Since we're all about 2/3 months away....

peachykeen26

What are your biggest stressors at this point?

I feel like I have to over compensate for my venue. The barn is so beautiful by itself, but I see all the decorations and I think about it and how much I would love to do it. But, its a lot to set up and tear down... not something I really want to do the day before.
I also feel like this wedding is going to just look like a mess. hahaha.
Anyone else get nervous about stuff like that?

melfacto

I'm nervous about everything coming together, I've never planned anything more than a house party, planning a celebration for over 300 people, with so many vendors makes me a little nervous about everything / everyone working together..

kelsey+brandon

My biggest stressor is whether my dad is really going to step into the Father of the Bride role. I really want him to walk me down the aisle and have a Father-Daughter dance, but he just doesn't seem to care. He even asked me to send his invitation to his new girlfriend's house...of a month (maybe)...who lives in Maryland (we both live in Raleigh). Hello, your name is on the invitation, but you don't want it to go to your house?!?! I'm going to my grandma's (his mom) to visit tomorrow, so I'm going to talk to her about it.

Ugh. 

Other than that, I just want to make sure I look and feel my best so I don't look back on the pictures and wish I had lost 5 more pounds.

Zimsgirl

My biggest stressor is FMIL. I'm afraid she's gonna invite extra people even though she's not paying. She sent her STD to FI's grandma even though we sent her one. I was really annoyed

chelseakopperud

I am nervous that I am forgetting things. I feel like I havent done anything WR related in a really long time, yet I'm not stressed at all and I cant think of really anything else I need to do, other than invites and programs (which are done they just need to be assembled once the print shop gets them cut for me).

midgetthemighty

Aw Kelsey, I'm sorry. I hope he steps up to the plate.

I feel like there's just TOO MUCH to do. I wanted to give my brother a HUGE hug last night because I was complaining about how FI hasn't done anything with the photo slideshow he said he'd do all by himself and he said he'd love to help. Love my little brother. Still though, it just seems like there's too much and I keep worrying I'll forget to pay someone on time and I'll lose them.

Cassandra999

The day of timeline & everything coming together.  I feel like my venue coordinator is slacking but I dont know what she is supposed to be doing,  maybe I have unrealistic expectations.  she has awesome reviews online, people say she does everything for you.

I feel like I'm just guessing on the timeline.  like hair make up done by 230, get dressed by 330, some pictures (seperatly), ceremony at 530.  and then I have no clue!! 

that and hoping that my vendors all show up and do what they are supposed to.

ncd5015

I hope the weather cooperates, my updo doesn't fall out/come apart and none of the GM try to drink a lot before the wedding.

midgetthemighty

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[QUOTE]I hope the weather cooperates, my updo doesn't fall out/come apart and <strong>none of the GM try to drink a lot before the wedding.
</strong>Posted by ncd5015[/QUOTE]

I worry about this too. I think it's completely inappropriate behavior and I know for  fact that some of them don't have any issue with it. FI doesn't want to so I'm 99% sure it won't happen.

This reminds me that I still don't believe that his BM won't get a stripper.

sleblanc72

I'm worried about everything that hasn't gotten done yet at this point including the fact that we haven't booked a bakery, no officiant and 2 bm's plus the junior bm and flower girl still need to get dresses.  I think the only thing I'm really stressing is the officiant because we just can't make a decision.  I know the dresses will be fine and I know from talking to the bakery they're available we just need to get there, book them and figure out the cake.

Ash61612

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[QUOTE]<strong>The day of timeline & everything coming together</strong>.  I feel like my venue coordinator is slacking but I dont know what she is supposed to be doing,  maybe I have unrealistic expectations.  she has awesome reviews online, people say she does everything for you.<strong> I feel like I'm just guessing on the timeline.  like hair make up done by 230, get dressed by 330, some pictures (seperatly), ceremony at 530.  and then I have no clue!!</strong>  that and hoping that my vendors all show up and do what they are supposed to.
Posted by Cassandra999[/QUOTE]

this is a big stress for me too. I have one tentatively planned out. My biggest issue is trying to determine how much time for hair. When I get my hair done tomorrow for my bridal's I am determined to walk out with a time frame for hair so I can get the schedule done.
I am also stressing over assigning tables. At the end of the day, I have to remind myself that I can just do it to the best of my ability and everyone will be happy to celebrate our big day

chelseakopperud

Oh and weather.... planning an outdoor wedding (ceremony and reception) is much more stressful than I thought.

leah2489

Everything PP's said! I feel like thats all I do, is worry about WR things. I am really excited for the day to be so close so we can get this over with!

kelsey+brandon

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[QUOTE]I hope the weather cooperates, my updo doesn't fall out/come apart and none of the GM try to drink a lot before the wedding.
Posted by ncd5015[/QUOTE]

<div>I refuse to think about that because I'll drive myself crazy.</div><div>
</div>

HarperBargo

Just getting everything finished on time. Our weekends are quickly booking up. But I am really just trying to enjoy everything which gets hard to do when you are stressed.

MMRoberts11

I have a few things I worry about. 

I worry about forgetting something.  I have a list of what's left to do and have just about everything started but I still feel like something is missing even though I'm 99.9% sure everything is there.

Weather.  Michigan has crazy weather and its been anywhere from the high 60s to low 80s for the past few weeks.  I'm worried about it as a result being in the high 90s and high humidity on the wedding day; not a good combo for an outdoor ceremony.

I also worry about everything coming together.  We can't set up now at the venue until the morning of and my FMIL said she'll take care of it with a few others that said they'd help in addition to what the venue themselves will set up.  I know she can handle it and is great at decorating and will do things as I lay out (ie the centerpieces and those kinds of things) but I still worry.  I'm definitley very type A with everything coming together.

niknik15

Our travel agent. She has been a total nightmare and yesterday final payment was due for all of our guests. My FI has been the one in charge of dealing with her, but she is so terrible that it has spilled over to me. I think she is bad enough that we need to talk to her boss, but my FI is so passive that he just wants to let it go which has also caused a lot of tension between us. I wrote crappy reviews on every review website that I could find.

cwill6212

Mostly, I worry about everything coming together (seems to be a common theme here) I just feel like the whole thing is in fragmented pieces and once the day gets here, it won't be as cohesive or gel together the way it does in my head. We are decorating the hall the day before, but the tent and last minute decor will have to be done without me and without an official "coordinator". This has me worried! 

I also worry about forgetting something important. I have lists upon lists, but I keep having dreams and panics about getting to the day without half of the things I need.

I thought I had solved my weather worry when I booked a tent. But it's still on my mind. Weather has been super unusual the past few weeks and that makes me wonder what it will do the first Sat in June. All this time I've been trying to prepare for rain, but it may flippin snow or somethin crazy! 

peachykeen26

Yeah, I don't have a list at all of things that have to be done because I don't know what has to be done.
We aren't doing a seating chart so I don't need table numbers or place cards or escort cards.
We are DIYing food, so that literally has to wait until the last minute.
It's going to be a very plain wedding.
Picking out ceremony music is starting to piss me off.
And, I am also ticked off that I don't get to wear my ring anymore.... It literally breaks my heart.
Pretty much I have done ANYTHING wedding related since January/February and I feel like I should have something to do... But I don't or can't think of anything.

daria24

Everything to do with the ceremony. We don't have an officiant, my wedding planner is being completely useless about it. FI hasn't chosen his reading, we haven't started the vows, we haven't even talked about whether we are doing a hand fasting or some other sort of unity ceremony. 

I'm also stressed out because Fi doesn't seem to be stressed out. Like HELLO-the most important part of the day-you know, the part where we actually get married-we don't have that yet. I don't f-ing care what the table numbers look like.

I'm also getting nervous because my dress hasn't come in yet-it should come in the first week of April. But I haven't seen it in a long time, I don't know what I will look like in it, and all of the "not knowing" is just making my imagination run wild. 

sleblanc72

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[QUOTE]Yeah, I don't have a list at all of things that have to be done because I don't know what has to be done. We aren't doing a seating chart so I don't need table numbers or place cards or escort cards. We are DIYing food, so that literally has to wait until the last minute. It's going to be a very plain wedding. <strong>Picking out ceremony music is starting to piss me off.</strong> And, I am also ticked off that I don't get to wear my ring anymore.... It literally breaks my heart. Pretty much I have done ANYTHING wedding related since January/February and I feel like I should have something to do... But I don't or can't think of anything.
Posted by peachykeen26[/QUOTE]
I still haven't even thought about this, the music in general is something I haven't thought about except for our first dance song.  I figure if I actually sit myself down to think about it, it won't be too bad but getting myself to sit down and think about it is the hard part.

midgetthemighty

Re: Ceremony music stress

I had an epiphany last week that I wasn't going to be hearing hardly, if any, of the prelude music and therefore just picked some pretty songs off the list that my organist gave me. It was so wonderful.

sleblanc72

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[QUOTE]Re: Ceremony music stress I had an epiphany last week that I wasn't going to be hearing hardly, if any, of the prelude music and therefore just picked some pretty songs off the list that my organist gave me. It was so wonderful.
Posted by midgetthemighty[/QUOTE]
Smart, smart lady!  My dj gave me a bunch of song lists for various things so maybe I"ll just go through those.

Shelly527IN

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[QUOTE]I'm nervous about everything coming together, <strong>I've never planned anything more than a house party, planning a celebration for over 300 people, with so many vendors makes me a little nervous about everything / everyone working together</strong>..
Posted by melfacto[/QUOTE]

I've never planned anything bigger than my family's Thanksgiving dinner and it's very causual!

Ash61612

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Since we're all about 2/3 months away.... :<strong> I refuse to think about that because I'll drive myself crazy</strong>.
Posted by kelsey+brandon[/QUOTE]
this is how I feel about the weather.  This is something I can't control so I am going to do my best not to lose sleep about it

Shelly527IN

Ceremony Music---I have no idea what to pick!  I have a few ideas, but still not sure!

acaponi87

I have actually been feeling really good lately. However the closer we get I am getting nervous about from our parents. When we got engaged both our parents said they would pay for their own sides as far as food and booze goes. I never expected my parents to contribute, as I was told my entire life that they wouldn't. But they insisted and Im grateful but I know the money will be hard for them to find I just found out they owe 3000 on their taxes : I know they'll come through but I feel so guilty..

peachykeen26

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[QUOTE]Re: Ceremony music stress I had an epiphany last week that I wasn't going to be hearing hardly, if any, of the prelude music and therefore just picked some pretty songs off the list that my organist gave me. It was so wonderful.
Posted by midgetthemighty[/QUOTE]

midge, you are quite smart! How many songs did you pick?

MiksChick23

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[QUOTE]I hope the weather cooperates, my updo doesn't fall out/come apart and none of the <strong>GM try to drink a lot before the wedding.</strong>
Posted by ncd5015[/QUOTE]

Yeah...this. Except not so much BEFORE the wedding, but at the reception. FI's friends (not all, but some) are single and still living the bar fly life. I love them to death, but this is a very important day and I don't want people getting out of control. I am telling the bartenders to not serve any shots unless both FI & I are up at the bar requesting them.

My big stressor is the timing of the day..I don't want to be rushed but I don't want to be sitting around doing nothing. Figuring out a schedule is getting very annoying for me!!  I think a lot of us are in the same boat!! Yay! I'm not alone in this. FI doesn't seem stressed or worried at all. Ugh!

And the weather...not letting myself think about it until it gets closer or I'd never sleep.

janeash

Budget woes is mostly our worry at the moment.  We can afford everything we are doing, we just feel like we are spending SO much money on one day.  We could literally buy a car wtih all the money we are spending.  It is a down payment on a house.  It's mind boggling when you think of it that way!  I know it's really getting to FI and because of that it's getting to me.  Trying to take a step back from it all and remember what the day is really about!!

That and I am worrying about his family.  They run on a completely different time frame than anybody else and so I feel like I am just going to be spending so much time trying to get them organized.

Also, flowers are stressing me right now.  I know people really probably won't take much notice of them, because we are going to be on a beach in Maui but I still want them to look nice.  FI wants to DIY them all to save money but that means we would have to put them together on the day of (because it's Maui and they will wilt otherwise), and I think I am going to have enough on my plate that day....and I don't think I trust anyone else to do them the way I am envisioning, other than my mom and she is going to be with me all day!

TEEDAH226

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[QUOTE]What are your biggest stressors at this point? I feel like I have to over compensate for my venue. The barn is so beautiful by itself, but I see all the decorations and I think about it and how much I would love to do it. But, its a lot to set up and tear down... not something I really want to do the day before. :) I also feel like this wedding is going to just look like a mess. hahaha. Anyone else get nervous about stuff like that?
Posted by peachykeen26[/QUOTE]

<div>-I'm nervous that people won't show bc it's on Father's Day. I'm worried that I won't like my dress (purchased it online).</div>