We're having a reform ceremony and we're still deciding if this is something to incorporate or not. Does it matter that I will not be wearing a veil over my face down the aisle?
I'm looking for a more modern interpretation. What I've read discusses modesty and the bride going "blind" to the groom so he can care for her. That doesnt really appeal to me. Any thoughts on this? Thanks!
Re: talk to me about the bedekken
This and the wearing of the veil are beautiful traditions and I've never been to a jewish wedding (reform included) where the bride didn't have her face covered, but, I know that some don't and, if you don't believe in it and aren't planning on wearing a veil down the aisle, I see no reason to have a bedeken.
The Knot lost my info, but, I've been married since 6/19/05!
The bedekin, or the ceremonial veiling of the bride, took place immediate after the ketubah signing. The custom originates from the biblical narrative in which Jacob mistakenly married his true love’s sister. One interpretation of the bedekin is that it is a commitment to love one another for each other’s qualities that are hidden beneath the surface.
[QUOTE] This and the wearing of the veil are beautiful traditions and I've never been to a jewish wedding (reform included) where the bride didn't have her face covered, but, I know that some don't and, if you don't believe in it and aren't planning on wearing a veil down the aisle, I see no reason to have a bedeken.
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Funny. I don't think I've ever been to a reform wedding where the bride DID cover her face. Personally, I find that tradition really disturbing. OP, I've read that same general reason as the one for veiling the face.
And as for the actual veil- I'm not sure if you can just pick it up after it's put down, you'll have to ask your rabbi about that. I wore a single tiered veil with heavy beading along the edges. I had my seamstress attach a piece of netting (via velcro) over the front- it looked seamless.
We made it more egalitarian by having me help him into his kittle right before he lowered the veil. I'd made the kittle myself, and so helped him into it and tied the belt for him. That way we were each helping the other to prepare for the chuppah ceremony. Finishing the other's dressing, as it were.
We used the Rachel and Leah explination, and my DH looked me over (and even spun me around) before lowering the viel. It was a nice combination of silly and serious.
I had a long veil with a blusher, both netting that were easy to see through, so made walking in not a problem.
Bedeken: The Veiling of the Bride
The bedeken is the veiling of the bride. After the ketubah is signed, Joshua lowers the veil over Jessica’s face to acknowledge that he is marrying his beloved, unlike the patriarch Jacob who married Leah, rather than his true love, Rachel.
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[QUOTE]Any new thoughts out there? I just read about the bedeken, and want one, but it will be a logistical nightmare, and I want more to think about as I consider whether it's worth it.
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<div>How will it be a logistical nightmare? Are you having a ketubah signing before the ceremony? </div>