My friend got upset

hworcester

This is my first post , so please forgive me for being green.  It seems that some people forgot the message here...

I agree with the ladies who said to let it go and not give an explanation.  I also like the suggestion of telling her that you look forward to seeing her at the wedding and changing the subject.  If she doesn't get over it, it's her loss, not yours.

I had a friend ask me as soon as I told her about my engagement if she was in the wedding.  I felt very put on the spot, but I did explain to her that I was only having a MOH and no BMs.  Luckily, she understood.  If I was having BMs and didn't choose her, I'm sure it would be a different story.

miaka51

Yeah I feel you.  The moment word spreads that you are getting married the friends start stacking themselves in order of importance in their minds... Sigh.  I have a really good friend from like 8th grade who didn't make the cut because in the last several years we have hung out all of twice-ish.  To make matters worse, she picked me as her MOH about 4 years ago when we were still close, although she called off the engagement and I never did anything but wedding dress shopping with her (with the intention of me making her dress - i bought so much fabric and trim and spent so much time making undergarments all for nothing... sigh).  And I think I got that position because she was fighting with her other friends... she doesn't exactly know yet, but I'm sure it will cause issues.  I feel bad, but I already added THREE of my other friends to the wedding party because I felt guilty excluding them... making my party a total of 6 on each side!  YIKES!  I wanted a small party, but between friends and relatives pressuring me to just include them, I have.  So now I am putting my foot down... I do have a lot of best friends, but all of them are from different areas of my life- childhood, high school, college, work, etc etc etc... Its really hard to choose, but choose you must.  and remember that you have to do what is best for your wedding.  Its a little selfish, but ultimately, it has to be that way or your whole guest list will be standing at the altar with you!