Did anyone else have a hard time getting your FI to understand who to invite and who not to invite? My FI is not saying we should invite everyone but he also says we have to make cuts?!? I keep saying when are you going to make the cut after they send you the RSVP card back and say hey i've booked my flight. We are having a destination wedding and only want about 50 people to come. I really think it's going to be that many people (if we watch the guest list) however my FI is saying oh we have to invite this couple b/c we used to hang out with them. However I'd rather make sure all our family member are invited b/c 1) they are more likely to come and 2) they are family! Also I'd like to make the cuts now prior to paying for a STD, Invitation and Stamp (cause hey if not that's wasting money)! I know that some people maybe upset b/c they don't make the guest list and I'm ok with saying well we are having a small ceremony with family and close friends! I just don't know why my FI doesn't get it. Sorry if I sound like i'm rambling I've been thinking about this since Wednesday and our conversation about it aren't changing and now I'm starting to feel like am I crazy!

Re: Guest List
He got the message.
[QUOTE]I understand your frustration. Making the guest list has been a challenge for us too. T<strong>he best suggestion I could give you that worked for my FI when he wanted to invite every person he ever met was to break it down to numbers</strong>. We are spending over $100 per plate. So I asked him would he feel comfortable putting a $100 bill in so-and-so's hand. If the answer is no then they must not be close to us and we don't need to invite them. He got the message.
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This times a million!!!!!!! So many men don't understand the guest list and numbers game so I made an excel sheet that multiplied each person times their cost and kept a runnin tab of their total needless to say when the bottom line hit he wasn;t so close the to every frat brother he ever kicked it with
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Give him a scenario if you do invite all these people, and they decide to show up, what are you going to do?
However, I am guilty of doing something similar. I over invited for our DW because I know most are going to say no. My fear is that too many guests are going to over book the B&B. Our location holds 10 people, and right now about 12 are commiting to come which I am not ready for. lol