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My SIL posted a Facebook status about wanting to get a tattoo someday.  My younger sister has thus come up with the brilliant idea that we should all get matching tattoos while we're in Vegas for the wedding.  My older sister also thinks it's a good idea, and I think my mom does as well.

Naturally, I have an intense phobia of needles and a rather low pain threshhold.  I've toyed with the idea of getting a tattoo, but I don't think I would handle it very well.  So I'm hoping they aren't really serious about this.  I'd hate to be the only one not to play along, but I also don't want to be limping down the aisle.
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    Even if they are serious about it, you can just stand firm on your point and say that you'll watch them get theirs, but that you're not interested in getting one.
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    Yeah, I'd let them have the "fun" without me.
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    Oh Larissa, I was talking about your soap to one of my friends today and she may want to buy some....I'll have to get the info for that.
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    Ugh, I wouldn't but for a totally different reason. I hate having stuff written on me. I never liked getting my faced painted as a child (but I would anyway and pretend that I liked it because I didn't want to be a freak about it). I also never wrote on my hand in junior high, even when everyone was doing it. I hate having ink of any kind on me. Ick.
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    Nifty, Stina!

    Emily, that' sucks that you felt forced to get painted!  It's supposed to be fun, and that's my one big rule - I will paint a human of any age, as long as that human wants to be painted.

    I can't speak for the cat in my sig, because I didn't ask him first.

    (and H hates being painted, so I don't)
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    I don't think anyone should feel pressured into something as permanent as a tattoo...I'll agree with PPs and say if you don't feel comfy having one done, don't.  Watch them have theirs done (and be moral support...I know I couldn't have sat through mine without my friends there!)
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    As a big "fear-er of needles", I can totally understand not wanting to get one. There's a lot of things I will admit I might be able to be peer-pressured into, but something that will cause me pain and last "forever and ever" will never make it on that list.

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_oh-dear?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:f6064d9d-af66-4b15-a6ce-30788d0f6401Post:eb472b74-c9fe-45c3-8c49-48d5114d8388">Re: Oh dear...</a>:
    [QUOTE]Nifty, Stina! Emily, that' sucks that you felt forced to get painted!  It's supposed to be fun, and that's my one big rule - I will paint a human of any age, as long as that human wants to be painted. I can't speak for the cat in my sig, because I didn't ask him first. (and H hates  being painted, so I don't)
    Posted by LarissaAnn[/QUOTE]

    <div>Well, I sort of liked the fact that I knew other people probably saw it positively, but I really just didn't like it on me.</div><div>
    </div><div>I actually painted faces once at Relay for Life, and that was fun. Totally didn't phase me to paint <em>other</em> people, lol.  <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" /></div>
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    Yeah, it's different holding the brush.  H, for the record, has 4 tattoos, used to actually work at a tattoo parlor, and I can't paint him!  He's more squirmy and ticklish than most 3-year-olds.  I gave up.  LOL
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    Agreed, I wouldn't do it without actually wanting it.

    And if you don't have a pain tolerance...I wouldn't suggest getting one. FI got one and he's not good with pain, he squeezed my hand so hard I had to take off my engagement ring because he was digging it into me. I had to leave it off for a week and there was a nice imbedding in my finger the whole time.
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    I'm hoping that their inner magpies will kick in and they'll forget all about it, but we're only two weeks out, so there's not a lot of time for that.  There's a henna place in that weird little commercial mall mid-Strip, maybe I'll get something hennaed to match whatever they get if they go through with it.  

    I still feel kind of weird about it, especially because my sisters have always been closer to each other than I have to them, and it's kind of distressing to have yet another bonding moment that I can't participate in.  But I appreciate the moral support.
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    Let me preface this by saying that I have a tattoo, so clearly I am not against them. But this sounds like a BAD idea. I waited for over a year to get mine because you can't really change your mind, and you want to be 100% sure. I'm also terrified of needles, but this meant a lot to me, so I worked up the courage and did it. If it has a good memory behind it then maybe even if in the future they don't like the design itself they'll still be happy to have gotten them because of the experience that it represents, but I sure as hell wouldn't get a tattoo that I'd thought about for only 2 weeks. If you're at all unsure, definitely don't do it, even though I can see how it would suck to miss out on the group aspect of it.

    Also, you are getting married so soon!
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    Aerin, this is something that will be on you FOREVER! I wouldn't do it unless I really wanted to! It's one thing to pressure you to go to dinner somewhere  but its another thing to pressure you to get a permanent tattoo.

    On another note...if you decide to get one the softer spots on the body without bone near the surface will hurt less. It will feel more like a sunburn.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_oh-dear?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:f6064d9d-af66-4b15-a6ce-30788d0f6401Post:b4e2f151-d0f9-4c89-9f0b-788a86d388ad">Oh dear...</a>:
    [QUOTE]My SIL posted a Facebook status about wanting to get a tattoo someday.  My younger sister has thus come up with the brilliant idea that we should all get matching tattoos while we're in Vegas for the wedding.  My older sister also thinks it's a good idea, and I think my mom does as well. Naturally, I have an intense phobia of needles and a rather low pain threshhold.  I've toyed with the idea of getting a tattoo, but I don't think I would handle it very well.  So I'm hoping they aren't really serious about this. <strong><em> I'd hate to be the only one not to play along, but I also don't want to be limping down the aisle.</em></strong>
    Posted by aerinpegadrak[/QUOTE]

    <font color="#800080"><font color="#800080">Why would you be limping down the aisle?</font> Just curious. </font>
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    [QUOTE] FI got one and he's not good with pain, he squeezed my hand so hard I had to take off my engagement ring because he was digging it into me. I had to leave it off for a week and there was a nice imbedding in my finger the whole time.
    Posted by nightmare_of_beauty[/QUOTE]

    Geez! My FI has a freakish tolerance for pain. He got a shoulder tattoo, which took 5+ hours, and feel asleep three times during it. He thinks it feels good.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Oh dear... : Geez! My FI has a freakish tolerance for pain. He got a shoulder tattoo, which took 5+ hours, and feel asleep three times during it. He thinks it feels good.
    Posted by suz62984[/QUOTE]

    Your FI is crazy, but some people are just like that I've heard. I will say that for mine (which took like 20 minutes) the parts that were on muscle/fat really didn't hurt at all, but the parts that were right on the bone definitely felt like what it was - someone stabbing my pain receptor nerves over and over again.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_oh-dear?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:f6064d9d-af66-4b15-a6ce-30788d0f6401Post:0c6448ef-aefe-4abe-8bc7-493abd2e1300">Re: Oh dear...</a>:
    [QUOTE]Let me preface this by saying that I have a tattoo, so clearly I am not against them. But this sounds like a BAD idea. I waited for over a year to get mine because you can't really change your mind, and you want to be 100% sure. I'm also terrified of needles, but this meant a lot to me, so I worked up the courage and did it. If it has a good memory behind it then maybe even if in the future they don't like the design itself they'll still be happy to have gotten them because of the experience that it represents, but I sure as hell wouldn't get a tattoo that I'd thought about for only 2 weeks. If you're at all unsure, definitely don't do it, even though I can see how it would suck to miss out on the group aspect of it. Also, you are getting married so soon!
    Posted by emilyinchile[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>This!  </div><div>
    </div><div>I got my tattoo on impulse, and didn't give myself much time to think about what I wanted.  I now will have a butterfly on my shoulder for the rest of my life.  I certainly don't hate it, but I should have taken the time to choose something a lot more meaningful and special to me.  </div><div>
    </div><div>If you decided you wanted a tattoo, I'd still say you should take longer than 2 weeks to choose something you want, and not just get something that matches what your sisters are getting.  

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    I think a tatoo is something awfully permanent to get because of peer pressure.  But then, I'm boring and have no tats or unusual piercings.
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