You all know the drill

AnnaKay12

I'm on the same page as Dodgers and sprtychick on this one... I would be pissed with my "friends" if they joked like that.

It's funny that you brought up the 3 months' salary "rule" though, as I just literally read in a magazine today that the ad agency for DeBeers came up with that "rule" back in the 30s as a way to sell pricier engagement rings.

Sorry, but I think that "rule" is a little silly. Just my honest opinion.

sprtychick10

@Anna, I agree with the 3 months salary thing. I know for a fact FI didn't spend 3 months salary on the ring. He spent less.

midgetthemighty

I agree Anna, people should spend as much as they are comfortable with and able to spend as a responsible adult. I'm pretty sure FI spent less than that too and I couldn't be happier with mine.

Sarah0335

I did get a band already that I really like.  I feel like the band overshadows my ring now though, which makes me like my ring even less.

I knew that the 3 month salray rule was made up by DeBeers.  They actually made up the whole premice of a diamond engagement ring (useless info leftover from college).  But to me, I was almost hurt by the lack of thought and effort he put into it.  Example, he admited to buying it on his lunch break.

The part about my friends came out wrong.  They are not trying to offend me.  They know how disappointed I was and I like to try and make light of things.  They are good friends with good intentions.

I have been keeping this in for too long.  I am going to have to talk to him about it.  I tell him everything.  Not talking about this for over 6 months has been eating me up.  I have been waiting for my feelings to change, but they aren't.

skybrie

I confess that I am not one of those girls who always wanted to be married and have babies - and I feel my FI's family judges me for it.  He is the oldest of 4 children (he is 30 I am 28) and the middle 2 are in a "baby race" right now and they keep asking me when we are going to have them.... even through we have said we want to wait awhile even after we are married. 

My FI was the Godfather at his neice's christening this weekend and whenever I held her somebody would say "you look so good with a baby in your lap!"

julbgordo

@Sarah - If he put more effort/meaning in to the ring and came out with one that wasn't quit "you" would it be as much of an issue?  Maybe you can let him know if you were hurt by a lack of effort and talk about upgrading or getting an anniversary ring for your 5 years anniversary.  If you dislike the e-ring that much, I would just wear the wedding band after the ceremony.

zeke17us

I dont have anything to vent about or confess but I wanted to through it out there that studies prove that the cleanest public stalls are the ones closest to the door hehe! Just FYI 

TeamMoriarty

@sarah- i think you may be suprised by your FI's receptiveness to talking about it.  FI and I have talked a lot about e-rings, mine and in general- and he said to me that it would be more important to him that i liked my ring than keeping a ring just because he picked it out.  i am a very sentimental person and i love that FI spent so much time looking for the perfect ring and would never have imagined trading it in for anything- but to him that wouldn't be a big issue.  maybe this would be the case with your FI if you brought it up.

and i got a lot of "cute!" when people saw my ring.  it is a 1/4 carat brilliant solitare.  I love it and the diamond is truly brillaint, but it is smaller than i origianlly wanted.  FI wanted to get me a bigger stone, but we are both students and ALL of our money goes to school and paying credit cards.  he felt bad about even spending what he did without consulting me (we have joint finances and also separate accounts so i didn't know he had bought it), but i would much rather be engaged than be holding out for a bigger ring! and who knows, maybe i will get a bigger stone someday and turn this one into a necklace or something- especially knowing it's not that big of a deal to him.

skybrie

Oh!  I also confess that I recently found out my ex is getting married this year (same day as my engagement party it turns out) and I have seceretly stalked the June 2011 board to see if she was on here. 

TeamMoriarty

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[QUOTE]Oh!  I also confess that I recently found out my ex is getting married this year (same day as my engagement party it turns out) and I have seceretly stalked the June 2011 board to see if she was on here. 
Posted by skybrie[/QUOTE]

too funny!

diamondx423

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[QUOTE]Oh!  I also confess that I recently found out my ex is getting married this year (same day as my engagement party it turns out) and I have seceretly stalked the June 2011 board to see if she was on here. 
Posted by skybrie[/QUOTE]

haha! i would probably do the same thing.

DodgersBride

I guess I don't get making light of a situation that is really bothering you and could potentially hurt your FI's feelings at the same time.

Cassandra999

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[QUOTE]this is really random... i judge people who use the middle bathroom stall. our bathroom nearest my lab has 3 stalls, and i generally want to be no where near anyone else doing their business. its one thing to use the middle if the two ends are taken, but its so awkward to take the middle when the others are open.
Posted by diamondx423[/QUOTE]


Totally agree.  I think of this every time i go in the bathroom at work.  We have 5 or 6 stalls.  I always try to avoid being next to someone, others don't.

michellep1

I have a WTF - A couple months ago my first serious boyfriend tried to friend FI on facebook.  They've met once before, but only briefly at a party and it was awkward and its not like they are friends.  FI ignored it.  Then last night, he tried to friend FI again!  FI decided to just accept it, since obviously he isn't giving up.

It doesn't make much sense to me since he's in a committed relationship as well (they're actually expecting a little girl soon).  This morning I noticed that the ex-bf wrote "congrats" on FI's wall.  Very strange and definitely made me say WTF.

chrmun

Thanks ladies!  I feel better.
I guess I should've done an intro!  For the record, here it is:

Hi, I'm Chris.  My fiance is named Eric.  I'm the moustache and he's the red one.
Our date is June, 23rd 2012 at Russian River Vineyards in Forestville, CA

Purple&7

I confess I'm still nervous to go dress shopping.

DrPB2b13

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[QUOTE]Thanks ladies!  I feel better. I guess I should've done an intro!  For the record, here it is: Hi, I'm Chris.  My fiance is named Eric.  I'm the moustache and he's the red one. Our date is June, 23rd 2012 at Russian River Vineyards in Forestville, CA
Posted by chrmun[/QUOTE]

Congratulations!  You two make a very handsome couple!

DrPB2b13

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[QUOTE]Oh!  I also confess that I recently found out my ex is getting married this year (same day as my engagement party it turns out) and I have seceretly stalked the June 2011 board to see if she was on here. 
Posted by skybrie[/QUOTE]

I stalked my ex's local board a few times to see if his (now ex) fiancee was posting.  I'm pretty sure she dumped his sorry ass when he decided to suddenly move across the country, though!

niecie_jeff

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[QUOTE]On the bathroom train I judge people who can't flush a fucking toilet. Seriously it does not take that much time or energy to flush a toilet. Also people who don't it and don't care that someone is going to walk in right after the. I will say something to them and let it be known to everyone in the bathroom what just happen.
Posted by DodgersBride[/QUOTE]

I do that too! And I will let people know. Or those people who don't wash their hands (or only run their hands under the water for like .5 second...really????) I will let people know how gross that is.

DrPB2b13

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: You all know the drill : I do that too! And I will let people know. Or those people who don't wash their hands (or only run their hands under the water for like .5 second...really????) I will let people know how gross that is.
Posted by niecie_jeff[/QUOTE]

That's an awful lot of people to judge - something like 40% of women and 60% of men don't wash their hands after using a public restroom.  It may be more, I may be recalling these figures rather conservatively!

niecie_jeff

I know, but its so gross! There are people that I work with who do that then go eat...

Rethany

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: You all know the drill : That's an awful lot of people to judge - something like 40% of women and 60% of men don't wash their hands after using a public restroom.  It may be more, I may be recalling these figures rather conservatively!
Posted by DrPB2b13[/QUOTE]

I just threw up in my mouth a little bit.

Danidawn20

As for the bathroom train, I confess I too hate it when people do not flush a toliet. It bugs me. I also like to use the middle stall just because I have this fear a pregnant lady will need to really use the bathroom and get mad at me if I'm in the one closest to the door. 

I confess I HATE  (sorry for using all caps) it when my mom comments about my wieght. I work out, I eat halthy, but to her it is never good enough. when I bring it up to her she says she is just watching out for me, but there are nicer ways to do that. Besides, I'm not that big, I'm a size 4/6. But since my mom is a size 2 and my sister is a 0 I'm the fat one in the family. 

Melissa603

UGH I need to need get a real job and get out of temp land. Being a temp SUCKS. I hate being a temp and busting my butt for what seems like nothing. I've been applying for everything I can but I'm getting nowhere. 

I'm also sick of hearing "Why don't you and FI just do a courthouse marriage and then having the wedding later?" Really? REALLY? We aren't even going there...

Tiffany6912

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[QUOTE]  FI and I just sat on the couch watching tv.  We really weren't worried at all.  I felt like the storms were no more than any other bad storm we have. This might come to bite me in the butt one day, but I feel like I know when it is time to get in the basement and when it is safe to sit on the couch.
Posted by spiffycoolbeans[/QUOTE]
Please be careful!

Three years ago, it was partly cloudy, barely a breeze, average temperature for the time of year.  When the tornado sirens started to go off, we were on the second floor of the house.  The weather changed so quickly, before we could even get downstairs to the basement door, a tornado tore through.  We were lucky, it only ripped up the roofing.  Trees ended up in the two houses that it hit before ours.  Luckily, the people in the first house were already in their basement where the kids' playroom is and no one was home in the second.

MMRoberts11

I also find it gross when people don't wash their hands after using the bathroom.  I work at a medical school and I see future doctors do this often and I think how gross it is.

I confess that I'm very happy the post-doc in my lab will be getting yelled at on Tuesday.  I've been picking up a lot of his slack lately and our boss finally realized today how much he's been slacking.  To make it better, I didn't have to talk to my boss about most of it either, he discovered it walking around the lab and seeing empty solution bottles, dishes in the sink, and a number of other things.

WTF is in the water?  I know so many people who are pregnant right now that it's crazy.

Carrie1208

I confess that I judge some of the customers that come into my bank (only some I love most of our customers). But we're a very busy branch, I have a full staff and all my tellers are always working hard but we still have a line all day long. People will complain, yell, treat my staff horrible because they had to wait. Learn how to use the atm, get direct deposit or set up online banking if you don't want to wait in line. And if they don't want to use any of those options they shouldn't complain about the wait. I also judge the customers who throw a fit that the bank "stole their money" because they wrote checks without having money in the account and we charged an overdraft fee. Check registers are your friend, learn to use them.

I've had a very long 11 hour day at work today so I'm cranky. Most days I love my job and customers. Today is not one of those days.

DrPB2b13

In Response to Re: You all know the drill:
[QUOTEI also judge the customers who throw a fit that the bank "stole their money" because they wrote checks without having money in the account and we charged an overdraft fee.
Posted by Carrie1208[/QUOTE]

I was at the bank a couple of weeks ago to deposit a check, and an irate woman came in, furious because the bank had "lost" her money.  She took her frustrations out on a teller, who (bless her heart) responded kindly though neutrally.  The woman then proceeded to keep claiming the bank had "lost" $200, until she finally admitted they were overdraft fees.  And when the teller tried to direct her to the right person to call, the woman got really upset because the person who handles overdraft refunds "didn't like" her.  Gosh, I can't imagine why!

midgetthemighty

@Sarah – In that case, you need to talk to your FI about it or it will continue to eat you up. Six months of keeping something in hoping the feelings will go away is long enough IMO. When he admitted to purchasing it on his lunch break, did he say anything else? For example, did he allude to researching online for the perfect ring? If he were able to “explain” his choice better, would you feel better? Keep us updated as to what happens.

@Sky – Some people just assume that everyone who gets married wants the white picket fence with the cute little house and 2.5 kids. Don’t let them get to you. I’m sure this will happen to us when FSIL has her baby in July. FI and I are both excited to be an aunt/uncle but nowhere near ready to be parents yet. People should respect this, but some people have trouble with the whole waiting thing.

And with the ex bf thing, I recently found out that my ex-bf’s twin brother is engaged and getting married this year. He always tried to break us apart (which I should have let him do much sooner) and the girl he’s engaged to is someone he broke up with but she wouldn’t go away. Seems fishy to me. I’ve searched to see if they have a wedding website on the knot. I feel like a terrible person for doing that.

@Michelle – That’s just kinda odd. My most recent ex isn’t even friends with me on facebook. He thought I’d come crawling back to him after he broke up with me. So when I didn’t and started dating Matt instead, he unfriended me. Not my loss!

@Chris (chrmun) – You look like a very happy couple! J

@Dani – You are not fat!!! I’m sorry your mother makes you feel that way.

@Melissa – I would probably come up with some smart-@$$ response to people who told me FI and I should do that. Wow.

@Carrie – There are some things about customer service that I do not miss. People would claim that we had no registers open constantly on the survey thing when I know darn well that we always have at least one open. Lights in retail establishments for open registers only work for people who used to work in retail I think. No one else notices them!!

Sorry that was super long.

sleblanc72

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[QUOTE]Thanks ladies!  I feel better. I guess I should've done an intro!  For the record, here it is: Hi, I'm Chris.  My fiance is named Eric.  I'm the moustache and he's the red one. Our date is June, 23rd 2012 at Russian River Vineyards in Forestville, CA
Posted by chrmun[/QUOTE]
I'm late to this one but congratulations!!  We're date twins :)