Bouquet and Garter Toss??

Ky925

anyone skipping these?? If so why....We are still on the fence on whether we want to skip it entirely or do one and not the other.  We are leaning towards skipping it entirely. TIA

djscat

I heard this idea that I might do instead.

Ask all the couples to join you on the dance floor.  Then the DJ says anyone married for less than 2 hours please sit down.  Of course you and your new hubby will be seated.  Then anyone for less than a year, two year, 5 years, 10 years until the last couple is left standing.  When the last couple is left you and your new hubby return to the dance floor and present the couple with the bouquet and garter.  I think it is a nice way to honor a couple who has stood the test of time.  HTH 

Ky925

That's a cute idea.  Not sure how I would feel about handing my GFIL (who is really like my FIL) my garter though LOL (they've been married the longest).  But that is def something to consider.  Thanks

wynterwarrior

We're doing the bouquet toss but not the garter toss. I think the bouquet toss is fun and a nice tradition. However, I find the garter toss in really bad taste. I don't want my new husband going up under my dress in front of our guests, including my mother and his parents. That would make me feel very uncomfortable. 

MarryingmyKnight

WE are skipping both but only because there will only be like 2 single guys; FI's brother and cousin and one single female; my sister.  I really want to keep my bouquet too; well for as long as it will stay alive.

Fabbiegirl

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_bouquet-garter-toss?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:eb120b7a-3018-4619-92f2-79d70bb02d9bPost:68e3f9bd-2c81-46b4-bd79-6ac3e07e73be">Re: Bouquet and Garter Toss??</a>:
[QUOTE]I heard this idea that I might do instead. Ask all the couples to join you on the dance floor.  Then the DJ says anyone married for less than 2 hours please sit down.  Of course you and your new hubby will be seated.  Then anyone for less than a year, two year, 5 years, 10 years until the last couple is left standing.  When the last couple is left you and your new hubby return to the dance floor and present the couple with the bouquet and garter.  I think it is a nice way to honor a couple who has stood the test of time.  HTH 
Posted by djscat[/QUOTE]


I really like that.  I was thinking about that when I was planning the traditional reception.  I never wanted to do a toss.  I don't like the garter toss especially.   My cousin at his reception just shouted out the name of another single cousin and said catch.  He threw it to him off guard.  I liked that also.

wallacje

We skipped both.  It was something we decided during the reception based on the feel of the party, we felt it wasn't necessary.  Don't feel like we missed out on a thing.  I've been to more and more weddings where they don't do it and its great, the mood of the party isn't going to change if you don't do it.

Ky925

If we choose not to do it I definitely won't feel like we missed out on something.  We probably will end up not doing it, unless FI throws a hissy fit lol.  Thanks ladies!!

lil01

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_bouquet-garter-toss?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:eb120b7a-3018-4619-92f2-79d70bb02d9bPost:68e3f9bd-2c81-46b4-bd79-6ac3e07e73be">Re: Bouquet and Garter Toss??</a>:
[QUOTE]I heard this idea that I might do instead. Ask all the couples to join you on the dance floor.  Then the DJ says anyone married for less than 2 hours please sit down.  Of course you and your new hubby will be seated.  Then anyone for less than a year, two year, 5 years, 10 years until the last couple is left standing.  When the last couple is left you and your new hubby return to the dance floor and present the couple with the bouquet and garter.  I think it is a nice way to honor a couple who has stood the test of time.  HTH 
Posted by djscat[/QUOTE]


My friend did this at her wedding back in February. They called it the anniversary dance....I think. It was really nice & everyone enjoyed it. Don't know how old the last standing couple was, but I remember someone saying they just celebrated their 50th anniversary. It was very touching.

Dancerppf

We won't be doing any of the forementioned. My father (now deceased) would have had a fit if he had to witness my FH put his hands under my dress, this is th man who yelled out during my pre-school graduation "you better not kiss my daughter" because I was sleeping beauty in a play and the Prince wa bending over to kiss me. I remember it vividly, as we were all flustered, my teacher included, and she said  "just skip it". So in light of his memory w're skipping the garter toss. 

For the bouquet, I plan to present it to my mother for setting the example of what a successful marriage is. My parents we married 25 years before death parted them. 

But to each there own. Do what makes you happy and means something to you. 

Ky925

That is too funny!!  The garter/bouquet toss has no sentimental value to me at all, I could live without it...seems kind of inappropriate and our children will be present.  I might still do the bouquet toss though, put really don't feel like paying for a toss away bouquet LOL.  Just wanted to see if anyone else shared the same feelings about it that I do.  Thanks for all the input ladies

MrsAllenToBe1123

Doing the Bouquet but not the Garter toss. We don't have enough single men at my wedding to do the garter toss