When my FI and first started dating we were both non-practicing. More or less. He is a non-practicing Methodist and I was a Jew who would go to High Holy Day services and the occasional Shabbat service. This changed when I finished college and became more active in my shul. My FI understands that my religion is important to me and has already agreed to help me raise our future children Jewish but did not plan to convert. We have been taking an Intorduction to Judaism class so that he will be able to fully understand what he was agreeing to.
Now, because my rabbis will not officiate an interfaith ceremony we had been planning to ask a family friend who was publicly ordained in California to officiate in a non-denominational ceremony. Recently FI mentioned to me that he has been thinking of converting before we get married. He has not spoken to the rabbi teaching the class about it yet or taken any steps in the process to make his decision.
The selfish part of me is frustrated because this has stalled any planning I had started (venue might change to our shul, might not, would need more time for guests to arrive so they do not miss a tish or ketubah signing, etc.). Another part of me understands that this is a very personal decision and there is no way that I want to push him into deciding something (either way) that he might regret later on just because I want to go dress shopping now. Since we had hoped to set a date for summer or winter 2012 I am getting a little nervous about him making a decision at all. How can I talk to him about this without being too much of a nudge?