My Momzilla and a venue.

Raimey23

Just responding to the question below.. and maybe asking what y'all think...

In Response to Re: Roll Call...:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Roll Call... : If you don't mind me asking, why is your mom throwing a fit, or is that a discussion for a new thread?
Posted by 2012JulyBride[/QUOTE]

This is because I said my mother is freaking out about our venue. I know I could just go without her paying for me, I've told her it was fine! I would be just ok (we would just elope, no biggie). 

My mom is a control freak, and she's cheap too. She hates the women (who we basically called once a day for a week after not doing anything for a month or 2), the manager is just basically a ... well you know. My mom think's it is too expensive, and that they are overcharging us (BTW it's $135 a person (5 course meal, open bar, cake (without fondant(which I find tastes like paste anyway)!!! which my mom also is freaking about because to add fondant it's $5 a person) the venue is also on a lake with a west facing window wall <-- Sunset!!). And she's heard about the venue from some people who said they give you barely no food (I've also heard great things about them). 

All in all my mother thinks that we should get married in someones back yard with a BBQ/potluck (which could be great for someone but not for me). 

My mother is more frugal, I'm quite extravagant. She wants to get the most for her money, I would rather get the best quality for my money. 

My matron of honor also told my mother I didn't like it. Which is not true.. I was in a conundrum, which I may still be in. 

The venue is the best option for me... 

Le sigh.. this can go on forever! Or maybe just because I am stubborn, love to fight, and don't mind blabbering on for hours!  

sprtychick10

they are charging you $135/person???

Raimey23

Yes... it's not a super lot for here, I would say it's mediocre. That also includes gratuity, the only thing extra is sales tax, which is 6%.

2012JulyBride

How many people are you anticipating on inviting?

You mentioned eloping and a backyard wedding, what do YOU and FI want to do?

Have you asked your mom her budget (or how much she's willing to contribute)?
-If so, how much?

If you kind of have your heart set on this place, would you and FI be able to make up the difference that your mom won't cover?

DodgersBride

My first question is who is paying? If your mom is paying then you really need to consider her opinions. If you don't like her opinions then pay for the wedding yourselves. If you are paying then your mom should have no say in your wedding.

$135 pp is not bad at all for all that you mentioned. Even where I live.

My matron of honor also told my mother I didn't like it. Which is not true.. I was in a conundrum, which I may still be in. 

What did your MOH tell your mom you didn't like?

diamondx423

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_momzilla-venue?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:8f2b5786-f093-48e4-837f-29541c85788bPost:15cad22c-bd3e-4f6f-bab8-352f4e5ede71">Re: My Momzilla and a venue.</a>:
[QUOTE]Yes... it's not a super lot for here, I would say it's mediocre. That also includes gratuity, the only thing extra is sales tax, which is 6%.
Posted by Raimey23[/QUOTE]

Yeah, $135 isn't bad at all. Is it for a Saturday? A Friday might be cheaper and make her happier. Maybe try to negotiate with them, promise a higher minimum in exchange for $5 off pp, or throwing in a Viennese hour or extra station at the cocktail hour.

arielmatador14

I am getting married in CT and that is reasonable. I am paying just slightly less but I am getting married on a Friday.

sprtychick10

I guess I am just naive in the cost of weddings....hope you settled things with your mom

diamondx423

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_momzilla-venue?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:8f2b5786-f093-48e4-837f-29541c85788bPost:ece7082d-d96b-457c-8e8d-e9b119ef5802">Re: My Momzilla and a venue.</a>:
[QUOTE]I guess I am just naive in the cost of weddings....hope you settled things with your mom
Posted by sprtychick10[/QUOTE]

it has nothing to do wit being naive, just that in the NY, NJ, CT, Philadelphia area its very common. my friend got married in florida and had an amazing wedding for less than half of my entire budget. 

Raimey23

My mother is insisting she pays. 

But she wants to pay what she wants to pay. 

Honestly I'm not sure what I want to do.. There is nothing around here venue wise that would make me happy. 

I'll respond more later.. very tired. 

And yes CT is overpriced but its CT, we live with it. 

CvilleClaire

FWIW, I just got an email from one of our top choice photographers and almost cried it was so cheap.

I grew up in NJ, right outside of NYC.  I think getting married in Virginia is going to cost about half what I expected because things are so reasonable down here.

$135 sounds great to me for the NYC area.