My fiancée and I consider ourselves spiritual but not religious - however, we are trying to honor both Catholic (my side) and Jewish (his side) wedding traditions in our ceremony, because they're important to our parents. (Neither of our parents are particularly religious - but they're very attached to the wedding traditions they grew up with.)
Unfortunately, some of these traditions are clashing and causing conflicts - wondering how other brides having an interfaith wedding are handling this?
In a Jewish wedding, it's traditional for the groom and the bride to walk down the aisle accompanied by both of their parents; my fiancée will be walking with his mom and dad. I think that's a lovely tradition and I asked my parents if they'd like to both 'give me away' too - since they've both raised me and I'm close to both of them?
However, my dad is very attached to the Christian tradition of just the father walking the bride down the aisle, and my mom says she doesn't want to 'steal his thunder.'
I'm concerned that, if my fiancée is accompanied by both his parents, but I'm just accompanied by my dad - my mom will look and feel very left out of the ceremony. My mom has voiced that she's concerned about this - but she still says she doesn't want to walk with me, worrying it would hurt my dad's feelings.
I'm wondering if there are other ways that I could honor my mom and give her a special role in the procession as the mother of the bride, even if my parents want to stick to their father-only tradition?
Also my parents are adamant about the tradition / taboo of the groom not seeing the bride before the ceremony. However, in the Jewish tradition, the couple signs the Ketubah in their wedding attire before the ceremony. Also, my fiancée and I want to take pictures before the ceremony, since we don't think there will be enough time during cocktail hour. My parents are really upset about this - but I don't see any way around it, given the time limitations imposed by our venue.
Does anyone have any creative solutions on how to handle stuff like this?
I really, really appreciate any feedback!
Thanks so much everyone! And good luck with your own wedding planning!