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June 2012 Weddings

A Lesson Learned from a Baby Shower

I went to my friend's [and BM] baby shower on Saturday.  It was lovely, but as she was opening gifts, I realized how little she was getting from her registry.  I whispered to her friend, "Is it me, or did she not register for any of this?"  The friend, "C," confirmed.

As someone who has just created [and is obsessed with] her own registries, I stuck to it.  C had just had a her own baby and when we could adequately whisper, told me her hypothesis.  She had just had a son, but they didn't find out the gender.  C got everything from her registry, including the "boring" stuff: crib sheets, diaper pail, etc.  C figured that because we all know my BM is having a girl, friends and family couldn't resist the adorable baby clothes!  I think she's right because I'd estimate 90% of what she got were clothes, which included a baby bikini!  It was off the cuteness meter, but, if it were me, I'd want more by the way of diapers.  So, I may keep my future babies' gender a secret for this reason.  

As a semi-related aside, she registered at myregistry.com, which I found less than ideal.  It's a universal regisitry that gathers the items you want from any online reailers.  When you click on an item, you leave the registry to go to the specific retailer's site.  You have to then go back to the registry to confirm you purchased an item, as opposed to it being done automatically because it isn't linked to any one store.  I wonder if that contributed to gift choices.
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Re: A Lesson Learned from a Baby Shower

  • That's really interesting and definitely food for thought! I'll have to pass that on to my pregnant bridesmaid!
  • I agree, this is interesting and something I didn't think of. Thanks for the tips!
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  • When I had Carter, everyone knew I was having a boy, but I still got mostly what I registered for at my showers. I think it just depends on your circle of friends.
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  • I also went to a baby shower this weekend! She's having a girl and received many items that were on her registry. She also had 2 showers though so that was probably a factor.

    Something else I noticed: there were no games. We ate lunch and watched her open presents.  Myself and the other women at my table almost felt like we were only invited to bring her a gift.  For some who aren't too into games at showers, please reconsider, even if it's just one or two!

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  • I always wanted to know the gender of the baby but now I've decided to not even find out but for a different reason. I hate pink and I want to avoid it as long as possible. FSIL didn't find out what she was having and got a lot of cute gender-neutral things and a bunch off of her registry.

    I do think it really depends on your circle of friends and family. That registry does sound like an inconvience though. People were probably afraid of too many huge duplicate gifts.
  • I think it depends on a lot of factors, especially for a baby.  For instance, the first new baby in a family in a long time can easily contribute to friends and relatives going crazy overboard. 

    I think you're somewhat right about the gender of the baby contributing to it, but it also has a lot to do with what the family does - some just don't care about registries, no matter what the occasion.  I've been told that in my FI's family, usually the things you register for (at least the big-ticket items like crib, changing table, etc.) are not given at the shower, but are still purchased by his immediate family as gifts for the new baby before it's born.
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  • I am the girl that hates to buy the lame things off the registry for a baby shower. I just do not find them fun. I usually try to do a "theme" so I'll get the bathing stuff or something, and get the lotions and whatnot mom wanted, but I pick out my own cute things in addition.
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  • MMRoberts11MMRoberts11 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_a-lesson-learned-from-a-baby-shower?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:8982ece4-0fde-4a6e-a8a0-d14d493f0643Post:c44b79a5-e0a3-46b8-8acb-6a6e0a7773b0">Re: A Lesson Learned from a Baby Shower</a>:
    [QUOTE]I am the girl that hates to buy the lame things off the registry for a baby shower. I just do not find them fun. I usually try to do a "theme" so I'll get the bathing stuff or something, and get the lotions and whatnot mom wanted, but I pick out my own cute things in addition.
    Posted by diamondx423[/QUOTE]

    I'm the same way.  I usually try to do a theme or make a cute thing (teddy bear riding a diaper motorcycle or something.

    My thoughts for baby showers is that it is ok to go outside of the registry once you get an idea what they want.  With baby's it's not like the parents won't use the extra bib or outfit unless they hate it.
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_a-lesson-learned-from-a-baby-shower?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:8982ece4-0fde-4a6e-a8a0-d14d493f0643Post:c44b79a5-e0a3-46b8-8acb-6a6e0a7773b0">Re: A Lesson Learned from a Baby Shower</a>:
    [QUOTE]I am the girl that hates to buy the lame things off the registry for a baby shower. I just do not find them fun. I usually try to do a "theme" so I'll get the bathing stuff or something, and get the lotions and whatnot mom wanted, but I pick out my own cute things in addition.
    Posted by diamondx423[/QUOTE]

    I am the same way! I hate buying off a registry period. I like to find more unique gifts.

    My mom was asking me this weekend if I wanted our registry info on my bridal shower invites. I told her no, I prefer people get me what they want and if they are stumped they can go to the registry. We have a full house full of things anyway.. most of our registry items are just upgrading our hand me down college stuff to real adult stuff. I like when people get creative and go off the registry.

    Good to know on that website.. I almost used it.. glad I didn't.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: A Lesson Learned from a Baby Shower : I'm the same way.  <strong>I usually try to do a theme or make a cute thing (teddy bear riding a diaper motorcycle or something.</strong> My thoughts for baby showers is that it is ok to go outside of the registry once you get an idea what they want.  With baby's it's not like the parents won't use the extra bib or outfit unless they hate it.
    Posted by MMRoberts11[/QUOTE]

    That sounds pretty epic - can I call you for the diaper sculpture for the next shower I go to? :D
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: A Lesson Learned from a Baby Shower : That sounds pretty epic - can I call you for the diaper sculpture for the next shower I go to? :D
    Posted by DrPB2b13[/QUOTE]

    Sure!  I know the mom's usually get tired and opening everything if it's a larger shower can be a lot so I try to make it fun.  Is it a pain?  Sometimes, but the last two (and only 2) I did the moms were really excited to see and look at how it was made with diapers, toys, and clothing.
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  • I believe that if somebody takes the time to create a registry, as a guest I should buy them something off of that registry.  I also try to do a theme when buying registry gifts for a baby shower. The last shower I went to I bought the mom the bath set she wanted and some of the towels she registered for. But I'm also weird and enjoy/obsess over what to buy somebody off their registry.
  • I don't think I could NOT find out the sex of the baby.  Not that I want a pink vs. blue room (I'd actually like yellow/green theme) but I'm such a planner than "bam baby, it's a girl!" would be too much for me to handle.  I need to know the exact name of the baby like months in advance hahah
  • With Audrina, I made a registry to help my friends get an idea of things we hadn't yet purchased. A lot of them had been asking for ideas, so that's why I set it up.

    I did get a ton of what I needed off of my registry.

    That being said, I do agree, at least in my circle, that expecting a girl means CLOTHES and tons of them. I am so thankful I didn't buy a lot of clothing pre-shower because I ended up with more than enough to dress this child for her first 3 months of life lol. And I only had about 20 people at my shower!

    It took me 3 days to wash and dry all of the clothes and blankets..haha

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