Christian fiance wants to move apart

GJones27

It is fine for you to have your opinions. The free marketplace of ideas is a good thing; that is why we are all here. Please share your perspectives, but please don't hit below the belt and say my husband made a mistake without having more information. Our board is one based on respect, and if you can't do that, you are in the wrong place. All of us are trying to be supportive of OP, even if we have an unpopular viewpoint.

RebeccaJac

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[QUOTE]I doubt not wanting to "cross" your parents is going to change just because you put on a couple of rings.  I wonder if your FI realizes that he's in for a rough road, GJones.
Posted by ReturnOfKuus[/QUOTE]

<div>I have conservative parents too. We are respectful of their veiws and limit the times we "cross" them, but it doesn't dictate our lives. It's something FI knew going in and deals with. It wasn't a deal breaker for him, but something I am aware of. </div><div>
</div><div>ETA: OP, you need to decide what's best for YOU. We all have opinions, but bottom line is you need to figure out what you can live with. If his values don't mesh with yours, or the parents thing is something you can't get over, that's your call. </div>

Ash61612

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Christian fiance wants to move apart : I have conservative parents too. We are respectful of their veiws and limit the times we "cross" them, but it doesn't dictate our lives. It's something FI knew going in and deals with. It wasn't a deal breaker for him, but something I am aware of.  ETA: <strong>OP, you need to decide what's best for YOU. We all have opinions, but bottom line is you need to figure out what you can live with. If his values don't mesh with yours, or the parents thing is something you can't get over, that's your call. </strong>
Posted by RebeccaJac[/QUOTE]

<div>yep</div>

SugarFoote

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Christian fiance wants to move apart : no offense, but do you think this is a little harsh?
Posted by Ash61612[/QUOTE]

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_christian-weddings_christian-fiance-wants-to-move-apart?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:464687ae-7bc1-4360-9aea-999e11f1e1adDiscussion:91bb37aa-014a-4636-b9e6-5647b4863b9ePost:dccbbd3a-04c6-4585-981b-a639718170b0">Re: Christian fiance wants to move apart</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Christian fiance wants to move apart : To be honest, I was talking about ONE person who was being harsh... and trying to just make an off hand comment. I completely agree with what everyone said, I just think someone needs to learn when to not say anything :)
Posted by jenningz[/QUOTE]

I don't feel that I was being harsh at all. I think it is harsh that someone would "show their FI the door" if they were in that situation. Sounds to me like he is trying to do the right thing.

ETA: And it wasn't an "off hand comment" :)

mattycam

I don't see anything wrong with living apart from one another until you are married, but that is my point of view. My H and I did it; I am not saying it was easy or that we didn't slip but our hearts desire was to do what we believed to be the right thing. With that being said, OP I hope you and your FI work through this as this will be one of many disagreements you all will have as you enter into marriage. Sometimes it seems easy to throw in the towel but just hold on. For what it's worth, 6 months will go a lot faster than you think.

Another thought, have you guys considered you living in the house and him moving back home for 6 months?

GunzNRoses213

Side note... Where are all these people I've never heard of coming from and why are they being kinda rude on our posts ? [ not just this one ?]

GJones27

The original poster cross-posted I think.  When people generally don't like what we say here, they tend to come here after someone mentions it on another board.

GunzNRoses213

Ohhh lovely ... just saw an influx of it latly and wasnt understanding why it was happening