No R.S.V.P.= No S.E.A.T.

tyboyd

AND I MEAN IT!!! lol. After vfriday's post, I wondered what you ladies are going to do if/when people that have not RSVP'd show up at your wedding?!

Here's my plan:
I will have a HEAD hostess, an adult with wedding experience. She will have a list of the people that have RSVP'd. She will also have a list of people that did NOT RSVP. When the people come up to the table, they will be asked their name. When she locates them on the RSVP list, she will then let them pass to the other 2 hostesses. They will help them to find their name on the escort card chart. And from there, assist them with finding their tables if they need it.

If their name is NOT on the RSVP list, she'll look on the "invited but ain't RSVP" list. If they're on there, then she'll tell them that they can wait to see if someone that RSVP'd had not shown up and we MIGHT be able to accommodate them.

If their name is on neither list... CHILE, BYE! You wasn't even invited! Go to bed!!!

SO, what are yall's game plans?!

msapril0730

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[QUOTE]AND I MEAN IT!!! lol. After vfriday's post, I wondered what you ladies are going to do if/when people that have not RSVP'd show up at your wedding?! Here's my plan:<strong> I will have a HEAD hostess, an adult with wedding experience. She will have a list of the people that have RSVP'd. She will also have a list of people that did NOT RSVP. When the people come up to the table, they will be asked their name. When she locates them on the RSVP list, she will then let them pass to the other 2 hostesses. They will help them to find their name on the escort card chart. And from there, assist them with finding their tables if they need it. If their name is NOT on the RSVP list, she'll look on the "invited but ain't RSVP" list. If they're on there, then she'll tell them that they can wait to see if someone that RSVP'd had not shown up and we MIGHT be able to accommodate them.</strong> If their name is on neither list... CHILE, BYE! You wasn't even invited! Go to bed!!! SO, you are yall's game plans?!
Posted by tyboyd[/QUOTE]

I'm doing this.... Except my DOC team will be handling it.

I just had someone call me yesterday and ask was it too late to RSVP! Ummm.... YES! You had two months to decide if you were coming.

kiyamurph

That is too funny!  I have no idea what we're going to do yet.  I know that some of FI's ghetto azz family will be the ones to just show up.  I'm having escort cards and maybe what we'll do is if someone who didn't RSVP is wondering where their escort card is, then we can kind of do what you're doing Ty and have them kind of wait and see if there's somewhere they can sit.  Or maybe we'll have an extra table in the back corner (because if you don't RSVP you don't deserve a good seat!) as kind of an "overflow" table.  I don't know though.  I'm not looking forward to this part AT ALL!

sweets18

I been thinking about this ALOT lately... I don't know what our plan of action is going to be yet, but I like your idea Ty.

kittybutton

I went to a friends wedding and that's what he did. He called ppl up by last names. Then checked to see what list they were on. I saw some ppl pissed but I was like oh well you should have RSVPd shoot. A wedding cost $$$ and all u had to do is say yes or no that you coming.

lil01

I have 2 hostesses who will be at the table with the escort cards. They will be there to see who picks up their card & who doesn't find their card. Then, I have a DOC (came with venue) & a friend of the family who is assisting the DOC. The friend of the family will be at the door (and she does NOT play) with the list of those who rsvp'd. If their name is not on the list, they will have to wait until everyone has been seated, and may be able to be seated if there are no-shows.

For those who show up but weren't invited (depending on who your are), I don't mind if they take a seat of a no-show. I'd rather fill the seat than have it empty & waste our money.

vfriday

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[QUOTE] . If their name is on neither list... <strong>CHILE, BYE! You wasn't even invited! Go to bed!!!</strong>
Posted by tyboyd[/QUOTE]

I would so love to be a fly on the wall to this this happen.

lisa4766

Those who did not RSVP will have to wait to be seated.  But I think I will be ok.  I had a few people call this week and said that they could not make it after all... work schedule wont allow it.  I am totally cool with that.  I dont think I will have any surprise guests..  ohhh

FI aunt who never RSVP's (highly educated woman) decided to come at the last minute. Which meant I had move my table seating around AGAIN!   I will not print my escort card until next week.  

vanna0092

tyboyd I am doing the same thing. RSVP is very important to me. Our DOC will call everyone that don't RSVP 3wks before wedding. After the call there is no point in showing up.

ThunderKitten2011

What Tyboyd said!

mahoganieyes

I agree with you T!

happe2gether

I'm thinking we might be able to avoid this because to even get on the resort your name has to be on the guest list.  So if all goes as planned, anyone who hasn't RSVP'd will be SOL and I don't plan on feeling bad about that at all.  They just don't realize how expensive it is to pay for each seat.

simbidi

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[QUOTE]That is too funny!  I have no idea what we're going to do yet.  I know that <strong>some of FI's ghetto azz family will be the ones to just show up</strong>.  I'm having escort cards and maybe what we'll do is if someone who didn't RSVP is wondering where their escort card is, then we can kind of do what you're doing Ty and have them kind of wait and see if there's somewhere they can sit.  Or maybe we'll have an extra table in the back corner (because if you don't RSVP you don't deserve a good seat!) as kind of an "overflow" table.  I don't know though.  I'm not looking forward to this part AT ALL!
Posted by kiyamurph[/QUOTE]

<div>This.. yes!!!  I will probably do something like tyboyd.  Can't stand foolish ignorance though!</div>

tyboyd

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[QUOTE]I'm thinking we might be able to avoid this because to even get on the resort your name has to be on the guest list.  So if all goes as planned, anyone who hasn't RSVP'd will be SOL and I don't plan on feeling bad about that at all.  <font color="#ff0000"><strong>They just don't realize how expensive it is to pay for each seat.
</strong></font>Posted by happe2gether[/QUOTE]

EXACTLY!!! But I have some ppl that have had large weddings that haven't RSVP'd and at this point... OH WELL! My new song is:
"FACE ON THE GROUND! FACE ON THE GROUND! YOU LOOKIN LIKE A FOOL WIT YO FACE ON THE GROUND!"

LOL!!!

happe2gether

HILARIOUS TY!!!   LOL!!

Yeah, I'm one of those big wedding guest list people.  I think it will be more folks on my side not doing the right thing than his.

kiyamurph

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: No R.S.V.P.= No S.E.A.T. : EXACTLY!!! But I have some ppl that have had large weddings that haven't RSVP'd and at this point... OH WELL! <span style="font-weight:bold;" class="Apple-style-span">My new song is: "FACE ON THE GROUND! FACE ON THE GROUND! YOU LOOKIN LIKE A FOOL WIT YO FACE ON THE GROUND!" LOL!!!</span>
Posted by tyboyd[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Hahahahahahahahaha!

</div>

flawlessfay

My planner is calling anyone who has not responded on May5th and telling them we need to know NOW. If they don't respond by the 6th, she will call them and say...DON'T BOTHER COMING. I am not setting extra seats at 104 per person

BluIvory82

Haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa, Ty you are silly. I almost cried reading this. I so hear you ladies. i can understand why people ACT like RSVP'ing is such a HUGE task. It's  not! You check yes or no and go about your buisness. I am with everyone else. I dont care if you cry, and if u dont RSVP you will not get in. I dont have the time, lol

Me&Miles96

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[QUOTE] If their name is on neither list... CHILE, BYE! You wasn't even invited! Go to bed!!! SO, what are yall's game plans?!
Posted by tyboyd[/QUOTE]

Such a classic line...Love it
And my DOC along with the Venue's coordinator will have the pleasure of saying ummm NO. I don't even play like that i personally called everyone who had not RSVP'd a week after they were due. So with that being said Good night and sleep tight cause i cant help ya.

ellone400

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: No R.S.V.P.= No S.E.A.T. : EXACTLY!!! But I have some ppl that have had large weddings that haven't RSVP'd and at this point... OH WELL! My new song is: "FACE ON THE GROUND! FACE ON THE GROUND! YOU LOOKIN LIKE A FOOL WIT YO FACE ON THE GROUND!" LOL!!!
Posted by tyboyd[/QUOTE]
lmao but true!

2010Bride2be

We're having a seating chart made by our stationer which will contain the guest names that RSVP along eith their table name. If they don't RSVP, they will not be on the seating chart, hence no seat.

Our coordinator will also have a copy of the seating chart on her to answer guest questions and help them find their tables. However, I know my parents, if somone shows up without having RSVPed, they'll be pissed but they will find a way to accomodate them and cuss them out later.

codom

Lol I kno I'm gonna have this problem!!!! WhAt I'm doing to try to avoi this is making a list of WHO rsvp'd and how many guest they rsvp'd for and have it color cOlor coded on a little card..... The day of when They check in @ the ceremony they will be given their card with the # they rsvp'd for if u don't have a card u for get to go into the reception! If u have more people than u rsvp'd for then unneeded to rock paper scissor who is getting cut!! If u just showing up and think u getting in cuz u family u need to have your $57 ready so u can eat!! Everything is gonna be paid in full before he ceremony I'm not trying to deal wit last minute stragglers..... FI has suggested we put my lil cuzzin (not really so lil 6'5 410lbs) at the door and have him act as "security" to make sure the invited people get in

wallacje

I have been thinking about this. No idea what I am going to do.  Since it's a DW hopefully I won't have folks that will just show up, not sure how to approach this if they do either.

purplehoney

This is kinda a sticky situation for me.My FI family is paying for all the food and they are like "we gonna have plenty of food so don't worry" while i would love to have some kinda order and have people RSVP- i know they wont. ANd  if they paying i can't say imma turn people around if they have the food. Pray i have enough tables to sit these people....

prettymami2

Ty please don't make me laugh girl. I feel the same way that you do. I cannot stand folks man. I have had alot of rsvp's but I am waiting on quite a few too. More than half at that.

I am going to give one courtesy call..... and it's a wrap. no rsvp no seat. I so agree.