Rudeness on other Knot boards? (and happy Tuesday :D)

kaitlyn142

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Rudeness on other Knot boards? (and happy Tuesday :D) : I post on the catholic board, they seem to be very nice to me. What happen to you on there?
Posted by Danidawn20[/QUOTE]

Something I said wasn't very clear and was taken the wrong way. I got defensive, and the whole thing got out of hand. Oh well. This was very nearly a year ago (it's been a long engagement!), so the girls may have cycled out.

I'll admit I've been pretty blunt on the GIS board. It gets very irritating when people are posting asking for rediculous and unhealthy diet advice.

CvilleClaire

IF The Knot had a search function that worked well, there'd be less repetition.  I think the name calling on this site is stunning.  I have never seen women be so cruel to total strangers. 

I use The Knot for the June board only.  I'm on Weddingbee the rest of the time.  There is crossover between the boards, but the overall tone of the Bee is far more positive than on The Knot.

Mentioning TK over there and people usually say they left because of the nastiness.  Mention the Bee on a regular board here and people often have rude things to say.  The choice is pretty easy for me. 

Zimsgirl

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[QUOTE]IF The Knot had a search function that worked well, there'd be less repetition.  I think the name calling on this site is stunning.  I have never seen women be so cruel to total strangers.  I use The Knot for the June board only.  I'm on Weddingbee the rest of the time.  There is crossover between the boards, but the overall tone of the Bee is far more positive than on The Knot. Mentioning TK over there and people usually say they left because of the nastiness.  Mention the Bee on a regular board here and people often have rude things to say.  The choice is pretty easy for me. 
Posted by CvilleClaire[/QUOTE]
I actually don't like WeddingBee. I went over there when I wasn't thrilled with TK and I think the whole layout and everything is confusing and no constructive criticism. Esp. the military brides there, they'll validate girls committing fraud or having a JOP then their "real wedding."

Danidawn20

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[QUOTE]IF<strong> The Knot had a search function that worked well, there'd be less repetition</strong>.  I think the name calling on this site is stunning.  I have never seen women be so cruel to total strangers.  I use The Knot for the June board only.  I'm on Weddingbee the rest of the time.  There is crossover between the boards, but the overall tone of the Bee is far more positive than on The Knot. Mentioning TK over there and people usually say they left because of the nastiness.  Mention the Bee on a regular board here and people often have rude things to say.  The choice is pretty easy for me. 
Posted by CvilleClaire[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>I think they may have fixed it, because it seems to work fine for me. I'm able to search to see if stuff was asked before I ask something.</div>

Danidawn20

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Rudeness on other Knot boards? (and happy Tuesday :D) : Something I said wasn't very clear and was taken the wrong way. I got defensive, and the whole thing got out of hand. Oh well. This was very nearly a year ago (it's been a long engagement!), so the girls may have cycled out. I'll admit I've been pretty blunt on the GIS board. It gets very irritating when people are posting asking for rediculous and unhealthy diet advice.
Posted by kaitlyn142[/QUOTE]
 okay

DodgersBride

Claire, I know the search function on here sucks so what I and most poster do is just do a google search. It is so much better than trying to find something on here. You can find threads from so long ago from people who have created new SNs, trolls and AE that have long be deleted.  I normally do some like the knot forum the board I am looking for and something related to the thread and it pops right up.

CvilleClaire

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[QUOTE]I actually don't like WeddingBee. I went over there when I wasn't thrilled with TK and I think the whole layout and everything is confusing and no constructive criticism.Posted by Zimsgirl[/QUOTE]The Bee might be uncomfortable if you aren't used to internet message boards, but the style there is more in line with what is current.  Design wise, the Bee is superior. 

The layout of The Knot hasn't changed in a decade.  I originally came here in 2000 when my first friend was getting married.  The Knot looks exactly the same today as it did back then.  I can't think of a website that hasn't done a redesign in over 10 years. 


[QUOTE]Claire, I know the search function on here sucks so what I and most poster do is just do a google search.
Posted by DodgersBride[/QUOTE]I'm with you there.  I do the same.  Google some terms with a year is the only way I've found to get good search returns from TK.

[QUOTE] I think they may have fixed it, because it seems to work fine for me.
Posted by Danidawn20[/QUOTE]It functions, but it lacks options that would allow you to search posts vs. titles and limit results to a certain period of time.  For example, if looking for ballpark figures for how much DOCs cost in your city, you might find plenty of threads, but you would have to do some scrolling to find ones with current information.  A good search should have that option on the front end. 

The Bee doesn't have this locked down, either, but they are working on it. 

sweet_melissa81

Some people are down right rude on the other boards. I heard there was some drama on another board, so I lurked and read a few threads and these girls were being just flat out nasty to other girls and super snippy. I only come here, but I think I read more so than I post. I sometimes vent and regret it later.

tania0930

I just wanna play devil's advocate for a sec.  I have def. seen (not been involved with) extreme disrespect on other boards (this was a LONG time ago so I don't even remember what boards).  However, I've also seen non-rude things be misinterpreted and blow up into pointless arguments.  I also agree that complaining about other boards to other boards can be seen as pointless, however I was definitely a criminal of this a year ago!  With all of that being said, I feel that part of what misstomrstodr was trying to convey (correct me if I'm wrong) is that she really appreciates how supportive and kind everyone here, collectively is     I know that a year ago when made a post about this topic, I worded it that I was so glad to have such fun loving girls on our board.  And I think/hope that is the underlying message in this OP.

sweet_melissa81

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_rudeness-other-knot-boards-happy-tuesday-d?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:360fdbb3-b8f3-4474-8242-8f9c18e9be07Post:e966c70c-3c4d-4fb3-83b6-ece701a4a0ea">Re: Rudeness on other Knot boards? (and happy Tuesday :D)</a>:
[QUOTE]I just wanna play devil's advocate for a sec.  I have def. seen (not been involved with) extreme disrespect on other boards (this was a LONG time ago so I don't even remember what boards).  However, I've also seen non-rude things be misinterpreted and blow up into pointless arguments.  I also agree that complaining about other boards to other boards can be seen as pointless, however I was definitely a criminal of this a year ago!  With all of that being said, I feel that part of what misstomrstodr was trying to convey (correct me if I'm wrong) is that she really appreciates how supportive and kind everyone here, collectively is :)    I know that a year ago when made a post about this topic, I worded it that I was so glad to have such fun loving girls on our board.  And I think/hope that is the underlying message in this OP.
Posted by tania0930[/QUOTE]

AGREED!

Megbo2012

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[QUOTE]I just wanna play devil's advocate for a sec.  I have def. seen (not been involved with) extreme disrespect on other boards (this was a LONG time ago so I don't even remember what boards).  However, I've also seen non-rude things be misinterpreted and blow up into pointless arguments.  I also agree that complaining about other boards to other boards can be seen as pointless, however I was definitely a criminal of this a year ago!  With all of that being said, I feel that part of what misstomrstodr was trying to convey (correct me if I'm wrong) is that she really appreciates how supportive and kind everyone here, collectively is :)    I know that a year ago when made a post about this topic, I worded it that I was so glad to have such fun loving girls on our board.  And I think/hope that is the underlying message in this OP.
Posted by tania0930[/QUOTE]

<div>Then why not simply say, "I love how supportive everyone on this board is!" rather than attacking another supposedly unknown board in the process or complimenting our board.  If all she wanted to do was compliment our board, posting about other boards would be completely erroneous. </div>

tania0930

Megbo I see your point, again just trying to play devil's advocate.  Some people say exactly what's on their mind while others (well, me) take the added time to make sure what I'm saying will be difficult to interpret offensively.  I also want to point out that THIS conversation is exactly why I personally love and appreciate this board and all of you girls.  SO many different opinions are coming out and they are being discussed in a mature and respectful manner.  We kind of rock, huh? 

Megbo2012

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[QUOTE]Megbo I see your point, again just trying to play devil's advocate.  Some people say exactly what's on their mind while others (well, me) take the added time to make sure what I'm saying will be difficult to interpret offensively.  I also want to point out that THIS conversation is exactly why I personally love and appreciate this board and all of you girls.  SO many different opinions are coming out and they are being discussed in a mature and respectful manner.  We kind of rock, huh?  ;)
Posted by tania0930[/QUOTE]

<div>Well, I like to take time and read my posts too, and I think I can be well written and get my point across well because of my background in philosophy.  I also try not to be snarky but sometimes I get really peeved when people don't think about what they say before they post.  So many times I've just deleted a well thought out but combative post because it wasn't worth it.  Not everything has to be a battle. </div>

LOTON01

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[QUOTE]Claire, I know the search function on here sucks so what I and most poster do is just do a google search. It is so much better than trying to find something on here. You can find threads from so long ago from people who have created new SNs, trolls and AE that have long be deleted.  I normally do some like the knot forum the board I am looking for and something related to the thread and it pops right up.
Posted by DodgersBride[/QUOTE]

<div>Dodgers, What exactly is a Troll? I have seen the term on here but not sure exactly what they were. </div>

Megbo2012

LOTON a troll is someone who baits people with loaded questions or controversial statements just to get people going.

LOTON01

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[QUOTE]LOTON a troll is someone who baits people with loaded questions or controversial statements just to get people going.
Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]

<div>Thank You. I assumed that is what it was but I just wanted to clarify. Are they girls who are planning wedding or just randoms that want to start problems?</div>

Zimsgirl

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Rudeness on other Knot boards? (and happy Tuesday :D) : The Bee might be uncomfortable if you aren't used to internet message boards, but the style there is more in line with what is current.  Design wise, the Bee is superior.  The layout of The Knot hasn't changed in a decade.  I originally came here in 2000 when my first friend was getting married.  The Knot looks exactly the same today as it did back then.  I can't think of a website that hasn't done a redesign in over 10 years.  
Posted by CvilleClaire[/QUOTE]
I just don't like how many of them will validate any idea someone has. I like some of the bluntness on TK. But yes I can go too far

Megbo2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Rudeness on other Knot boards? (and happy Tuesday :D) : Thank You. I assumed that is what it was but I just wanted to clarify. Are they girls who are planning wedding or just randoms that want to start problems?
Posted by LOTON01[/QUOTE]

<div>I think a bit of both, actually.  Some people make AEs (alter egos) and do it that way.</div>