Lutheran wedding ceremony

DianaL616

Hello! I'm new to this board and I have a question about getting married in the Lutheran church. My FH is baptized and confirmed Lutheran and I am baptized and confirmed Catholic. What are the requirements for getting married in the Lutheran church? I know I will need to get permission from my most recent parish. Also, what is a typical Lutheran ceremony like? I have never been to one.

I've left a message with the church that we have been to a few times and that we like but I was hoping to get some personal experiences as well :-)

Thanks!

diehld

Depends... what kind of Lutheran? 

DianaL616

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_christian-weddings_lutheran-wedding-ceremony?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:464687ae-7bc1-4360-9aea-999e11f1e1adDiscussion:5f29ae95-b7a5-4f17-bb39-59126cbe669bPost:8e2086de-d02f-49a0-b26d-07358c13946d">Re: Lutheran wedding ceremony</a>:
[QUOTE]Depends... what kind of Lutheran? 
Posted by diehld@uindy.edu[/QUOTE]

Missouri Synod

naomikb

I am Lutheran but ELCIC (Canadian equivalent of ELCA I believe?) so it's likely different.  Our ceremony included:

GATHERING
Prelude       
Processional
Words of Welcome & Introduction
Statement of Purpose
Prayer of Approach
Legal Admonition
Declaration of Intent

WORD
Prayer of Preparation
Hymn
Reading 1
Reading 2
Meditation (Sermon by the pastor)

ACT OF COVENANTING
Invocation of the Spirit
Exchange of Vows
Exchange of Rings
Declaration of Marriage
Blessing of the Couple
Marriage Prayer
The Lord’s Prayer

SENDING FORTH
The Benediction
The Signing of the Register
Presentation of the Couple
Recessional

If you want more info or have questions let me know.

ETA: The "requirements" at our church were that we were both baptized (anywhere), and we had one pre-marital counselling/meeting, but it varies by parish.

diehld

I think for you would be very simular to a Catholic wedding... 

katiebaka

I'm Lutheran - Missouri Synod, but so is FSIL and her husband, and our churches are quite different. I think your best bet is to speak with them in your parish.

As far as I know, Lutherans recognize any Christian baptism (I know ours does, and we're a pretty "strict" parish as far as Missouri Synod goes -- we practice closed communion.) They may require you to become official members of the church, or have some meetings with the Pastor.

From what I know, our ceremony will be similar to what naomi posted above.

untherapy

DH and I are Baptist, but we got married in the MS Lutheran church connected to the school I went to through 8th grade.

We didn't have to do anything except meet with the pastor to discuss everything and pay the "non-member' prices for things.

Our service included:

Statements of Intention
Scripture readings (chosen by us)
Message
Communion / Special Music
Exchange of vows
Exchange of rings
Prayer

So it was pretty normal The pastor gave us his "stock" wedding service and let us put in our own readings, vows, songs, order, etc.