I'm soliciting opinions on this from a variety of folks, so I thought I'd throw this out here and see what people think:
I'm leaning towards wearing a tichel (and just covering my hair in general) post-wedding (which is in two weeks- ahhhhh!).
I used to be Orthodox, which would have made things simple- of course I would cover! But, I'm Reform now. And I've mostly come to peace with that- it was the right decision for me and I've found a great community. But most of my friends who are married are those Orthodox friends I had pre-transition (thankfully, they were all super-understanding and there were no break-ups). So, I look at them, and I spend time with them, and I find myself really sad that I won't be wearing tichels with them. So, I thought to myself- I'm Reform now- I have a choice. I could totally do this, it's not disallowed or anything.
But, here's my concern: is it appropriation? I'm no longer Orthodox, and while I may dress frum still, I get uncomfortable when I realize that people might still see me as Orthodox because it's a culture I no longer belong to- again, with the appropriation.
So, I've been talking to friends, Orthodox and not, and my Rabbi (and my old Rabbi), and most of them seem uninterested in the conversation- like it's just not a big deal. But it seems to be one to me, which is why I keep asking people. I suppose I'm mostly worried about offending folks and misrepresenting myself.
Anyway, sorry it got super long, but basically I was just curious what you all might think. I'll make the decision on my own, because it is very personal, but I still want to hear other perspectives.
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