How much involvement do you have in the planning for your shower ? Are you giving input on what you want as far as decor and food ? Are you giving total control to the person planning it do whatever ? My MOH keeps calling and asking me tell her what I want ?! Im like do whatever. She asks me to look things up online. And whatever I like she said let her know and she'll go from there . I dont want it to seem like im helping plan my own my shower.