I live in a state that does not yet have marriage equality, but we're about an hour from the border with a state that does. My idea is to do the "paperwork" ceremony with just us and witnesses across the border around lunchtime and then come back to our hometown for the "real" ceremony, which will be performed by SO's grandpa, a pastor, and for which we'll write our own special vows, her dad will walk her down the aisle, etc...is it weird to do that if we were already married by a judge earlier in the day? I don't think so, but SO seems to think if we are going across the border to get the papers signed, we might as well do the whole ceremony/reception there, too. I see her point. I do want to give money to vendors in a state where we are allowed to marry...but in our hometown I have a venue in mind, a photographer in mind, our favorite bakery is here...and all our family is here and they would have to all drive an hour if we want to get married "across the border." So, what do you think? Is it too weird to get married twice in the same day?