Rudeness on other Knot boards? (and happy Tuesday :D)

misstomrstodr

Hey ladies -I hope this Tuesday finds you well! I was wondering if you encountered any rudeness/snarkiness on other boards here on this community (NOT this board!). I have encountered some seriously rude brides on a particular board and it just makes me a bit dissapointed that people are so worked up about the silliest things instead of being happy about the joy of getting married. Some people are truly rude for no reason. Grr.... sorry to vent but I had to on my favorite board on here . Happy Tuesday, all!

Megbo2012

Please don't complain about the Etiquette board here because many of us also post there.  

KrisKenny

I don't even go on to any of the other boards anymore. I used to lurk and post a little, but I don't even lurk anymore. Although, I have started to lurk back on the ceremony ideas board. Some of them have great ideas. Other than that, I stick to this board.

ETA: I do check on my local board, but that one is just too dead for me. Unless I have a local question, it's not very helpful.

Oh, and I will NOT say which other boards I used to lurk on - it's not just one.

kaitlyn142

I had the Catholic board tear me to pieces once. That was fun.

KDough

I also just stick mostly to this board and my local board, because I also find that brides on other boards can be rude, so I just stay away!

gregamywedding

I will occasionally lurk on other board but I really only post on here.

misstomrstodr

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[QUOTE]Please don't complain about the Etiquette board here because many of us also post there.  
Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]
I didn't bring up the etiquette board. Honestly, this is the only board on here where I've consistently seen a bunch of great brides who are truly engaged in the community. Sorry if I offended you!

lopezalonso

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[QUOTE]Please don't complain about the Etiquette board here because many of us also post there.  
Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]

She never said she was talking about the ettiquette board.

misstomrstodr

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_rudeness-other-knot-boards-happy-tuesday-d?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:360fdbb3-b8f3-4474-8242-8f9c18e9be07Post:a49353ea-095c-431c-87c6-f9ce182e6e7d">Re: Rudeness on other Knot boards? (and happy Tuesday :D)</a>:
[QUOTE]I had the Catholic board tear me to pieces once. That was fun.
Posted by kaitlyn142[/QUOTE] Ugh that sounds horrible! Sorry to hear that :(

acaponi87

Happy Tuesday!

Yep other boards can be rough..just brush it off your shoulders.  It's so easy to be rude on internet forums. But remember that those people know very little about you  and come from a million different backgrounds. You must take everything with a grain of salt (even "nice" posts)

Ash61612

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Rudeness on other Knot boards? (and happy Tuesday :D) : She never said she was talking about the ettiquette board.
Posted by lopezalonso[/QUOTE]
The E board is one of the most popular boards to get slammed because a lot of people get offended when they post there and get some harsh comments back. I know she didn't say the E board but I assumed the same thing as Meg.

misstomrstodr

I've learned that lurking is probably safer! I only recently started posting a lot when my semester ended but I think all of the same questions from idea-specific (honeymoon/ceremony/DIY) probably cycle so maybe I'll just dig into the posts to see if I can get a question answered.

Megbo2012

I assumed E because I recognized her sig because she posted on the E board earlier today. 

HarperBargo

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[QUOTE]Happy Tuesday! Yep other boards can be rough..just brush it off your shoulders.  It's so easy to be rude on internet forums. But remember that those people know very little about you  and come from a million different backgrounds. You must take everything with a grain of salt (even "nice" posts)
Posted by acaponi87[/QUOTE]

This exactly! Sometimes people will agree with you and others will not. Also it is easy to interpret things off of the text because you can't sense tone.

misstomrstodr

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[QUOTE]Happy Tuesday! Yep other boards can be rough..just brush it off your shoulders.  It's so easy to be rude on internet forums. But remember that those people know very little about you  and come from a million different backgrounds. You must take everything with a grain of salt (even "nice" posts)
Posted by acaponi87[/QUOTE] Yea, it's doesn't bother me personally. It just stinks to see brides arguing or being worked up about certain things when we're all here to enjoy the comradery. Again, I never mentioned the etiquette board (and hope I didn't offend anyone that posts there - it's a collective statement) - like I said, this is basically the one board (Plus the student board, but that one doesn't post as often as this one!) that defines a bridal community to me.

misstomrstodr

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[QUOTE]I assumed E because I recognized her sig because she posted on the E board earlier today. 
Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE] I've also posted on the honeymoon, ceremony ideas, reception ideas, snarky brides, student, and wedding party boards today :) just sayin'... one last time, no specific slap to the E board, it is comments sprinkled throughout.

franklissa

I really don't post on any of the other boards.

Jo&Lo83

I've seen rudeness....but it's usually deserved....one bride was furious that her future in laws were going to be on the same plane as her as she left for her honeymoon - after stating the in-laws were paying for her whole honeymoon, putting them up in a fabulous hotel the night before, and saying please don't feel obligated to hang out with us the night before you're honeymoon....I couldn't believe it! She was so upset they would be on the same plane as her.  But yeah...so I understand why some people get rude comments.

kelsey+brandon

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[QUOTE]I've learned that lurking is probably safer! I only recently started posting a lot when my semester ended but I think all of the same questions from idea-specific (honeymoon/ceremony/DIY) probably cycle so maybe I'll just dig into the posts to see if I can get a question answered.
Posted by misstomrstodr[/QUOTE]

<div>I think that's a good rule of thumb whether you've been flamed on another board or not. We're getting so many new brides over here that people are <em>contstantly </em>asking the same questions and it's getting to be really old. You'll find more helpful answers if you search a couple of pages back because we're not tired of answering the same question.</div><div>
</div><div>And even though this is a really friendly board, we don't just agree with each other for the sake of puppies and rainbows. We've had a few discussions that have definitely gotten heated where people had very different opinions on things (like honeymoon registries). </div>

diamondx423

I really don't like it when "rudeness" of other boards gets brought up here. It has really gotten old, at least to me. If you don't like other boards just don't post, but please don't come back here and talk about them.

sleblanc72

Ditto Kelsey and Diamond.  It gets real old real quick when the same questions come up over and over again (even worse when it happens in the same week) and when people complain about other boards.  Personally I post on E and like it over there.  I've never once thought of complaining to one board about another, it seems very drama filled to me.

melfacto

I have seen very snarky arguments/discussions take place on a few boards as well.. can't believe how ridiculous some people can get...

L&J2012

I honestly don't think people on those boards mean to be rude. They're just being frank because they don't know you so they can be. It's when the OP tries to defend herself but ends up making things worse when people start to get rude (because the OP is not listening to them even though they asked for advice). But, usually they deserve it. With that being said, I normally lurk on other boards. I'll post on E or Attire and Accessories or Wedding Party if there's something I feel is worth mentioning, but otherwise I stick to this board.

midgetthemighty

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_rudeness-other-knot-boards-happy-tuesday-d?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:360fdbb3-b8f3-4474-8242-8f9c18e9be07Post:ce1093f3-119c-4465-bf57-5ce97d10e505">Re: Rudeness on other Knot boards? (and happy Tuesday :D)</a>:
[QUOTE]I really don't like it when "rudeness" of other boards gets brought up here. It has really gotten old, at least to me. If you don't like other boards just don't post, but please don't come back here and talk about them.
Posted by diamondx423[/QUOTE]

Pretend I said this whole thing.
<em>
If </em>you are referring to E, then the ladies on E are actually extremely supportive of one another, it's a great community. However if you go against etiquette, they're going to let you know for your own good, possibly in a blunt way. They don't want you to damage any relationships.

I know you probably don't believe any of that, but I just wanted to get it out there.

DodgersBride

Ditto Diamond. The whole other boards are rude post gets old really fast. It just doesn't make sense to complain about certain boards on a different board. I am not saying to go and start a new post on those boards to tell them they are being "rude" because that will not go over well but I don't see the point in coming here to talk about the other boards "rudeness".

goodine11

I have just started using the boards maybe a week or two ago. I did post something on the fitness board about a time line to loose two inches off my waist. The brides on that board were not rude to me. Other then the girl that wanted to tell me that starting to watch what I eat until after the Holidays was too late. However, there are some girls I thought that were rude to each other. After I found this board, I only check this one. I like the June 2012 board you guys seem to have formed a sisterhood.

chelseamb11

I hate that people equate bluntness with rudeness.  Not the same thing.

Danidawn20

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[QUOTE]I had the Catholic board tear me to pieces once. That was fun.
Posted by kaitlyn142[/QUOTE]

I post on the catholic board, they seem to be very nice to me. What happen to you on there?

goodine11

I dont know how many people on the knot know each other personally. I have always been know to be blunt. However, I know that when someone is reading your thoughts via letter, text, email, or post, bluntness can come off as rudeness. This bluntness could be mistaken as rudeness to readers who know you personally as well.

MMRoberts11

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[QUOTE]I hate that people equate bluntness with rudeness.  Not the same thing.
Posted by chelseamb11[/QUOTE]

Agreed.  I often at work am very blunt just because I don't have the time to go into full details all day long and sometimes it transfers to other areas.

I also agree with Kelsey and Tara (diamond).  Answering the same old questions daily can get really old and annoying so I appreciated when people search the boards.  I'll still answer them anyways but it will likely include a link to when we last had the discussion.

I think lurking first for a while is great to get a feel for the board since each one is different from one another and has their own routine.

mbishop7

Ha I only post questions about my wedding on this board because I HAVE been slammed on other boards! I think this board is by far the nicest. Attire is my other often-visited board! I love giving advice about that!! I do like to lurk at the rudeness on the others though.