it's not traditional for that area, and I judge this person for just taking the money part and ditching the tradition.

aerinpegadrak

I'm all for the wish dance.  My thing about it is, if the dance is really heavily traditional in your area, some people will have factored that money into your wedding gift.  (The dance originated when guests would just walk to the village square for the wedding, and would give no other gift.)  So it's rude to ask for money, but it's also rude to refuse a gift... 

That's why I like the wish dance.  People can still choose to give money, but they don't have to feel obligated to do so, or left out if they choose not to.  That's what we were going to do before we nixed the dance floor.

emilyinchile

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_dollar-dance-alternativesas?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:91346e13-4f37-4e37-b7de-ef18f4a1289fPost:b6b7dc32-bed3-424b-aea8-79689a580922">Re: Dollar Dance Alternatives...as if.</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm all for the wish dance.  My thing about it is, if the dance is really heavily traditional in your area, some people will have factored that money into your wedding gift.
Posted by aerinpegadrak[/QUOTE]

This was a big part of my friend's argument, that people will have bought you a slightly cheaper gift expecting to pass over a few dollars during the dance. I still think it's weird, but I'm trying to be more understanding of people who live in areas where it's common.