It was right there on the rsvp - we were to include $40 per "guest" when we returned the rsvp, to pay for our meals at the reception. I'm a generation older than the bride, is this now considered a polite thing to request? I'm feeling that this is a rude, tacky thing to do. When we married, we had a small but lovely backyard reception, because that is what we could afford - and the last thing we would have considered, would have been to make any of our invitees feel they were anything less than an honoured guest, by asking them to pay for their dinner. Have things changed?