Me and my fiance are having trouble with the sticky situation of bridesmaids and groomsmen. We want to keep it simple and stay away from drama. Don't want to hurt anyones feelings or have anyone feel left out. I know that a lot of people feel like it's an "honor" to be part of a wedding party - I honestly think it's a burden on them, and don't want to shove people in the wedding just for the sake of having them there. We have it down to 2 couples, his brother and my sister as best man/maid of honor and then our best friends for the second couple. But, he has a few more guy friends and I have one other girlfriend that might be offended that they were not asked to be a part of the party. Truth is, if we invite one more, we gotta invite 2-3 more which would bring us up to 5 couples - way to many in my opinion.
What are some ways of avoiding that awkward conversation/explaining why or even showing them that they are important to us but we really just want to keep the bridal party to a minimum? Could we maybe get them gifts, or invite them to the rehearsal dinner? I'm torn. I hate having to "rank" our friends, but we honestly just want to keep it small. Not to mention, it'll save us some money if we can stick everyone in one limo as opposed to 2, less bouquets, less dress drama, don't have to worry about them being on time, etc..