So, I have 2 BMs and I have choosen dresses for them that are super cute, flattering and inexpensive ($50) that they can wear again to other events. My problem is that I have mentioned to them several times that we need to order their dresses (which they will be paying for) but they keep dodging it and putting it off. Now the wedding is less than 4 months away. How can I tackfully bring it up again without sounding like I am badgering or being demanding?
Re: BM's not ordering dresses
[QUOTE]So, I have 2 BMs and I have choosen dresses for them that are super cute, flattering and inexpensive ($50) that they can wear again to other events. My problem is that I have mentioned to them several times that we need to order their dresses (which they will be paying for) but they keep dodging it and putting it off. Now the wedding is less than 4 months away. How can I tackfully bring it up again without sounding like I am badgering or being demanding?
Posted by staceyc196[/QUOTE]<p> </p><p>You can't TACTFULLY nag somebody. Send them one more email with the final date the dresses can be ordered by and that's all you can do. If they don't order the dresses, they've removed themselves from the wedding party. You can still get married without bridesmaids.</p>
June 1, 2013 - finally making it official!
How about this, CALL your BMs and tell them that the dress HAS to be ordered by X date, and if they don't order them, there is a good chance the dresses will not arrive in time for the wedding.
Before you make the phone calls though, find out what the real drop dead date is. Depending on where you are ordering from, that could be another 1-2 months. Once you make this set of phone calls, let it go. If they don't order them, then you can have a conversation with them that they will be honored guest at the wedding, but because they didn't ordere their dress on time, they won't be able to stand with you at the wedding.
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[QUOTE]How about this, <strong>CALL</strong> your BMs and tell them that the dress HAS to be ordered by X date, and if they don't order them, there is a good chance the dresses will not arrive in time for the wedding. Before you make the phone calls though, find out what the real drop dead date is. Depending on where you are ordering from, that could be another 1-2 months. Once you make this set of phone calls, let it go. If they don't order them, then you can have a conversation with them that they will be honored guest at the wedding, but because they didn't ordere their dress on time, they won't be able to stand with you at the wedding.
Posted by cmgilpin[/QUOTE]
All of this, especially the bolded part. CALL them. Do not text or email. They can easily be ignored or not noticed. Actually CALL them up and talk to them. This way you know that they received your message.
[QUOTE]I'm having this problem. I have two BM who have until this Saturday. If they don't order, I'm down to 4 bridesmaids as opposed to six. Oh well, we shall see what happens.
Posted by Shannon1401[/QUOTE]
That's just ridiculous. Your wedding isn't until June 1, they still have time to order a dress. If they don't have the dress by the actual wedding they've removed themselves, but it's ridiculous to arbitrarily kick them out 3.5 months before the wedding for not having ordered their dresses yet. Treat them like adults and let them be responsible for getting their own clothing.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: BM's not ordering dresses :
That's just ridiculous. Your wedding isn't until June 1, they still have time to order a dress. If they don't have the dress by the actual wedding they've removed themselves, but it's ridiculous to arbitrarily kick them out 3.5 months before the wedding for not having ordered their dresses yet. Treat them like adults and let them be responsible for getting their own clothing.
Posted by Viczaesar[/QUOTE]
It might be a date the bridal store put in place, not the bride herself.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: BM's not ordering dresses :
It might be a date the bridal store put in place, not the bride herself.
Posted by Gustafson28[/QUOTE]
Doesn't matter.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: BM's not ordering dresses : It might be a date the bridal store put in place, not the bride herself.
Posted by Gustafson28[/QUOTE]
<div>It doesn't matter. </div><div>
</div><div>You still don't kick someone out for failing to order a dress months before the wedding. There are always other stores that sell the dress, floor samples, online retailers, ebay, secondhand sellers, etc. The BM will be responsible for scrambling after the dress, but that isn't the bride's problem. </div>
Hi, everyone,I know one good site: JenJenHouse.com. I recently bought one dress from them.
It arrived on time as promised and seriously is amazing! I paid 100.00 for this dress and it looks like I paid 500 for it! So pleased with this purchase!
Also, recently they have an activity on their FB. You could go and have a look.
You could also see the reviews on their website first and then decide.