mia bridesmaids

bripratt2

i didnt realize this was a place for brides to bash others unwarranted...I would love to delete this entire post but alas i dont know how....super sorry i said wedding instead of vow renewal i didnt know that it would pain anyone so deeply that they would feel the need to bash me....thanks guys youre awesome

banana468

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[QUOTE]I've been having a lot of problems with my bridesmaids and its really made wedding planning more of a chore yhan a happy thing. Onr of them decided to inform me the day before my justice of the peace wedding thay she doesn't intend on having a relationship with me and that she didn't really want to come. The other made me her maid of honor which was awesome but then turned into drama as soon as hwr other bridesmaids arrived from out of town. I had dropped everything I was doing for.my own wedding to help throw hers together and I tried my best to handle the other two bridesids and bring eberyone together for the wedding day. I planned out her btidal shower and bachelorette party and the othet teo kind of had their own agenda so evrything I had planned got yhrown to yhe side. As for wedding errands I was completely excluded. Then the funal straw was when the two brodesmaids attackes my fiancee and accused him of posting mean things about them.on facebook. The brise believed them with no proof and blamed everything on me...needless to say it hurt...a lot. Needless to say it started a huge fight between us and I haven't heard from her since. Im assuming she's decided she can't supposrt me anymore as a bridesmaid but I really feel like she should atleast aclnowledge the issue and confront me about the wedding. Whays the bridal party ettiwuette here? Im at a loss for what to do at tgia point I haven't eveb been able to procees with my "real wedding" plans we've already had a justice of yhe peave the whole thing has left me really sad. <strong>Does antome know how one could deal with this issue reguarding the wedding planning or yhe bridesmaids?</strong>
Posted by bripratt2[/QUOTE]

I sure do.  You're already married so cancel the notion that you need a "real wedding".   You had one with the justice of the peace.    You may be planning a celebration, vow renewal, blessing or a big party but this isn't your wedding.

Frankly, I think it's rather foolish that you asked bridesmaids to be in an event that isn't real.   At this point, stop asking them to do things for an event that isn't for nearly 6 months based on the date in your bio. 

MyNameIsNot

Why do you have bridesmaids if you are already married?  That's probably the root of your problem.  

bripratt2

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[QUOTE]In Response to mia bridesmaids : I sure do.  You're already married so cancel the notion that you need a "real wedding".   You had one with the justice of the peace.    You may be planning a celebration, vow renewal, blessing or a big party but this isn't your wedding. Frankly, I think it's rather foolish that you asked bridesmaids to be in an event that isn't real.   At this point, stop asking them to do things for an event that isn't for nearly 6 months based on the date in your bio. 
Posted by banana468[/QUOTE]



Just a little background information I am a marine corps spouse and this kinf of thing is actually really common wuth deployments and pcsing and everything really getting in the way of having an actual ceremony we got married early because many reasons militaty couples do and also for personal reasons involving my daughter. But we want a real wedding we want the big party with everyone and his dress blues and my white dress. I don't see anything wrong woth that but then again I've grown up around the military community. My bridesmaids also understood this, the second bridesmaid I mebtiond is actually a marine spouse as well so thia is all very familuar to her. I havebt asked them for anything really just yo come and support me no dresses needed or flowerd or anything I just wanted the peopl who loved me most to witness me actually getting married again yhis is normal to me I hadn't realized it that anyone would dind it so outlandish. Hobesrly I just wanted to be reassured that I could do it on my own

bripratt2

Yes....

MyNameIsNot

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: mia bridesmaids : Just a little background information I am a marine corps spouse and this kinf of thing is actually really common wuth deployments and pcsing and everything really getting in the way of having an actual ceremony we got married early because many reasons militaty couples do and also for personal reasons involving my daughter. But w<strong>e want a real wedding</strong> we want the big party with everyone and his dress blues and my white dress. I don't see anything wrong woth that but then again I've grown up around the military community. My bridesmaids also understood this, the second bridesmaid I mebtiond is actually a marine spouse as well so thia is all very familuar to her. I havebt asked them for anything really just yo come and support me no dresses needed or flowerd or anything I just wanted the peopl who loved me most to witness me actually getting married again yhis is normal to me I hadn't realized it that anyone would dind it so outlandish. Hobesrly I just wanted to be reassured that I could do it on my own
Posted by bripratt2[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>You had a real wedding.  That was when you got married.  What you are planning now is called a fake wedding, because you won't get married at it.  </div><div>
</div><div>Don't delude yourself.  Getting married privately and then having fake weddings is not the norm or acceptable, no matter what you do for a living or where you live.  

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bripratt2

Look I get that its different to everyone but I didn't think that it was grouds for bashing I probably sgould have poated this in the forum for military brides even though thr issue I intended addreasing had nothing to do with the type of wedding ot what kind og bride I am

bripratt2

Aaaand my phone is determined to make me sound ignorant...but if you're unfamiliar with being married to a marine I really don't think its rrally warranted to even have an opinion about how I get married

bripratt2

And if someone could kindly point me in the direction of where I can go to delete this since no ones had anything supportive or even remotely not bitchy to say

[Deleted User]

Being the spouse of someone in the military does not give you a free pass to have a fake redo wedding. You're not going to get any support here for your tacky and rude idea. What you're having is a vow renewal. Call it whatever you want but that's what it is.

Viczaesar

With all the typos I got lost in the original post, but regarding your later claim that it's okay to be having a do over wedding because you are married to a marine I call BS on that. Go try out that line on the military brides board.

Viczaesar

Also, it is possible to type accurately and legibly on the phone if you take the time to do so.

bripratt2

Pleeeeease someone tell me how I can delete this post from my phone its really upsetting that im getting bashed this much over a difference of word choice this post was about bridesmaids not the style of wedding but I mean if any of you have actually been in my shoes I would gladly take into considetation what yoube said....im sorry to have hurt your feelings so much girls?

msuprincess04

I'm sorry you feel like you are being bashed. You'll see a lot of people on TheKnot find there's a distinct difference between a vow renewal (your situation) and a wedding. And, though it sounds like it's just a difference of word choice, many see it as much more than that. A vow renewal doesn't typically have all the extra stuff that comes with a wedding. It doesn't have a shower, bachellorette party (since you are already married), or bridesmaids. But, it doesn't sound like you are actually doing that. You said you wanted your friends to be there as you said your vows in front of your friends and family. Everyone already knows you are married so it's not a lie and you aren't trying to fake anything. That's a vow renewal. And if you want to wear a beautiful white dress to your vow renewal, you should. And I'm sure he'll look amazing in his dress blues.

That said, while you went above and beyond for your friend when she was getting married by planning events and trying to organize people. You need to understand that you did this on your own as a gift to the bride. There is not quid-pro-qo for these things. I know it sucks because you expected her to be there for your vow renewal, but apparently your relationship with her as changed and that won't happen.

As for your friendships with these people, it got really confusing. It sounds like there wer accusations, and other rumors and in the end one women was honest and said she was no longer interested in being your friend. That hurs, I know, I've been there. But, you will move past it. You will meet new people. At the moment you may want to focus on you, your spouse, and your daughter. You have good things in your life though this women might not be.

ceceibson

I wouldn't have any interest at all in being a bridesmaid for someone who is already married.  

Peledreamsofrain

1.)  I post almost exclusively on my phone.  I do have occasional spelling errors, but not to the point of incoherency because I take the time to delete and retype typos.

2.) Nobody is attacking you.  They are telling you that you have a bad idea that is potentially rude and uncomfortable to your loved ones.  You apparently have chosen to interpret anything but petting as an attack.  Which is a shame and limits self discovery.

3.) What you are planning is incredibly uncomfortable and rude to your loved ones.  Not to mention it's blatantly a gift/attention grab.  Nobody is fooled.

Peledreamsofrain

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[QUOTE]Pele, are you on your phone now?  You have paragraphs.
Posted by Edie Bee[/QUOTE]

No, I wanted parenthesis and numbers for this particular post, which my phone absolutely won't do.  I can get paragraphs normally on my phone though, which is nice.  Just no special characters.  Weird stuff.

bripratt2

Oooooooo you! You got me!

Peledreamsofrain

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: mia bridesmaids : Interestingly enough, I've found that when I post on my phone, then check it from the computer, all my spacing is in there correctly.  It's only when viewing mobile posts ON TK Mobile site that I don't see paragraphs.  So, like if Pele posts from her phone, it won't show up with paragraphs when I look at it on my phone, but when I log onto the computer, it will.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

Thanks for posting this Stage.  I've always wondered about that since I get the same experience.  I just didn't know if the same spacing phenomenon happened to other people's phones, or (as I had hoped, but apparently isn't the case) if my posts reverted to no paragraphs there too.  Frustrating, but good info.

BubblyBride75

My brother is a Marine, active duty, his last deployment one of his best friends was telling him about how he was planning on proposing to his gf when they got back. The next day he was killed by an IED. She will hear second hand that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with her. If the reason you had a JOP wedding was because your husband was going to a combat zone and you didn't have time to plan out a wedding for the very little time he has off during predeployment build up, I don't blame you for wanting the JOP wedding and party later (please note that I didn't say "real wedding"). I am so glad my brother and SIL got married before that deployment. She knew, without a doubt, that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with her. She got all of the information from FRO and if anything happened to either of them the other would be the first to know. To me this is much different than marrying for financial reasons (health insurance, buying a house together, etc.) That being said, my brother and SIL have no plans of any kind of vow renewal or anything. They have realized that there are far more important things to spend money on than a big party. But they are also far more mature than how you are presenting yourself.

Your BP issues? All of you need to grow up. A lot. You sound like middle school girls with your petty drama. And the drama you start on here makes it pretty clear that you are just as bad as all your friends. So quit complaining about your bm's when you are just as immature as they are. People don't all of a sudden change to being horrible people once they are asked to be in a WP. You are immature and enjoy drama so you became friends with people who are immature and love drama.