Well ladies, I lost another bridesmaid (the first one lost was FI's baby sister who said she couldn't afford to be in the wedding and be a senior in high school). Now I have not only lost a BM but a friend as well (although she wasn't a good one).
A little history:
I have known this BM since we were young... like eight or nine. So we basically grew up together and spent so much time together that she became a like a little sister to me and we considered each as sisters. People even thought that we looked alike. Over the years, this BM has had several issues from her father and grandmother dying to getting pregnant early, going to juvenile as a child, etc. And for all of those traumatic events and more I have gone to great lengths to be there for her, even when others weren't. I have several people in my life that disapproved of this friendship because she is a trouble starter. I once took her to a birthday dinner for one of my friends which ended with us getting kicked out because she got to arguing with my friend on her birthday! My fav cousin and grandmother have never liked her... and when my cousin found out she was in the wedding she was kind of upset.
Fast forward to now:
She was the last person I asked to be a BM because our friendship wasn't very strong at the time. From the day that she became a BM she has been arguing with me and debating with me about everything. For example, she only wears black nail polish and was upset when I told her no black at my wedding, we argued about hair, make-up, shoes, even the bachelorette party which she decided she wouldn't attend because she feels like my MOH stole the idea from her (even though my MOH and I have been talking about this for years!), and the latest argument was about her getting drunk the night before the wedding in the hotel room that I am paying for! I wasn't even upset I just told her what it was and asked that she respect that for just the weekend... she can get drunk the weekend or day after the wedding for all I care. So she basically tells me that she will not be staying at the hotel Friday night and will see me on the morning of the wedding. First of all, the wedding is an hour away from where we live, second, she would have missed the rehearsal dinner, bridesmaids' luncheon, etc. So I told her that if she doesn't feel like she can be unselfish for one day than not to come at all, cause you can't just show up the morning of the wedding and expect for everything to be good to go. So she basically decided that I was disrespecting her by not allowing her to drink the night before my wedding in a hotel room that I am paying for and that not only will she not be in the wedding, she also wants to end our friendship cause she has too many issues with me that she doesn't feel like working out. IDK what kind of issues she could possibly have when I have been the one dealing with all of her mess for years, but it is what it is. I have feeling she would have gotten into it with my MOH or cousin or someone and messed up the wedding anyway so I really do feel like this is for the best. She is out of the money she spent on her BM dress, maybe she can return the shoes. As far as the gifts I got for her some can be returned and the personalized stuff that can't be returned will just be used by me since our names start with the same letter! WINNING!!!!
