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How Long?

ejagersejagers
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So I was inspired by Carla1019 to ask this question to you ladies after reading the knottie of the week post.  For those of you who want children (or more children with DH), how long are you going to wait to start "trying" after the wedding?

Neither I or FI have any children right now, but we agreed I would come off birth control 6 months after the wedding.  I didn't wanna wait too long as I am 31 (will be 32 when we're married) and want at least 2 children.
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  • Kedeisha8Kedeisha8
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    edited December 2011
    hahaha my answers is a str8 copy n paste

    wow personally i do not want 1 the FI has 1 already and the mom is being a meanie(polite B) but i went thru some personal tragedy at 14 surrounding kids/miscarriage/molestation so that kind of took my mind off kids but I want to wait should i change my mind once he lives here in Canada with me and I have a stable job and he has a job as daycare is so expensive and i at least want to be half way prepared
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  • djscatdjscat
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    edited December 2011
    I figured I would at least wait until we get back to the hotel room but hey if it happens on the limo ride back from the reception.. What's a girl to do? Wink
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  • wallacjewallacje member
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    edited December 2011
    We are going to wait at year before TTC.  Not sure when I should come of BC though, hmmm good question.  We want to build our emergency fund back up and get some money into savings first.

    I also want 2 kids and will be 31 next year, H already has 1, she doesn't live in the state with us.  H is fine if I don't want any but I need to have my own child if you understand that.
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  • tcage001tcage001
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_long-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:3d8126e8-dcb9-4c92-ad31-a718774e657dPost:39211d80-2313-40f9-92a2-038c4cad74fd">Re: How Long?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I figured I would at least wait until we get back to the hotel room but hey if it happens on the limo ride back from the reception.. What's a girl to do?
    Posted by djscat[/QUOTE] LOL this is so funny and how FI feels. We both want 1 and FI is 32 and I'm 29 but I said we should wait a year or aleast until we get a house. I keep hearing a lot of people say wait a least a year and now IF is leaning more towards that but at first he was like he wanted me to get prego the same day lol
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  • meshee1234meshee1234
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_long-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:3d8126e8-dcb9-4c92-ad31-a718774e657dPost:39211d80-2313-40f9-92a2-038c4cad74fd">Re: How Long?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I figured I would at least wait until we get back to the hotel room but hey if it happens on the limo ride back from the reception.. What's a girl to do?
    Posted by djscat[/QUOTE]

    Ditto!!
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  • ejagersejagers
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_long-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:3d8126e8-dcb9-4c92-ad31-a718774e657dPost:b747f0a9-be41-40d0-9d31-b39872c43c5c">Re: How Long?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: How Long? : LOL this is so funny and how FI feels. We both want 1 and FI is 32 and I'm 29 but I said we should wait a year or aleast until we get a house. I keep hearing a lot of people say wait a least a year and now IF is leaning more towards that but at first <strong>he was like he wanted me to get prego the same day lol
    </strong>Posted by tcage001[/QUOTE]

    Sounds like my FI being that we are celibate now.  He can't wait for us to be married! LOL At first, I wanted to wait a year but I figured it would take at least 3 months for the BC to get out of my system, so who knows, at the actual year mark I just may be preggo!
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  • MarryingmyKnightMarryingmyKnight
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    edited December 2011
    I have 3 kids and FI has 1.  We both want 1 more but my tubes are tied and I am a little older (33 but 34 by the end of the year) so we are getting them untied right away.  We are praying the procedure works and that I get pregnant some time in 2012.  Keep me in your prayers ladies!
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  • ejagersejagers
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_long-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:3d8126e8-dcb9-4c92-ad31-a718774e657dPost:f07ba90b-18b2-488e-b57d-b99d1c482912">Re: How Long?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I have 3 kids and FI has 1.  We both want 1 more but my tubes are tied and I am a little older (33 but 34 by the end of the year) so we are getting them untied right away.  We are praying the procedure works and that I get pregnant some time in 2012.  Keep me in your prayers ladies!
    Posted by MarryingmyKnight[/QUOTE]

    Will do!
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  • djscatdjscat
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_long-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:3d8126e8-dcb9-4c92-ad31-a718774e657dPost:b747f0a9-be41-40d0-9d31-b39872c43c5c">Re: How Long?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: How Long? : LOL this is so funny and how FI feels. We both want 1 and FI is 32 and I'm 29 but I said we should wait a year or aleast until we get a house. I keep hearing a lot of people say wait a least a year and now IF is leaning more towards that but at first he was like he wanted me to get prego the same day lol
    Posted by tcage001[/QUOTE]

    See most of ya'll on here are young I'm 37 and FI is 44.  Neither of us have any children and both of us want a child.  Well I want 1 he wants 2.  I told him he gets 1 pregnancy if he can make twins happen then cool. I found out later that twins run in his family and his mother is a twin.  So much for my smart mouth. LOL
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  • MarryingmyKnightMarryingmyKnight
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_long-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:3d8126e8-dcb9-4c92-ad31-a718774e657dPost:c4494e1e-9be8-4304-a002-d266b809fee6">Re: How Long?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: How Long? :<strong> See most of ya'll on here are young I'm 37 and FI is 44.  Neither of us have any children and both of us want a child.  Well I want 1 he wants 2.  I told him he gets 1 pregnancy if he can make twins happen then cool. I found out later that twins run in his family and his mother is a twin.  So much for my smart mouth. LOL
    </strong>Posted by djscat[/QUOTE]

    2 for 1 is not bad. Lol! 
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  • ejagersejagers
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    edited December 2011
    @ djscat GIRRRRRRLLLLLL you don't look a day over 25!  You go girl (in my Martin Lawrence voice).
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  • MsAmeera25MsAmeera25 member
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    edited December 2011

    We're going to wait a year...by not actively trying...but not preventing it either...so we'll see how it goes lol

     

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  • mikimoto6mikimoto6
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    edited December 2011
    FI and I are still on the fence about kids. Currently, neither of us have children. I am 36 and he is 45. 

    My OB/GYN says I have time if I want to have a baby so not to worry about TTC immediately.  She also said that I should be prepared for the possibility of getting pregnant immediate after coming off the pill, so I should not stop taking them until I am absolutely certain that I want kids. Doctors will put women on the pill who are TTC for 3-4 months and then take them off so they can try to get pregnant.  She said it matters not that I have been on the pill for 18 years. If i stop taking them I can get pregnant very quickly.  

    For now, FI and I are not making any huge lifestyle choices regarding kids.  For those of you who want to conceive, make sure that you have a great gyno on your team.  

    @ DJSCAT:  If you live in the Bay Area, check out Dr. Kimberly Hicks (internal medicine), Dr. Shirley Tucker-Harris, or Dr. Yvette Gentry.  They are all amazing AA OB/GYNs who are younger and very well respected in the area.  
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  • wallacjewallacje member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_long-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:3d8126e8-dcb9-4c92-ad31-a718774e657dPost:2bceb8ec-73a7-4c9f-ac29-062fa4e80b64">Re: How Long?</a>:
    [QUOTE]FI and I are still on the fence about kids. Currently, neither of us have children. I am 36 and he is 45.  My OB/GYN says I have time if I want to have a baby so not to worry about TTC immediately.  She also said that I should be prepared for the possibility of getting pregnant immediate after coming off the pill, so I should not stop taking them until I am absolutely certain that I want kids. Doctors will put women on the pill who are TTC for 3-4 months and then take them off so they can try to get pregnant.  She said it matters not that I have been on the pill for 18 years. If i stop taking them I can get pregnant very quickly.   For now, FI and I are not making any huge lifestyle choices regarding kids.  <strong>For those of you who want to conceive, make sure that you have a great gyno on your team. </strong>  @ DJSCAT:  If you live in the Bay Area, check out Dr. Kimberly Hicks (internal medicine), Dr. Shirley Tucker-Harris, or Dr. Yvette Gentry.  They are all amazing AA OB/GYNs who are younger and very well respected in the area.  
    Posted by mikimoto6[/QUOTE]

    This has me thinking that I need to change doctors.  I go to a family practice but everytime I go I get someone different. Hmmm. Ugh, how do you test drive a Gyno?
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  • djscatdjscat
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_long-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:3d8126e8-dcb9-4c92-ad31-a718774e657dPost:2123b9b0-0b08-41fb-b3b2-00ada77f1012">Re: How Long?</a>:
    [QUOTE]@ djscat<strong> GIRRRRRRLLLLLL you don't look a day over 25! </strong> You go girl (in my Martin Lawrence voice).
    Posted by ejagers[/QUOTE]

    I LOVE YOU! I LOVE YOU! I LOVE YOU!!!!! LOL 
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  • djscatdjscat
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_long-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:3d8126e8-dcb9-4c92-ad31-a718774e657dPost:2bceb8ec-73a7-4c9f-ac29-062fa4e80b64">Re: How Long?</a>:
    [QUOTE]FI and I are still on the fence about kids. Currently, neither of us have children. I am 36 and he is 45.  My OB/GYN says I have time if I want to have a baby so not to worry about TTC immediately.  She also said that I should be prepared for the possibility of getting pregnant immediate after coming off the pill, so I should not stop taking them until I am absolutely certain that I want kids. Doctors will put women on the pill who are TTC for 3-4 months and then take them off so they can try to get pregnant.  She said it matters not that I have been on the pill for 18 years. If i stop taking them I can get pregnant very quickly.   For now, FI and I are not making any huge lifestyle choices regarding kids.  For those of you who want to conceive, make sure that you have a great gyno on your team.   @ <strong>DJSCAT:  If you live in the Bay Area, check out Dr. Kimberly Hicks (internal medicine), Dr. Shirley Tucker-Harris, or Dr. Yvette Gentry.  They are all amazing AA OB/GYNs who are younger and very well respected in the area.  
    Posted by mikimoto6[/QUOTE]

    Hey thanks a bunch for the info I will surely check them out!!!
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  • vanna0092vanna0092
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_long-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:3d8126e8-dcb9-4c92-ad31-a718774e657dPost:c4494e1e-9be8-4304-a002-d266b809fee6">Re: How Long?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: How Long? : See most of ya'll on here are young I'm 37 and FI is 44.  Neither of us have any children and both of us want a child.  Well I want 1 he wants 2.  I told him he gets 1 pregnancy if he can make twins happen then cool. I found out later that twins run in his family and his mother is a twin.  So much for my smart mouth. LOL
    Posted by djscat[/QUOTE

    I too am 37 FI is 42 I have two children, he has none.  he wants two also. All I can say is "before 40" I will be fine and sexy at 40 !!!!!! <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />  However I look forward to having a child or two with the man God designed for me. He would be a great DAD..
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  • mikimoto6mikimoto6
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    edited December 2011
    @wallacej:  I was very focused on finding a black female OB/GYN.  I met one that was came really highly recommended, but was lackluster at best. I really liked the doctor she shared an office with.  I asked her if she was taking new patients and what insurance she accepted.  In the meantime, I saw her speak at a women's health forum and was reallyWhen I had the chance to change my insurace, I made the switch and got on her book immediately!!! I am so happy with her that I am trying to keep her as long as I can. 

    It may take a little trial and error, but if you don't connect with someone I say keep looking. 
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  • LSASLSAS member
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    edited December 2011
    We have a son already and plan to get started on another right after the wedding :), however I'm ready now!
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  • Gift928Gift928
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    edited December 2011

    We're still both young (i'm 26, he's 31) but i do want one within a year!!

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  • japonica334japonica334
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    edited December 2011

    We are both 31 and I will be a couple of weeks shy of my 32nd bday when i get married. We talked of a year enjoying being married and then starting a family(2-3kids), I just dont want to wait too long. :)

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  • Ksk2012Ksk2012
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    edited December 2011
    I am 31 will be 32 by the wedding date , he will be 33, so I am ok with starting the night of.  LOL Neither of us has children and he says he wants three. I am like WTF? 2 sounds like enough for me!

    I have been on BC for a while too and I planned to speak to my doc about coming off and that transition.. A previous poster mentioned TTC what is that?
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  • ejagersejagers
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_long-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:3d8126e8-dcb9-4c92-ad31-a718774e657dPost:65e8cbe3-0c4e-4c4c-bbbd-39d24c8a7fc2">Re: How Long?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I am 31 will be 32 by the wedding date , he will be 33, so I am ok with starting the night of.  LOL Neither of us has children and he says he wants three. I am like WTF? 2 sounds like enough for me! I have been on BC for a while too and I planned to speak to my doc about coming off and that transition.. A previous poster mentioned<strong> TTC what is that?
    </strong>Posted by Ksk2012[/QUOTE]

    Trying to conceive, I believe.
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  • shaneikawshaneikaw member
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     figured I would at least wait until we get back to the hotel room but hey if it happens on the limo ride back from the reception.. What's a girl to do? Wink 

    YES I LOVE IT!!!! We already have one and I want another one I really want my girl being that our son will be 3 when we get married I would prefer to try right after the wedding so that way they are not too far apart.


    Yes TTC is trying to conceive

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  • Soon2BSandSoon2BSand
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    edited December 2011
    A couple years if at all... we have 3 already but would like one of our own. The thought of starting over freaks us out but he was also not included in the both of bonus son and wants that experience.
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  • BluIvory82BluIvory82
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    edited December 2011
    We have agreed to wait two years after getting married. I am working on my masters now, and I would like to start on the doctorate then have some babies, LOL only 2 though
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  • kbval0512kbval0512
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    edited December 2011
    Well ladies!!!  We already have one together....  Our 3 year old boy name Kayden. What's funny is we said that our next child could be born by the end of 2012...LOL Umm meaning we will have to be getting to it right after the wedding especially since we are getting married March 2012. So it doesn't leave that many months for us to make it happened.
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  • chescamchescam member
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    edited December 2011
    We plan to wait about 4 years. I only want one child but I'm also open to adopting another. We don't have any children and our parents have been hinting about grandkids but they'll have to wait.
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  • Carla1019Carla1019
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_long-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:3d8126e8-dcb9-4c92-ad31-a718774e657dPost:39211d80-2313-40f9-92a2-038c4cad74fd">Re: How Long?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I figured I would at least wait until we get back to the hotel room but hey if it happens on the limo ride back from the reception.. What's a girl to do?
    Posted by djscat[/QUOTE]

    Love it! I already told FI that it might be crackin in the limo from the church to the reception. If we wait until after the party we might be too tired! LOL!!

    Our honeymoon will last 2 weeks so hopefully we can make a baby in that time.
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  • Carla1019Carla1019
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_long-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:3d8126e8-dcb9-4c92-ad31-a718774e657dPost:f3deebcf-e35d-4e7f-8c67-ee2a1f19ed4f">Re: How Long?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Well ladies!!!  We already have one together....  <strong>Our 3 year old boy name Kayden. </strong>What's funny is we said that our next child could be born by the end of 2012...LOL Umm meaning we will have to be getting to it right after the wedding especially since we are getting married March 2012. So it doesn't leave that many months for us to make it happened.
    Posted by kbval0512[/QUOTE]

    I love that name, my son's name is Caleb and if I had another boy Kayden would be a perfect name. Can it be spelled with a C. Or does that change the pronunciation?  This board is great! Never know what you will learn. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />
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