I am having an issue with one of my bridesmaids that I am not sure how to solve. Since I am having a destination wedding, I am waiting until the weekend of the wedding to have a pseudo-bachelorette party because it is the only time when all of my bridesmaids will be in the same location.
That being said, I am also inviting other female family members to come hang out with us in the suite and have drinks after my bridesmaids and I get back from dinner. All along I have invisioned that night as just a laid-back time for me to chill out with my close friends and say hi to other women who are there for the wedding.
One of my bridemaids is insisting that she is going to buy penis straws, etc. for that night but that she will wait to get them out until after my mom goes to bed at least. I straight up told her that I do not want all of that stuff, it is not my style, nor does it fit with the theme of the day. (We are going to a museum in the afternoon and then to a nice dinner before heading back to the suite). Her response was "too bad."
I have not been a bridezilla at all through this wedding planning process and I am upset by her lack of respect for what is supposed to be an event for me. I did not want to confront her about the issue in the first place, but then decided that I had to tell her straight up that I don't want her to buy all that stuff. That was when she responded "too bad" so now I'm not sure what to do? Any advice?