Hey ladies,
I know I have seen these posts before but never thought I would be writing one! My FI has called off the wedding, I dont know if he realizes what he did being that he was upset.
This is how it went down, to me its really silly, but I dont wanna seem like I dont care. But its just the type of person that I am, you tell me something and it goes from there. No games etc..
So this wknd was my MOH 35th bday party in Phx, told Fi about it over a week ago. Guess he thought I wouldnt go considering he has his son and had to have him back at drop off site. So yes ladies he canceled the wedding bc I went to the bday dinner, spent the night of course bc i was not driving back late. He has his mind set that it was some wild party. Which was not the case at all. It was if anything only 10 of us, 2 friends and the rest her family. He has had 2 females cheat on him in the past, so this has to be stemming from that. Never ever have I given him a reason to not trust me.
Some of you say we need to talk things thru etc.. But im not gonna be one of thoses brides that the man cancels and then says ok lets get married. He called his sister n law (his brothers wife) this morning saying the wedding was off. So I have canceled everything already not losing out on much $.
The way I see it, its better to have happened now than after we got married. What happens from here on out, I will have to wait and see. Im not one to argue or fight. Especially since I have 2 boys in the house. So once he comes around will talk and go from there.
If I come across like not being sad or anything I guess thats just how I am. Dont get me wrong I am upset, and pissed at the fact that he would call it off. But what can you do. I am not the type of female to drop her family and friends bc your in a relationship or because the guy doesnt want you to go. I have lost friends because of that exact same thing the guy.
Im sure when my date comes around its gonna be sad, I will have to be busy. Im gonna miss all the daily posts and writing to you all. Im still gonna be popping in here and there, because I wanna see how all your wedding come out:)
Re: wedding canceled
I pray that he sees the error in his decision and changes his mind- I do understand what you mean about not wanting to marry someone who would cancel the wedding, but you may feel differently after you all talk. I hope the wedding can still happen and everything works out. Either way, in my opinion he should work on this with a therapist (and through prayer) b/c his issues with past relationships shouldn't cause this kind of drama between you two.
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Jess, I'm sorry you're having to deal with this and I pray that everthing works out for the best. Also, please don't go anywhere will miss you too much!!!
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[QUOTE]My heart goes out to you. You and I are kinda similar. I have to keep it cool and remain logical, no matter what the situation. I actually thank God that you are experiencing this, because (God willing) when/if you get back together you will see the extent of certain fears he has and you will know exactly what you're dealing with. Like you said, better now than later. When emotions calm down, hopefully he'll be remorseful and you'll be understanding/forgiving enough to make the decision that's best for you.
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Has your wedding been called off as well?
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I am so sorry to hear this, I will keep you in my prayers.
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[QUOTE]I admire your strength during this tough time, cause I'd be flipping tables like Jesus!! Keep your head up and I hope everything works out sweetheart.
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Necole read my mind. I will keep you and your FI in my prayers, Jess. I'm really sad to hear this. I honestly didn't expect to read that despite the title of the thread.
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Remain strong..we are here for you...be blessed.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: wedding canceled : Has your wedding been called off as well?
Posted by TysWife2Be[/QUOTE]
No (lol), my wedding hasn't been called off. But if it were I'd probably react the same way as Jess or more harsh.