"Normal" hair comment...

midgetthemighty

The Sneetches (clicky)

MiksChick23

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_normal-hair-comment?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:4942b81b-b99a-45f6-9109-cb8fab25289dPost:3eb8aa60-d487-4ee0-8742-a013f0d16880">Re: "Normal" hair comment...</a>:
[QUOTE]This just ins't "normal" for Christians to behave this way
Posted by SarahAlRamadhan[/QUOTE]

What the heck are you talking about? There really isn't a major difference between the way Christians and non-Christians behave except when they discuss or think about God.

chelseamb11

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[QUOTE]The only people who completely ran this topic into the ground and overreacted were the ones who apparently have a problem with others being offended, but yet have no issues becoming offended themselves. I know you're thinking it was "only a hair comment" vs. a religious comment, but come on people. <strong>Use what you learned in history class.</strong> One of the major points that had been used for CENTURIES to separate black from white was texture of hair, in a similar way as skin color. I can still understand why those women made the statements they did in the OP based on this line of thought. CAN WE JUST MOVE ON PLEASE.
Posted by rasp.berry[/QUOTE]

I'm offended that you're insinuating that I'm stupid.

chelseakopperud

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: "Normal" hair comment... : Not to be the b*tch here.. but is it your place to tell people what they can and cannot tell people? Just curious. I
Posted by kristin183[/QUOTE]

*LIKE*

rasp.berry

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: "Normal" hair comment... : Yep we have different opinons and that is fine. :) However, arent you telling peachy not to be offended? How is that any different?
Posted by chelseakopperud[/QUOTE]

No, I'm not. I'm pointing out the obvious. I'm saying "Why is it OK for you to be offended, but not for them to be". My post was pretty clear, but another example of how things can be misconstrued over the internet. I did not tell her NOT to be offended.

LiveLaughLove04

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: "Normal" hair comment... : I'm offended that you're insinuating that I'm stupid.
Posted by chelseamb11[/QUOTE]
Oh FFS Chels, you're doing exactly what we've all been complaining about...pulling out one word or phrase and running with it.<div>
</div>

chelseamb11

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: "Normal" hair comment... : Oh FFS Chels, you're doing exactly what we've all been complaining about...pulling out one word or phrase and running with it.
Posted by LiveLaughLove04[/QUOTE]

Psssssst... I was kidding.
Trying to prove my point.

rasp.berry

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_normal-hair-comment?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:4942b81b-b99a-45f6-9109-cb8fab25289dPost:b6cd77a8-08a7-415e-95a2-631418b481d7">Re: "Normal" hair comment...</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: "Normal" hair comment... : QUIT MAKING THIS ABOUT RACE!!  FLOG!
Posted by MiksChick23[/QUOTE]

Uhh, clearly I wasn't making it about race. I was trying to make it clear that there is a reason WHY they could be offended by the original comment, to prevent anybody from saying I shouldn't be comparing religion to "just hair". Because it's not "just hair" to a lot of people.

Zimsgirl

We're protective of our ChelseaK I personally am not very religious but I find her beliefs very inspirational and how she's teaching them to her son

kristin183

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: "Normal" hair comment... : <strong>But regardless, there's no reason to tell those women who were offended NOT to be. It's not your place</strong>. Which has been my only stance the entire thread. ETA: They ARE related. A couple of you attacked and were rude to the posters who were offended. All of my posts here are not even related to the original "normal hair" comment. They are all related to common courtesy of not telling others how to feel. It's not like those girls threadjacked (unlike what happened here) and spouted off for HOURS about how offended they were. Can't you see the obvious that is right in front on your face? They were very polite and respectable in their responses to that poster. But yet, you still felt the need to purposefully attack them and be rude... similar to what you're criticizing above.
Posted by rasp.berry[/QUOTE]

Could be wrong here.. but isn't that telliing them not to do it. "it is not their place"

and again.. the hair comment was not meant to be hurtful.. the religion comment was meant to be hurtful. Intent is a powerful thing.

LiveLaughLove04

I know Chels I thought about it after I read it but I still stand by what I said dammit!

Seriously though this is all rifuckingdiculous.  I honestly don't want to have conversations on here anymore because too much shiit is offensive.  Guess what, I'm pretty sure we've all been offended by something someone said at some point but most of us put on our big girl panties and just dealt with it.  People suck in life and people suck online, again everyone will be offended by something at some point, I sure as hell know that I have been.  But again the level has become rifuckingdiculous (clearly I have a new favorite word for all of this) and everyone needs to take a step back before immediately becoming offended by one word or phrase and not reading the full context.

SarahAlRamadhan

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[QUOTE]Sarah, I remember you for coming into the ends of controversial threads and asking people condescending questions they either never saw or never responded to. Then, when I answered "for" them, you never came back. Chelsea never said anything mean or hurtful. Sometimes, being a Christian and loving others involves a little tough love. It's not all frilly poofy rainbow love. Sometimes we have to let people know that what they are doing is hurtful to themselves or others emotionally, intellectually or physically. Being offended by every little thing is no way for anyone to live their life. That's all we were trying to say.
Posted by midgetthemighty[/QUOTE]

Because I am on the West Coast and most of you live in Eastern time zones! I'm 3 hours behind you, so unless I'm away on business I won't get on here until late in the evening or in the morning before I go to work. I don't get home until around 6pm which is 9pm your time. Think about it!

I have never seen you respond to my questions.

chelseamb11

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: "Normal" hair comment... : Because I am on the West Coast and most of you live in Eastern time zones! I'm 3 hours behind you, so unless I'm away on business I won't get on here until late in the evening or in the morning before I go to work. I don't get home until around 6pm which is 9pm your time. Think about it!<strong> I have never seen you respond to my questions.</strong>
Posted by SarahAlRamadhan[/QUOTE]

What questions?  All you did was make a blanket judgy statement that Chelsea wasn't being very Christian.

rasp.berry

 All of my posts here are not even related to the original "normal hair" comment. Apparently, I cannot stress that enough. They are all related to common courtesy of how it's not fair to tell others how to feel. If you want to feel that there's too much offending going on, FINE. Feel that way. But don't shove it into everyone elses faces! 

It's not like those girls threadjacked and spouted off for HOURS about how offended they were. Can't you see the obvious that is right in front on your face? They didn't shove any opinions down your throat, but here you are doing it to them. They were very polite and respectable in their responses to that poster. But yet, you still felt the need to purposefully attack them and be rude... similar to what you're criticizing above.

You are all STILL going on about how you "hate it when people are offended". My point is to simply stop. You're arguing with me without even understanding what I'm arguing for (see above in BOLD for the 10th time I've said it). Don't sweat the small stuff. As I said in my second or third post in this thread: If you weren't offended, great- move on. If you were, take the apology as sincere and move past it. LIFE IS TOO SHORT.

aor9487

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: "Normal" hair comment... : But regardless, there's no reason to tell those women who were offended NOT to be. It's not your place. Which has been my only stance the entire thread. ETA: They ARE related. A couple of you attacked and were rude to the posters who were offended. All of my posts here are not even related to the original "normal hair" comment. They are all related to common courtesy of not telling others how to feel. It's not like those girls threadjacked (unlike what happened here) and spouted off for HOURS about how offended they were. Can't you see the obvious that is right in front on your face? They were very polite and respectable in their responses to that poster. But yet, you still felt the need to purposefully attack them and be rude... similar to what you're criticizing above.
Posted by rasp.berry[/QUOTE]

<div>I agree 100%. Things get taken out of context/miscommunicated at times and even more so on the internet. Also as PP have said, we're all going to be offended by something at one point or another...and just to add something in (dunno if any of you saw the Addams Family Broadway Musical)... define "Normal". It's proven fact that what one considers normal could be totally the opposite of another. </div><div>
</div><div>Bottomline: </div><div>We've all got weddings to plan, we're all like <u>2 months-ish</u> away, so lets kiss and make up and continue planning this beautiful and momentous occasion <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-kiss.gif" border="0" alt="Kiss" title="Kiss" /> </div>

chelseamb11

kristin183

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[QUOTE]  All of my posts here are not even related to the original "normal hair" comment . Apparently, I cannot stress that enough. They are all related to common courtesy of how it's not fair to tell others how to feel. If you want to feel that there's too much offending going on, FINE. Feel that way. But don't shove it into everyone elses faces!  It's not like those girls threadjacked and spouted off for HOURS about how offended they were. Can't you see the obvious that is right in front on your face? <strong>They didn't shove any opinions down your throat, but here you are doing it to them</strong>. They were very polite and respectable in their responses to that poster. But yet, you still felt the need to purposefully attack them and be rude... similar to what you're criticizing above. You are all STILL going on about how you "hate it when people are offended". My point is to simply stop. You're arguing with me without even understanding what I'm arguing for (see above in BOLD for the 10th time I've said it). Don't sweat the small stuff. As I said in my second or third post in this thread: If you weren't offended, great- move on. If you were, take the apology as sincere and move past it. LIFE IS TOO SHORT.
Posted by rasp.berry[/QUOTE]

Who said opinions were being shoved down their throat... and isn't that what you are trying to do? Telling everyone they can't tell people if they can or cannot be offended?

I am calm.. I just think it was a little hypocritical so I pointed it out.


I think most people hate it when people get offended over things that were not meant to be mean. Of course they are going to be offended when someone out right says something rude about their religion.

midgetthemighty

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: "Normal" hair comment... : Because I am on the West Coast and most of you live in Eastern time zones! I'm 3 hours behind you, so unless I'm away on business I won't get on here until late in the evening or in the morning before I go to work. I don't get home until around 6pm which is 9pm your time. Think about it! <strong>I have never seen you respond to my questions.
</strong>Posted by SarahAlRamadhan[/QUOTE]

Probably because you haven't looked.

<a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_your-stance-on-strip-clubs?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:555cf045-617a-46d1-80f1-c6004e0cb16ePost:f965d16e-ecbc-4704-9b72-99d6345097c9">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_your-stance-on-strip-clubs?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:555cf045-617a-46d1-80f1-c6004e0cb16ePost:f965d16e-ecbc-4704-9b72-99d6345097c9</a>

LoveYouB

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[QUOTE]The Sneetches (clicky)
Posted by midgetthemighty[/QUOTE]

LOVE this. :)

SarahAlRamadhan

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_normal-hair-comment?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:4942b81b-b99a-45f6-9109-cb8fab25289dPost:70dc7d03-0599-4b2a-93d9-fe355a62d994">Re: "Normal" hair comment...</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: "Normal" hair comment... : What questions?  All you did was make a blanket judgy statement that Chelsea wasn't being very Christian.
Posted by chelseamb11[/QUOTE]

Midge stated that she responds to my condescending questions at the end of threads and I have never seen her respond to any of my questions. Got it?!

Megbo2012

Bringing up race, is perpetuating the the race "issue."

I'm offended by all the stupid going on in this thread. FFS

midgetthemighty

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: "Normal" hair comment... : Midge stated that she responds to <strong>my condescending questions</strong> at the end of threads and I have never seen her respond to any of my questions. Got it?!
Posted by SarahAlRamadhan[/QUOTE]

At least you can admit it. That's always the first step on the road to recovery.

Megbo2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_normal-hair-comment?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:4942b81b-b99a-45f6-9109-cb8fab25289dPost:229ccec4-38f2-4abd-bd0e-44efbc3a1a2d">Re: "Normal" hair comment...</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: "Normal" hair comment... : Midge stated that she responds to my condescending questions at the end of threads and I have never seen her respond to any of my questions. Got it?!
Posted by SarahAlRamadhan[/QUOTE]
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SarahAlRamadhan

Now you just need to admit that you must always get the last word in!

kristin183

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[QUOTE]Bringing up race, is perpetuating the the race "issue." I'm offended by all the stupid going on in this thread. FFS
Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]

Did you call my posts stupid? I am offended :)

kristin183

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[QUOTE]Now you just need to admit that you must always get the last word in!
Posted by SarahAlRamadhan[/QUOTE]

Like you are trying to do?

SarahAlRamadhan

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_normal-hair-comment?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:4942b81b-b99a-45f6-9109-cb8fab25289dPost:d5c23e09-65c3-47cf-b75e-9029c0f55346">Re: "Normal" hair comment...</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: "Normal" hair comment... :
Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]

Thanks for the laugh! Hahahahahahaha Best thing ever!

Megbo2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_normal-hair-comment?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:4942b81b-b99a-45f6-9109-cb8fab25289dPost:e652a18e-ebec-4b40-8c5b-193882eee029">Re: "Normal" hair comment...</a>:
[QUOTE]Now you just need to admit that you must always get the last word in!
Posted by SarahAlRamadhan[/QUOTE]

<div>Missy, is that you?!</div>

chelseakopperud

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: "Normal" hair comment... : No, I'm not. I'm pointing out the obvious. I'm saying "Why is it OK for you to be offended, but not for them to be". My post was pretty clear, but another example of how things can be misconstrued over the internet. I did not tell her NOT to be offended.
Posted by rasp.berry[/QUOTE]

Again... I never said anything about being offended by the newbs post.

chelseamb11

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: "Normal" hair comment... : Thanks for the laugh! Hahahahahahaha Best thing ever!
Posted by SarahAlRamadhan[/QUOTE]

<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-undecided.gif" border="0" alt="Undecided" title="Undecided" />