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Poll: Questions of the Day

You know the rules...1. If you (strongly) want kids but your spouse already has one & doesn't want any more, is this a reason to get divorced ? or if he told you this after you were engaged would you go through with the marriage?2. If you could change 1 thing about the opposite sex what would it be ?3.  What is the craziest thing that you have heard that made you say... "WTF????"

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    edited December 2011
    1. If you (strongly) want kids but your spouse already has one & doesn't want any more, is this a reason to get divorced ? or if he told you this after you were engaged would you go through with the marriage? oh, that is a haarrrd one! Umm, that would be a problem. I couldn't move forward with someone that didn't want children with me.2. If you could change 1 thing about the opposite sex what would it be ? their way of thinking! men are from MARS!3. What is the craziest thing that you have heard that made you say... "WTF????" "My friend told me she likes to eat eggs with her "chitterlings"
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    ewww  #3, gross Bro!!  I think I threw up in my mouth1. If I knew this before hand and he was truly serious than I would not go through with the relationship, knowing I want children will only cause problems in the future..true story when i would go on dates, that was always the second ? I would ask "do you want children" of course after, "what do you do for a living" or "are there any crazy ex's I should be worrying about?"2. I would change the way they handle their emotions, I want to know WTH you are thinking!!!!3. So, gross...im sitting at my desk and this woman is talking to me about her uterus  **blank stare**
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    NELCORPNELCORP member
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    1. If you (strongly) want kids but your spouse already has one & doesn't want any more, is this a reason to get divorced ? or if he told you this after you were engaged would you go through with the marriage? This is something I would have found out before the engagement. I always wanted kids and being with a man who did too was a must on my list. So if I found out without a doubt the man I was dating did not want kids, that would have been a red flag to note that the relationship would not become serious.  2. If you could change 1 thing about the opposite sex what would it be ? Nothing, every person is different. And there's not one thing I would change about DH. I love him for who he is...he's good characteristics and his flaws.3. What is the craziest thing that you have heard that made you say... "WTF????" Too many do think about. People in this world are crazy. The most recent would be that a father shot his son dead over a video game.
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    blue19violetblue19violet member
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    You know the rules... 1. If you (strongly) want kids but your spouse already has one & doesn't want any more, is this a reason to get divorced? or if he told you this after you were engaged would you go through with the marriage? I’d feel betrayed if he did not tell me this before we got married. This would def increase the chance of divorce. It’s not like this is an issue around my liking peanut butter and your hating it. Someone will have to compromise on this and that’s not an easy compromise to make. Unless you’re ready to fully have a change of heart (one way or the other) then resentment will build until it chokes your marriage. 2. If you could change 1 thing about the opposite sex what would it be? Lol, just 1? I’d definitely have to say peeing on the toilet – I grew up with four brothers and a boatload of male cousins. I used to promise to divorce my husband if he ever did that crap. 3. What is the craziest thing that you have heard that made you say... "WTF????" Lol, my family and I will probably have to go into the witness protection program if I say this. However, it was the chick who “made” her bf marry her so she could keep him out of jail. “Say WHAT now?” Are you so desperate to be a Mrs. that you are willing to marry a murderer *1st degree, at that*? B*&^%, what makes you think that this mother muther won’t choke your low-self esteem a$$???? Lol, can you tell I’m still tripping on this? This seems extreme but women do that shyte all of the effin’ time. If you’re not threatening the dude with a jail sentence, it’s with something else. I only have a B.A. in psych but it don’t take a degree to let you know that if you have to “threaten, intimidate or terrorize” to get your man to give you a ring, that’s a PROBLEM! Are you really expecting to live happily ever after? Why would you care so little about your self that you’d willingly enter into something that’s gonna make you miserable? Let me stop before my pressure goes up ;).
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    blue19violetblue19violet member
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    edited December 2011
    Gross about uterus and eggs/pork guts combo. So sad about the father/son shooting. The world is just insane.
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    edited December 2011
    Yes, that marriage vs. jail situation is freakin hilarious!
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    1. My fiance doesn't have and children and neither do I but if he told me that he didn't want to have children I don't think I go through with the marriage. I want children so bad but I don't want to feel like I've forced him into having them. I think that people who are married already should really sit down and figure out what they were going to do. Divorce is a big step but having children is one also. That would be a super tough decision.2. If I could change 1 thing about the opposite sex it would be nothing. I think that each individual may have something that could/would need to be changed but as a whole they are ok.3. That my 2 cousins who are 1st cousins are boyfriend and girlfriend. And they know they are cousins. WTF?!
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    edited December 2011
    1. I agree w/some previous posters. It may become a greater reason for divorce. Amazing how we can argue about 1 thing and it all really centers around something else--in this case, the fact that my partner wouldn't want kids. 2. I'd change the fact that they don't necessarily talk very much. Can I please get some real conversation other than at work! LOL 3.  My co-worker asked me yesterday about another co-workers butt! She asked, "Girl, what happened to X's butt. It's like it's poofy at the top but cut off on the bottom. Did somebody steal her butt??" Uhm...sorry. You gotta ask X yourself!
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    blue19violetblue19violet member
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    "it's poofy at the top but cut off on the bottom" - How did you keep a straight face?
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    edited December 2011
    Awwww...she's got a heart shaped butt! lol
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    OFFOFF
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    1). This is a good question. Neither of us have kids and the FI really wants them but I don't. We both know this about each other and are still getting married. The thinking being I'll cave in, but I'm secretly hoping my eggs won't cooperate. If my FI didn't want kids and I was crazy to have them I'd get 2 dogs they're basically the same. Now if he said he didn't want cats that would be a problem. 2). The fact they cannot remember ANYTHING you tell them even if you said it 30 seconds ago. 3). This guy who tried to kill (but failed) one of my mom's coworkers got sentenced to 2 life sentences PLUS 15 years. We're all like WOW! He must have ticked that judge off. Even the woman he tried to kill was like that's a really harsh. Sadly he had rejected the plea deal for 20 years.
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    blue19violetblue19violet member
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    Off, that fool is sitting in his cell pissed off at himself. WOW! It cracks me up when they give folks things like "Life, plus 100 years". I think it effs you up mentally. Trying to figure out how to do life is hard enough without having to think about the extra 100 years. Does that mean that you're housing my skeleton when I die?
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    edited December 2011
    Blue..Girl, what straight face!! I was laughing so hard I had tears in my eyes! Of course, she walked past my desk like 25 times yesterday! And Off--I agree w/your answer to #2. Especially when I'll say...Did you hear me? Oh yeah. Well, what I say den? Girl, gone. I know what you said.
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    edited December 2011
    LMFAO @ Off you are a fool, with your eggs...
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    1. If you (strongly) want kids but your spouse already has one & doesn't want any more, is this a reason to get divorced ? or if he told you this after you were engaged would you go through with the marriage?-my bf has a kid, he can't wait to have a little girl..i feel as though i wouldn't fault them for it, but one day they will come around and decide to have another one..or you may have to do the sneaky gurl, and get off bc lol.. the same goes for if you about to get married and they don't want kids, trust me they will have a change of heart because they will want to have at least one with you.2. If you could change 1 thing about the opposite sex what would it be ?- that always want to know everything!! so irritating, but still gotta love him.3. What is the craziest thing that you have heard that made you say... "WTF????" - ok my bestfriend is engaged, and her fiance puts pictures of him and his ex on facebook, and i ask her what is he thinking?? she was like " she was before me" wtf?? you about to marry this man, what you mean?? lol
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    MrsJJohnson2BMrsJJohnson2B member
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    If you (strongly) want kids but your spouse already has one & doesn't want any more, is this a reason to get divorced ? or if he told you this after you were engaged would you go through with the marriage?  I would say no to divorce but would like him to be open to possiblity! 2. If you could change 1 thing about the opposite sex what would it be ?   Wishing they could read minds when it comes to gifts and etc... 3. What is the craziest thing that you have heard that made you say... "WTF????" the chick on my jobs husband is at war he tells her to get an apartment with a room-mate meanwhile he knows he is coming home in 3 months! Sounds a little freaky you ask me
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    edited December 2011
    1. Originally my FI said he didn't want anymore kids (he has two). But now he really wants us to have one. Either way I would've still married him. 2. I'd want them to just be able to listen and say it'll be OK without trying to solve the problem. 3. I'm a social worker that happens every day. (today it was "I think y'all should give my daughter back her baby it's not her fault this economy made her deal meth") Ummm..... what ?!
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    1. If you (strongly) want kids but your spouse already has one & doesn't want any more, is this a reason to get divorced ? or if he told you this after you were engaged would you go through with the marriage?I don't believe I would let a relationship get to the point of marriage without asking if he wanted kids. To me that's almost a first or second date question, because it's serious and if you guys aren't on the same page about it, it is going to be a MAJOR problem in the long run.2. If you could change 1 thing about the opposite sex what would it be ?I wish they were a wee-bit more emotional.. I have a million different emotions daily and I'm capable of talking about them..I wish men could too..I know some can..but I haven't dated one.3. What is the craziest thing that you have heard that made you say... "WTF????"Idk..I hear so many crazy things everyday(I work with almost all males)..Oh..the other receptionist said that she and her hubby didn't believe in oral sex and she pretty much said they only do missionary! I was a little shocked..and replied damn that's a boring sex life!
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    KamishKamish member
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    1. If you (strongly) want kids but your spouse already has one & doesn't want any more, is this a reason to get divorced ? or if he told you this after you were engaged would you go through with the marriage? -No kids is a deal breaker......this legacy has got to continue!!!!!!!!!!! 2. If you could change 1 thing about the opposite sex what would it be ? -Can't speak for all men but for the one in this house, I would change his though process. I just don't understand what he is thinking sometimes! 3. What is the craziest thing that you have heard that made you say... "WTF????" -Plies' song "Becky" at the elementary school dance today! And the kids knew the words!!!!!
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    1. No, not a reason to get divorced2. Chit, there are so many 1 things....their internal GPS system really worked. Their external GPS system (us) works flawlessly.3. " Yep, dat's riight! I'm fo'teen, I dreuss liike dis, look at alla dis. I got mens, pimps, and boyfirends....but I ain't had sex yet, they just liiike to b 'round me"..... "WTFF????"....thank you very much Maury Povich
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    tamtam7tamtam7 member
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    1. If you (strongly) want kids but your spouse already has one & doesn't want any more, is this a reason to get divorced ? or if he told you this after you were engaged would you go through with the marriage?If you went through with the marriage hoping that he would change his mind, that's on you...I woud say that it's not reason for divorce b/c you knew what you were getting yourself into. I wouldn't go through with the marriage if having kids was something I strongly wanted.2. If you could change 1 thing about the opposite sex what would it be ?If I could change one thing about the opposite sex it would be their inability to express emotions. I mean I don't want them to run around crying all of the time, but be comfortable with expressing a range of emotions other than anger all of the time.3. What is the craziest thing that you have heard that made you say... "WTF????" My EX hairdresser suggested that I purchase a bodymagic body shaper, and she's bigger than me. I thought WTF!  You must not want my business anymore or a tip.
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