I'm getting married in May 2011. One of my bridesmaids(I have 2 bms and my cousin is my MOH) has been really nasty the last few weeks. The dress I chose for them came to a total of $210.00 without the alterations. My shop gave them 10% off as well as capping the alterations at $80 instead of the $95 that is their normal fee. Everyone said they loved the dress and were good on price. Then the shop called in June to say that the girls needed to be measured and order/put a deposit on the dress before July 1st b/c the designer was discontinuing the dress. Everyone did this. The last few weeks this particular BM (who has been my best friend since 10th grade) has been saying nasty remarks such as "Your bridal shower is going to be at chucky cheese or a bagged lunch on someones lawn b/c I don't have the $ for this sh*t" (The sh*t being my wedding). I was actually so upset I didn't even want a bridal shower b/c she made me feel so awful. Then I got a call on Friday, that the dresses are in and that the girls have from now until October 10th to pay the balance that would be sending them all a letter stating that. Her balance is $100 dollars. When I relayed the message to her she started bad mouthing the wedding and saying "She doesn't even want to think about it, b/c it makes her mad and that its not easy to save up $100 in a month". When I suggested that I would get it and she could pay me back later she said "she is not a leech and I don't need your pity money" So i suggested that maybe she put aside $20 a week and she laughed in my face and said that was "easier said then done" and that she was done with this topic. I just don't know what to say or do, and needed a vent. My parents and fiancee say she is just jealous with sour grapes, but I don't feel as though I can put up with this for another 9 months. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated.