Help with the Wedding Thank You's!

MrsDorris2be

I want to be prompt about sending out my thank you's but I was really waiting on my photographer because I wanted to have a thank you card made with one of our wedding pics on it. Should I just go buy some thank you cards and get it out of the way? I don't want to wait too late and I'm not sure what the real wedding etiquette is, I've only been married for 2 weeks so I have some time. Also, my DH ripped into packages and cards with no regard to who brought what. I plan on sending a thank you to all who attended anyway, whether they brought a gift or not, but now I can't thank people for specific gifts, is this acceptable?

MAGNUM 06

Hi Ms. Dorris... You have a year from your wedding date to send your thank you notes... So, if you'd like to wait on some of your photos.. you have time... You've only been married a couple of weeks... so no-one is "looking" for one yet... but in a few months they may be....

You have some time. 

For the people that you know gave gifts but you cant tell what... You can send something generic... like....

"Thank you for your lovely gift in honor of our wedding day.  It was great seeing you and we're glad you could attend."

P.S. I just made that up...but you get it...

Hope that helps you...

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

TysWife2Be

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_wedding-thank-yous?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:f0ae0a51-efe2-4419-9614-7d75aea3e48dPost:352227ba-fca9-4926-886c-20b99b8203da">Re: Help with the Wedding Thank You's!</a>:
[QUOTE]Hi Ms. Dorris... <strong>You have a year from your wedding date to send your thank you notes.</strong>.. So, if you'd like to wait on some of your photos.. you have time... You've only been married a couple of weeks... so no-one is "looking" for one yet... but in a few months they may be.... You have some time.  For the people that you know gave gifts but you cant tell what... You can send something generic... like.... "Thank you for your lovely gift in honor of our wedding day.  It was great seeing you and we're glad you could attend." P.S. I just made that up...but you get it... Hope that helps you... CONGRATULATIONS!!!!
Posted by MAGNUM 06[/QUOTE]

REALLY???

I didnt know you had that long to do so...I thought maybe a couple months or something...

dawnbeatty

I didn't know it was that long either.  But I was in the same boat.  But what I did was in the meantime I wrote out what I wanted to say to each person so when I did get the cards I wouldn't be searching for words.  In the end I got them out in the mail about the 2 month mark.  I felt it was really late in my opinion but when people got the card with our wedding pictures - they were extremely happy.

MrsDorris2be

Thank You Ladies...very helpful!

eagles347

I have to disagree on the year-long grace period to send thank you notes...most of the things I've read (and just my own personal feelings as a guest), say that it is still in proper etiquette to give gifts up to a year after the wedding, but that thank you notes should be sent soon after the wedding.

One site said that TY notes should be sent within 1-2 months of the wedding and for gifts received before (i.e. showers) or for gifts received after the 1-2 month period following the wedding it shouldn't take more than about 2 weeks after receiving a gift to send the thank you. I would do them sooner than later just because it is polite to the gift-givers. However, I do think that if you go ahead and order your pic cards, you should be fine.