I am at a total loss of how to support one of my bridesmaids. Let me just start by saying I haven't gotten any of this information from her - I've gotten it from my other bridesmaids, because she is not responding to my communications.
Bridesmaid B is someone who, in college, kept herself crazy busy because I'm pretty sure it's the only way she can function. If she has no choice but to move from task to task to task, it has to get done; otherwise she kind of just procrastinates and watches TV. She was a double major, president of the theater club, actress and stage techie, and a resident/community assistant. We worked together as RA/CAs and I count her as a really good friend of mine - we helped each other through some really tough times.
After she graduated with two degrees, she REALLY wanted to go into theater, but her parents really discouraged it because it doesn't really put food on the table. To appease them she applied to teaching jobs instead, and is now an elementary school teacher in a small town a few hours away from her family - and everyone else she knows. She's an amazing teacher, but really didn't want this job. As a result, I think, she is incredibly overwhelmed with all of the little details of the job she had never thought of, since she didn't think she'd be going into this career.
To add to this, she's incredibly lonely because she's so far from home - and in the past year, both her older sister AND her younger brother have gotten engaged to their long-term SO's (her brother to one of her BFFs). I think she's feeling left out, especially as her mom gets REALLY excited for wedding planning with her daughter and FDIL.
She is currently the only BM who hasn't chosen her dress because she won't return my texts/emails/voicemails. I am stressed out over this, but more stressed out over the fact that I don't know how to support her in her struggles right now. How do I let her know I'm here for her, but also that I really need her to do this for me?
I am tempted to let her know she can drop out if she wants to, since I know she's been having trouble dealing with both her sister & brother's weddings, but I don't want to phrase it at all as though I want her to, or that she should. I want her to do what she needs to do for herself.
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