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eagles347

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[QUOTE]Hello ladies!!! I haven't posted much but I do responded to other knottie posted at times. I plan to come on more to for tips and learn more from all of you lovely knotties. My name is Vonetra and I am from the Bronx (born and raised) My FI and I met back in HS in 1997. At that time, we were only friends and never dated (I had a BIG BIG BIG crush on him). After we graduated from HS we lost touch because we both went away to school. In 2005, he found me on FB and sent me a message with his phone number and I called and it was like we never missed a beat! I went to my HS "catching up with old friends" dinner (more like a class reunion) and my FI was there. We talked the whole night and he asked me on date. Our first date was great. Had dinner at Carmine's (Ladies if your ever visit NYC please go Carmine's!!! The food is GREAT!!!!) After dinner, we walk around the city. After many dates we finally made it official after Thanksgiving (11/26/2005) My FI and I are both 28 (Our bdays are three months apart: His in November and Mine in February) we have no kids and  I work for Mattel Inc and He is a cop. He proposed this year on my birthday (February 24th) and our wedding date is July 27th, 2012 in New Rochelle at Juliano's. Our guest list was cut sooooooooo many times but we both came to an agreement  that we will invite 100-110 people to our wedding. Wedding planning.....is something else lol I mean between people trying to invite themselves, being stalking by my FI's cousin because she wants to be in our wedding LOL( loooooooooong story) and other crazy things but I dont let that get to me and I am having fun planning . I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with my FI....patiently waiting for July 27th, 2012 to come...

Love the story of how you two came together. :) I will put Carmine's on my list. My best friend and I are in the beginning stages of planning a trip to NYC for next Spring. We would go sooner, but I don't want to go when it's cold and we can't get the time away before then. The size of your wedding sounds perfect! Large enough, but still not overwhelming. Good luck with the guest list and your future cousin-in-law. I am interested in how that went down!
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eagles347

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[QUOTE]I've been here for awhile, but I WANNA PLAY...lol!! My friends call me JB (my old initials). I'm on my way to be apart of the "Dirty 30" club and currrently a student about to get my masters in counseling psyc. I'm from DC, but live in MD (same thing...lol). My fav color is pink and my hobbies are hanging out with friends & family. Me & hubby were together for a little over 10 yrs before tying the knot last month (June 4th). We met as sophomores at VSU (VA that is). We just past our 1 month anniversary! Sorry.....just wanted to participate.....lol. And yes.....knottie of the week would be fun. How do we vote & for what?
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Lol...thanks for playing! We def know you, but I still learned something that I didn't know...your initials! Maybe I had forgotten that. I wish I had initials that made for a cool nickname. I was formerly NA though...nothing catchy about it at all. ;) Hope you had a wonderful 1st month as a married lady!

jmp0930

I should have read this post first lol!

My name is Janece and FI is Brandon. Im 23 he's 26. We are getting married Sept 18th 2011!! We'll have been engaged for 2 years when our wedding occurs. Here's how we met:

Brandon and I first noticed each other in the library my sophomore year of college and his senior year. We were already friends on FB and by the time I got back to my dorm he sent me a message saying "hey, didn't I just see you in the library?" Um duh loser, of course you did. You were the weird guy that was staring at me the whole time, which is why I left. Anywho, he suggested we hang out some time and I obliged.

Fast forward to two years later, a move back to my hometown, my father's funeral, my diagnosis of lupus, and my job hunt and all the craziness in between. On my 22nd birthday he (B) send beautiful dendrobium orchids to my job. Then when I got home from work he said that he was taking me to a couple's massage and dinner. I told him I was going to jump into the shower before we went out. When I got out the shower and got dressed he came in the room while I was putting on my jewelry and got down on one knee. I said yes and we kissed and hugged. Then he told me that my family was joining us for a celebration after the our massage. It was such a great night and I was such a happy/lucky day.

Im not a fan of wedding planning. My greatest accomplishment will be when its all over!! Hahaha!

eagles347

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[QUOTE]I should have read this post first lol! My name is Janece and FI is Brandon. Im 23 he's 26. We are getting married Sept 18th 2011!! We'll have been engaged for 2 years when our wedding occurs. Here's how we met: Brandon and I first noticed each other in the library my sophomore year of college and his senior year. We were already friends on FB and by the time I got back to my dorm he sent me a message saying "hey, didn't I just see you in the library?" Um duh loser, of course you did. You were the weird guy that was staring at me the whole time, which is why I left. Anywho, he suggested we hang out some time and I obliged. Fast forward to two years later, a move back to my hometown, my father's funeral, my diagnosis of lupus, and my job hunt and all the craziness in between. On my 22nd birthday he (B) send beautiful dendrobium orchids to my job. Then when I got home from work he said that he was taking me to a couple's massage and dinner. I told him I was going to jump into the shower before we went out. When I got out the shower and got dressed he came in the room while I was putting on my jewelry and got down on one knee. I said yes and we kissed and hugged. Then he told me that my family was joining us for a celebration after the our massage. It was such a great night and I was such a happy/lucky day. Im not a fan of wedding planning. My greatest accomplishment will be when its all over!! Hahaha!
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I think super personal proposals are the sweetest ones...there is no "show", just you and him and raw emotion! Love it...it's great that you could celebrate with family afterward too. Your wedding is almost here...do you have all of the major things checked off of your list yet?

tbuzz2011

I have been meaning to do an intro post. 

I'm Tamara and FI is Dennis.  We met in 2002 when I traveled to Texas from Arkansas to assist in opening a new store for the company we both worked for.  We really didn't connect at this time because of the 7 year age difference (I'm 37 and he's 30,,,cougar!).  We did exchange info and kept in touch off and on for the next few years.  In 2006, we just kind of clicked and I woke up and realized that despite the age difference, he was right for me.  We did the long distance thing for 3 years and I relocated to TX in 2009.

Although we knew in 2010 that we wanted to get married, I didn't get an official proposal  and ring until last week (7/3/11).  Our original date was October of this year, but because FI got laid off, we've pushed it to Oct. of next year, but won't set an official date until he finds another job.  Although if it's not soon, we're just gonna do the JOP.  I'm enjoying the planning and info gathering process. We both love music and I do not look forward to selecting songs to represent us on our day other than that, just patiently waiting to become his wife and enjoying this part of the journey.

No kids or pets at the moment.

I had heard so many horror stories about how mean and rude knotties are, that I was afraid to post on the knot.  I've lurked long enough to know that you ladies (on this board) are wonderful and can tell the truth without being catty.

Thanks for allowing me to share.
OO-OOP!!

Dancerppf

I was originally on the knot when engaged to my first love, not truly worth the love I was giving. Now I'm engaged to the one meant for me. We met in college in 98, he was actually my RA in college and the first person I met. We immediately became friends. But he was a simple guy and I was the outgoing gal and it never got beyond that. He became a member of Alpha Phi Alpha Fraternity Incorporated and my boyfriend at the time was pledging. We broke up during his pledge process and my FH and I started to get closer. It caused a rif with his fraternity brothers and he stuck by our friendship, I'll never forget that.  After college we dated off and on and throughout that time he never missed calling me for my birthday or Christmas. One day I woke up and realized my priorities in a partner changed.

We brought our first house last year, we have two amazing dogs that are heaven sent and life is sweet. He's 38 and an award winning Financial Consultant (I'm obviously proud). I'm 34 and a Director of a Homeless Shelter in NYC by trade and forever a (classical trained) dancer in my heart. 

We got engaged Christmas Eve and we're getting married August 27th in my FH hometown of Tortola in the British Virgin Islands. The favorite aspects of my wedding so far is my Vera Wang wedding dress purchased by my mom and my first pair of Manolo Blahnik's. We're paying for the wedding ourselves and we're established enough in our careers to do so without using credit cards or going into debt, thank goodness, but we're older than most. 

Wedding planning has consumed my life for the past few months and I can't wait for the honeymoon to start trying for a new edition to our home (baby). We're postponing our honeymoon until January because we're taking 2 weeks off for the destination wedding. Our honeymoon is to Australia (Melbourne, The Barrier Reef, and Sydney) and Fiji for two weeks. We're tennis fans so we plan to see the Australian Open while in Melbourne. We're super excited about that trip.
 
That's the story of us and our wedding in a nutshell! 

Fabbiegirl

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[QUOTE]Since we don't do Knottie of the Day/Week anymore, there are so many knotties that I don't feel I know much (if anything) about. I am nosey and want to know you ladies...so please, if you are relatively new here (let's say you joined since 2011), tell us about you! Just one thread where you can share a snippet of your plans, your hobbies, how you met your sweetie, if you have or want kids, what your job is, a major goal of yours...that type of stuff. Even if you aren't new and still want to share, please do!
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Well, my name is Cassandra.  I live in Atlanta, GA with my FI Free.  We are getting married on December 21, 2011 in Ocho Rios, Jamaica.    We are a couple that like to define our own rules in terms of who we are.  We have designed our ceremony to be performed and spoken by us.  We are having a sand ceremony, tasting of the elements, an ankh binding ceremony, and maybe something else that I cannot remember at this time.  lol.

Our meeting is a long story, but it is a real sweet one.  I won't tell the whole thing, but we met at an auction.  When we talked later that day, I found out that I blew him off on eHarmony a few weeks before.  So, we feel that this is part of the creator's plan for us.

I love to exercise, rollerblade, garden, surf the net, read,  and write. I am a big Harry Potter fan.  Yeah, I am a bit nerdy. 

We have talked about kids, and at first, we were both sure we wanted them; however, we have considered staying with just the two of us.  We don't have biological children, but FI has 3 "spiritual" children.  They are children from past relationships that he grew close to.

I am a high school English teacher, and I do love my job although it is very challenging at times.

My goals in life have little to do with my career.  First, I want to be the best me that I can be.  I want to walk in grace and beauty.  I want to be a woman that my students, other women, and my future children can be proud of and admire and model themselves after.  I want to live in love and confidence. 

I want to be a good wife to my FI and grow with him more and more. 

I also want to work in making the world a better place whether it is by showing kindness, helping the environment, or helping people to wake up and see the world as it is.

So to end this, I am a hippie.  lol

chescam

I'll play too,

My name is Franchesca and my fiance's name is Ian. We've been together for 5 years; the last two were long distance. Fiance and I met at Bible study but we were formally introduced by a mutual friend. The mutual friend and I were in a singing group. FI started attending our rehearsals and eventually joined our group. Everyone kept trying to hook us up but we were just friends. I found out that FI liked me for a whole year before he even asked me out. I love his voice and he always manages to make me laugh no matter what mood I'm in. FI has been so supportive in all of my endeavors and have allowed me to be me. 

FI proposed on my birthday last year. FI flew out to Cali and proposed there. I was in utter shock. My family and close friends knew what he was coming to do and they kept the secret so well. I found out later that my mom told FI to propose to me in private and I loved it. It was just the two of us. 

I almost ruined the surprise though. FI had planned a day of activites for my birthday taking me from one location to the next, but he didn't tell me to pack comfortable walking shoes. He proposed at Huntington Gardens and the place is huge. We had to leave to buy a pair of shoes for me. The only store that was open at that time was Ross. We eventually bought the shoes but after I had shopped for other things of course. He kept telling me we had to go back because the garden was going to close soon. Reluctantly, I headed back to the park and I'm so happy we did.  

I completed my MPH this year and will be working in October as an independent contractor. Right now, I'm studying to get into medical school. FI is an account manager at a financial institution. FI is 26 and I'm 25. We're planning our October wedding and time is flying by so quickly. We don't have any children or pets. I want one child but FI wants at least two. He grew up as an only child so he wants more than one, we'll see how that goes. We're not in any rush to have children though. Both of us have never had a pet but we want one sometime in the future. 

Right now we live in the same state but different cities about 45 mins away. We'll be living together after the wedding. While I'm looking forward to it, I'm a little bit scared. I've always been independent and I was the type of person who never saw myself getting married before 30 but it's happening...5 years early at that! FI and I have excercised so much faith in planning this wedding and we've made Christ the center of our relationship. So we know that with Him all things are possible. 

Great meeting you ladies!! I've learned so much

Vonetra224

@Eagles347 Thanks!!!! Girl if your planning to come to NYC let me know because I have tons of restaurants and things for you to do!! Will this be your first visit? Now for the cousin in law drama.......Well she found out that my FI and I was engagement, she immediately hit me up on FB asking to be in the wedding...No congrats or nothing!!! I ignore her for weeks. She would post crazy messages on my FB page like " Hey cousin in law! I hope all is well and I BETTER be a part of your big day!!! If not I will disown you and Vinny!!! Oh and have a wonderful day!!!"  I'm like wth is wrong with this chick...The second message she post me on my page was "Hey cousin!!! When is the big day?? I want to know so I can purchase my bridesmaid dress sometime next year. Just to let you know I do wedding planning on the side and I would love to plan your wedding. You know I love weddings and I can't wait to get all dressed up for yall big day"

As you can see she was stalking my life with these type of messages.....ALL THE TIME!!!! This was going on for about a good three weeks- three weeks of me ignoring her and deleting her FB post. My FI was telling me to ignore her but I couldn't take her any more. So I blocked her for posting and more messages on my page and I sent her a nice PM...basically telling her to stay the hell off my page and her being a bridesmaid was out the question and she hit me back with an apology. I was shocked and to this day I dont talk to her but she still try to contact me... smh My FI said she was never invited in the first place (which I knew from the get go) and mind you all of this happened 5 months ago. Oh and my FI's family reunion is next month...so I'm sure there will be drama at this event...smh

MrsAllenToBe1123

Hey ladies!

My name is Katima, 23 y/o and hubby-to-be's name is Rahmel, 27 y/o. I am a registered nurse and a student (going back for my Bachelors of Science in Nursing) and he does maintenance.

We met at a local train station where he tried to "holla" lol. He was such a sweetheart and from the moment I met him up until today, my cheeks hurt from smiling. We are each others bestfriends. He proposed in 2004. He proposed 1 day before our 1 year dating anniversary. That was because his trick went bad..lol. For a whole week, he was acting shaky (part of his plan..). I must admit I was scared, I thought he was no longer interested in us being together. The day before our datingversay, I went to him crying (lol), I really didn't know what was going on, I broke that young man's heart so bad that he proposed to me right there in his mama's living room. His plan was to take me out for dinner the next day and propose to me in a restaurant. He wanted the proposal to be such a surprise he wanted to trick me by acting shaky (how was I to know?!?)..smh lol

We knew we wanted to be together forever, but we were no were ready (financially or career wise) to get married. In 2005 we had our son, who is now 6 y/o. I finished college, established my career and job. We both became financially stable and knew it was time to start planning. Throughout the years together we had to hold back from running to the justice of peace. We wanted to be husband and wife so badly, but after so many years of being together, we wanted our big day..our dream wedding. It's a day that our family and friends have been waiting for. Speaking of family..I love my future-in-laws. They have accepted me with open arms (in the beginning it was difficult, but once they saw that my FI was truly happy.. they gave in..lol). I love his little sisters, I consider them the little sisters I never had.


We started planning in February for a September wedding (only 7 months to plan..geeesssh) Planning has consumed our lives! He is very involved. Our wedding will be truely a party.  Everyone that is invited, truely knows us. During regular events we get loud and we get down, so I'm very excited about Sept 2, 2011!

MsRichard83

I am pretty new, just joined this year and I loveeee this site!! I am getting married on July 20th, 2012.

I met my fiance at my work place. I work at a college, and he goes there!! Crazy I know. He told me from day one that he was going to try his hardest to date me, but I told him no, for an entire year we were friends, and I think that is when I fell in love with him because I got to know how wonderful he was with no shields up. We use to talk on the phone for hours and joke around, but just as friends, so after a year, I broke down and told him I would go on a date with him, it was on my birthday 27th birthday to be exact.

I was leary to date him because he was younger than me which he didn't know, he actually thought I was a student worker instead of a full time employee, he is 4 years younger than me and it freaked me out for awhile, but he is by far the best man I have ever had.

He asked me to marry him at my parents home on May 1st, 2011 and it was teh happiest day of my life. He has wanted marriage and kids from the start. We have 3 kids (when I say kids I mean puppies lol) pitbulls to be exact (Bronx, Brooklyn, and Harlem) I love them sooo much OMG!!!

The planning has been going good so far, I just can't wait to call him my husband!!!!

PetiteBride1

I dont usually post too often, just the occasional response, but since i am learning so much from you ladies, here goes...

I am donna (mech engineer), fi is eddie (barber and kinesiology student), both of us are 26 yo.  We first met in 7th grade. Not really friends but had many mutual friends!  The only thing i remember is him writing KIT (with his #) in our 8th grade year books...lol!  Fast forward to 12th grade high school.  I got my hair cut into a short style and started going to the barber shop up the street from my house.  Guess who works there?  I didn't even realize that we went to the same high school!  He asked me to senior night, then the senior prom and it was all she wrote from then!!!  Four years of different colleges and 3.5 years of me living in DC for work (God knows it was tough), but we made it!  I moved back to ATL in March 2010, he proposed Dec 23rd (for the 3rd time btw but they dont really count imo...but he counts them).  The 1st time was via online chat when I lived in DC , the 2nd time was with a candy ring pop when I insisted he better have a ring when I come home for V-day , but the last time was in the airport picking me up from a red-eye flight (and with a real diamond ring...lol).  I was so sleepy, I thought i was dreaming! No kids (but we both want at least 3), our puppy (katie) just died so we are looking forward to getting another one soon when we find a place (his bro breeds pitbulls...they are the best. they love kids and most think they are lap dogs).

Our big day is 11.11.11. We were in ihop eating on 10.10.10, and he says, we should have gotten married today, i'm like oh well, he then says what about 11.11.11, I say whatever!  When he proposes, the first thing he says is, well at least we know what the date will be...lol  How in the worl did he remember that??? I was not excited about it...but things are going well so far!

Anywho, just want to let you ladies know that even though I dont post much, I lurk (and learn) quite a bit from you all...so a BIG THANK YOU!!!!!!!! We went from having a small intimate ceremony with just our siblings and parents to a 150+ event in a matter of weeks, so I was totally clueless in the beginning! 

Ky925

Hello Everyone!!  My name is Kyana.  FI and I have been together since Feb of 2002.  We met Freshman year of college 2001 and made it official spring semester of 2002.  I knew from the moment I met him that he was someone that would be in my life forever as much as we both tried to fight it.  I am 28 and FI is 29, I supervise visits and do case management for children in foster care and their bio parents and he does Roadway Maintenance.   We have 2 children a boy 7 and a girl 4, that keep us on our toes to say the least.  We had both while we were attending college and still graduated, and me with 2 degrees in Sociology and African Studies.

He proposed in 2007.  But it wasn't until April of this year that we took that leap and started planning for real.  The delays and drama in the last few years are truly a blessing because we learned to PRAY and love harder and our relationship is growing and getting better each day.  Our wedding date is 9/25/2011.

I have hopes of going back to school to get my Masters in Social Work.  But, right now my little ones and Big one are my main concern.

Planning a wedding in 6 months is not something I would suggest to anyone.  But things have been going relatively smooth.  I cannot wait for this day to come, I am so ready to spend the rest of my life as his wife and make our family complete and official.

faithlady

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[QUOTE]I was originally on the knot when engaged to my first love, not truly worth the love I was giving. Now I'm engaged to the one meant for me.[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Same here! Funny how life rolls out huh?

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LSAS

Hi ladies, my name is Lisa and my FI's name is Mark.  We have a handsome two year old son and I have a bonus daughter who is 13. FI and I met almost 10 years ago at a club. I was in the corner checking him out and he was secretly checking me out too lol....

He proposed over a year anniversary ago and I cannot wait to marry him. Our wedding date is 5/12/12.   I am 31 (prepping to take the CPA) accountant and he is a computer tech.

I love the ladies on this board, such great advice and encouragement