So i know that most of you say not to ask people to be in your bridal party untill like 9 months before the wedding. However that seems odd to me but it could be bc i already knew who i wanted in my bp. So my Fi pretty much lets me do whatever i want when it comes to planning our wedding. Knowing this my MOH whom is my best friend has been helping me out with looking for locations, even though im not getting married for a yr places book fast. So we went and looked at a few places and two were booked one wasnt all three places were really nice. But my MOH really liked one of the places that was booked and told the manager of the place that i would change my date. Which i said i most likely wouldnt but was willing to hear him out anyways. Now the Church i want to get married in without seeing the inside yet, she tells me i cant get married in bc i have to be a member. Im very willing to become a member permitted i like the inside of the church which im going to sunday. She then continues to tell me that if i dont get a move on it then i'm going to have to change my date. I love her dearly but she stresses me out more so than i already am. Also we we went to look at dresses for her and the one she liked i didnt like at all. However i said try it on maybe it looks different on than on the hanger. I'm not having all my girls wear the same dresses, i just asked that they are black and that i approve of them first. Her knowing this said well im buying it so i don't care if you like it or not its not all about you. I think im being pretty laid back by letting them pick their dresses as long as they are black and i like them as well. Her acting like this almost makes me want to have everybody wear the same dress and i dont really want to include her in the planning bc shes kinda controlling. Now i may be looking at this all wrong but my FI and I picked the date because its already our annivesary and we dont plan on changing it. But my MOH texts me and says your not gonna have a very good wedding if you dont get a move on it. I just booked my dj and im discussing pricing with several different places and my parents. Not to mention she told my cousin whom shes friends with that i was getting married before i even had the chance too.
Which is another issue i have is my one sister has told my whole family including my other sisters that i was engaged before i had the chance to tell them. And wants complete control over everything wedding related. I understand that shes super excited about it but she shows me ideas she has and things she likes and if i dont like them she gets very upset at me. Not to mention she has been inviting her friends already. Im still working on my guest list granted i have a yr but i like to have most things done ahead of time. And being on a budget its really hard with her just randomly inviting all of her friends as well. Which i told her no unless shes paying for since most places charge by person. I have talked to my parents about it and they think i should let her have who she wants there bc i know them too and its just not very nice of me. However my parents arent paying for my wedding either granted they said they would pay $700 to whatever i would like it to go towards but the bulk of everything is being paid for by me and my FI. So i'm more just venting but if anybody has any suggestions on how to handle both my sister and MOH that would be super helpful.. Also the girls are fully aware that they will be paying for their dresses.