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Intro & Question

Hello Everyone!

I am very happy to have found this board!

A little about myself: I am getting married next may to the love of my life. I am in the middle of planning my wedding, trying to find a house, stay on top of my demands at work so that keeps me busy. I am incredibly blessed and so content with life.

Questions for the ladies that are married or farther along in your wedding planning:

-What item did you splurge on for your wedding and was it worth it
-What is your least favourite wedding tradition
-Favourite part of being married (or engaged)
-Best advice to new brides
-Most akward question you have been asked since being married/engaged

Thanks!

Re: Intro & Question

  • Hi and welcome!  Tell us more about your wedding.  With pictures.  If you don't have pictures of wedding things, we also like picture of pets. :)

    I splurged on hair and make-up.  I was going to just have friends help with it.  Having a professional do it was completely worth it!

    Least favorite tradition.  I wasn't keen on the idea of people throwing stuff at us.  My mother insisted and we had rose petals tossed.  Made some nice pictures, and it was really ok. 

    I love being "us", if that makes sense.

    My advice for those who are planning is to delegate!  It will take time to get used to living with a man.  I am convinced that male and female versions of "clean" are different.  It takes time to get a home in a state where BOTH consider it clean.

    oo, I love awkward stories!  When I was engaged, I had a student (adult) ask me if I was pregnant.  (no!)  At my bridal shower one of the women gave me the black apron I'd registered for. Very cute - it has "pearls" on the neckline and has "little black apron" printed on it. Later, one of DH's aunts said something along the lines of "later I'll tell you how you can wear it".
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  • -What item did you splurge on for your wedding and was it worth it - My fiance's new shoes

    -What is your least favourite wedding tradition - Speeches

    -Favourite part of being married (or engaged) - Knowing I'm about to spend the rest of my life with my best friend.

    -Best advice to new brides - N/A

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  • Welcome to the board! I am getting married Sept 22/12, so getting close now :) Its exciting! I understand the stresses with work, etc though, my situation is very similar. We recently decided to push off the house hunt until after the wedding just to lower the stress level a bit. He lives on site at work for the time being and they don't care if I live with him, so that's a suitable option. The house has no room for growth with a family though, so we will still be moving after the wedding.

    Let me try a hand at your questions... lol

    What item did you splurge on for your wedding and was it worth it?
    I saved A LOT of money doing DIY stuff so I did let myself splurge in a few places. We spent more than originally planned on the meal, but the way I see it, that's one of the things that is for the guests so I'm ok with that. I also splurged (for me) on my shoes for the wedding ($50, but I never buy anything over like $20-$25 on sale lol) and on my hair fascinator ($75), however when its all together I love it and it just looks so perfect.... so I don't regret buying them at all!

    What is your least favourite wedding tradition?
    I REALLY don't like the traditional wedding party dance. There are so many times I have been stuck awkwardly dancing with someone I hardly know. We are doing a WP dance, but its an upbeat song where we all dance as a group, not paired off.
    I also have a problem with headtables and splitting my WP up from their families. We will still have a head table, it will have FI & I, MOH & date, BM & wife, and the rest of the WP will sit by the headtable at round tables with their families, the same tables as the rest of the guests have.

    Favourite part of being married (or engaged)?
    The conversations. I love being able to talk with FI about our future, about the family we're going to have, etc. There is something beautiful about planning your life out together and knowing what dreams you're going to run for together :)

    Best advice to new brides
    Try not to let the advice of others get you down. No one is as excited about your wedding as you, and sometimes this means people say things that are hard to hear. As long as you're properly hosting your guests, and not offending anyone, then its just an opinion. Avoid sharing your wedding details with too many random people, and you avoid getting the negative feedback.

    Most akward question you have been asked since being married/engaged?
    We moved pretty quick from dating to engaged (he proposed 8 months after we met) and I had a few people ask me if I was making the right choice lol
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    [QUOTE]Welcome to the board! I am getting married Sept 22/12, so getting close now :) Its exciting! I understand the stresses with work, etc though, my situation is very similar. We recently decided to push off the house hunt until after the wedding just to lower the stress level a bit. He lives on site at work for the time being and they don't care if I live with him, so that's a suitable option. The house has no room for growth with a family though, so we will still be moving after the wedding. Let me try a hand at your questions... lol What item did you splurge on for your wedding and was it worth it? I saved A LOT of money doing DIY stuff so I did let myself splurge in a few places. We spent more than originally planned on the meal, but the way I see it, that's one of the things that is for the guests so I'm ok with that. I also splurged (for me) on my shoes for the wedding ($50, but I never buy anything over like $20-$25 on sale lol) and on my hair fascinator ($75), however when its all together I love it and it just looks so perfect.... so I don't regret buying them at all! What is your least favourite wedding tradition? I REALLY don't like the traditional wedding party dance. There are so many times I have been stuck awkwardly dancing with someone I hardly know. We are doing a WP dance, but its an upbeat song where we all dance as a group, not paired off. I also have a problem with headtables and splitting my WP up from their families. We will still have a head table, it will have FI & I, MOH & date, BM & wife, and the rest of the WP will sit by the headtable at round tables with their families, the same tables as the rest of the guests have. Favourite part of being married (or engaged)? The conversations. I love being able to talk with FI about our future, about the family we're going to have, etc. There is something beautiful about planning your life out together and knowing what dreams you're going to run for together :) Best advice to new brides Try not to let the advice of others get you down. No one is as excited about your wedding as you, and sometimes this means people say things that are hard to hear. As long as you're properly hosting your guests, and not offending anyone, then its just an opinion. Avoid sharing your wedding details with too many random people, and you avoid getting the negative feedback. Most akward question you have been asked since being married/engaged? We moved pretty quick from dating to engaged (he proposed 8 months after we met) and I had a few people ask me if I was making the right choice lol
    Posted by BMcLeodTeam[/QUOTE]



    My fiance proposed 9 months after we met.... Some people just don't get that waiting 10,20,40,50 years doesn't mean your marriage will last any longer than someone who waited less.
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  • Where I am from the weddings are all very similar so I am trying to do things a little differently with my wedding. I have my dress, the hall booked, the flowers arranged... I am trying to organize myself.

    I have two puppies, but dont have photo's on this computer so I will get back to you. A little hound and a lab.

    I want to answer my own questions.... sorry.

    -What item did you splurge on for your wedding and was it worth it:
    so far I splurged on ym veils and I am so incredibly happy and not regretful about that purchase

    -What is your least favourite wedding tradition:
    I have to say the garter toss. So your  newly married, and your in front of your closet family and friends and they all watch happily as your new husband sticks his head up your dress and looks around up there. Then he gets to grab the garter off with his teeth. Tthen the groom stands there like a dominant monkey so pleased with himself and chucks the garter into a crowd of men who punch each other in the face to get it and the guy that catches it wears it proudly aroudn his head for the rest of the night. Might be the only one who feels that way.. (and maybe I have been to some weird weddings)

    -Favourite part of being married (or engaged)
    I love planning for our future together

    -Best advice to new brides: N/A

    -Most akward question you have been asked since being married/engaged
    When we got engaged someone nervously asked us when were were getting married and if we were pregnant. Apperantly thats the only reason people get married these days. (Not in our sitaution)
  • Welcome to the board!

    -The splurge that was worth it.
    We stayed our first two nights as married couple in a suite with a hottub. It was a bit pricey, but soooooooooooo worth it!
    -Least favorite wedding tradition
    Garter tosses! Yuck! I have no problem with my hubby reaching up my skirt, but not in public! Maybe other people see it differently, but I find it tacky and distasteful.
    -Favourite part of being married (or engaged)
    Sleeping in the same bed. It's the most thrilling feeling to wake up in the middle of the night to find H right there beside me. I love falling asleep all snuggled up together.
    -Best advice to new brides
    There's a lot of pressure put on brides to have the "perfect" wedding, to look "perfect", and to do everything the "right" way. Don't worry about it. That's my advice. Just because you're a bride doesn't mean you have to suddenly become a different person. Just because BRIDES magazine says that you should have a manicure every week so that your nails look perfect all the time, doesn't mean that you have to if that's not what's important to you. Have your wedding whatever way is most special to you, your FI and the people who are important to you, and if other people don't like it, that's their problem.
    -Most akward question you have been asked since being married/engaged
    "So, you guys planning to have kids anytime soon?" None o' your business, lady!
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  • We weren't sure about the garter toss, but finally decided to do it.  I told DH which leg it was on and that it was right below my knee.  He just used his hands - no head up the dress! 

    I forgot about this earlier, but I went to a wedding that had a dollar dance.  I hid in the corner with DH and a few other people.  I'd also forgotten about head tables and bridal party dances because I've never actually seen either of those.
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  • -What item did you splurge on for your wedding and was it worth it
    I don't know if we really splurged on anything...My parents never would set a budget (they paid for our wedding) and I'm a tightwad so there wasn't much monetary conflict.  The bulk of our money was spent on food, for sure, but we had a giant wedding so even at $12 a head it was nearly $4000.

    Two things I would not skimp on are photography and videography.  Get the best photographer you can afford and skip other things in favor of photography if you have to.  As far as video, you don't have to pay someone but at least make sure someone records your ceremony.

    -What is your least favourite wedding tradition
    I have a few.  I hate the garter and bouquet tosses and I hate veils over the face, or even on top of the head.  We skipped the tosses and I ended up wearing a very simple, not fluffy, one layer veil under my updo, though I originally wasn't going to wear one at all.

    -Favourite part of being married (or engaged)
    Being married is so much fun!  Granted, there are difficult times, but seriously H and I have a blast together.

    -Most akward question you have been asked since being married/engaged
    When are you having kids?!  That started at the reception.  It's been nearly 10 years so most people have stopped asking.
  • Hello and welcome to the board!

    -What item did you splurge on for your wedding and was it worth it
    Makeup and my DOC. I LOVED my makeup, and it was totally worth having it airbrushed so it didn't fade over the course of the day. Also, while technically my DOC wasn't a "splurge", she was the BEST decision I made. I highly, highly recommend a DOC - they are worth the money.

    -What is your least favourite wedding tradition
    I always hated the awkwardness of the bouquet toss and garter toss, so we just didn't do them! I gave my toss bouquet to my grandparents to celebrate the longevity of their marriage after the couples dance.

    -Favourite part of being married (or engaged)
    Spending as much time as I want with DH! I LOVE going to bed with him every night and waking up with him in the mornings.
     

    -Best advice to new brides
    As far as planning - give yourself a deadline. Say, 3-4 days before the wedding. If something isn't figured out by then, just leave it. Make sure you have time to relax and sleep the week before. You'll just be stressed if you are still running around up to the last day trying to plan. Set up stuff is ok, obviously, but if you're still debating what your centerpieces should look like the day before, you're probably stressing yourself out too much. ;)

    For those newly married - don't ever be afraid to communicate with your husband. He can't read your mind, you can't read his, and you'll drive yourselves crazy trying. Just talk about stuff. The more open you are with each other, the easier life is.

    -Most akward question you have been asked since being married/engaged
    I guess the only one I really get is whether I am pregnant. Literally every time I mention a headache, or not feeling well, the first question is whether I am pregnant. Ironically, ususally those symptoms are when I am on my period, so I can give an immediate "no".
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Intro & Question : My fiance proposed 9 months after we met.... Some people just don't get that waiting 10,20,40,50 years doesn't mean your marriage will last any longer than someone who waited less.
    Posted by jenningz[/QUOTE]

    I know! I mean there is something to be said for getting to now each other, but so what if it didn't take me 10 years. My fiance went through the hardest 6 months of my life with me, that helped us get to know each other pretty fast!
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_christian-weddings_intro-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:464687ae-7bc1-4360-9aea-999e11f1e1adDiscussion:9328d893-d507-4493-9ec8-9409e5d96c6bPost:7e4a5387-e00a-4f89-821b-f8dc84994487">Re: Intro & Question</a>:
    [QUOTE]Most akward question you have been asked since being married/engaged? We moved pretty quick from dating to engaged (he proposed 8 months after we met) and I had a few people ask me if I was making the right choice lol
    Posted by BMcLeodTeam[/QUOTE]

    DH proposed on our 10 month anniversary (well, technically the day after, but that's a much longer story ;) ). We were married 6 months later. So yeah, we went pretty quick, too. :)

    I also know someone who got married 3 days after meeting her H, and they stayed together until he passed away. They had something like 8 or 9 kids too. :D

    ETA: And I just realized that DH and I have now been married longer than we were dating/engaged for! Time just goes by so fast!
  • Hi and welcome!  This is a great board with lots of supportive, helpful, smart ladies.

    -What item did you splurge on for your wedding and was it worth it
    Great food and open bar at a venue we loved with an amazing outdoor area.  I like to host our guests right and make sure they're full and had good food.  I loved that we had a late night hot dog/sausage BBQ set up outside.  Also our caricaturist was a huge hit.

    -What is your least favourite wedding tradition
    Garter toss.  I find it awkward and way too intimate. We did a bouquet toss but I put lottery tickets in it and we included all the ladies, not just the single ones.  It was a "who is going to win the lottery" more than "who is getting married next."  Also I don't hate cake cutting but I don't find it very interesting so H and I did it privately just off to the side and got a couple of pictures, that was it.

    -Favourite part of being married (or engaged)
    Knowing I will have someone to talk to, vent to, hug, and love forever.

    -Best advice to new brides
    Before the wedding - Make a detailed day-of plan with phone numbers, addresses, lists of things people need to bring, times, lists of people in different pictures.
    After the wedding - Make time weekly for each other to have private, dedicated time where there are no phones/internet/friends. Date nights are great.


    -Most akward question you have been asked since being married/engaged
    When are you having kids?
  • Welcome! I just got married this past Sat (6/2/12) and I am still giddy about it! I had to balance work, school and planning the wedding, so it was quite stressful at times! But after the fact, the stress was worth having the most amazing day of our lives...

    What item did you splurge on for your wedding and was it worth it?
    We had a relatively small budget ($3500) but we were able to stick to it. We took people up on their offers to help and that left a little extra money for us to splurge on our wedding night hotel and also some pampering the week before. I was super stressed that week, so it helped to decompress a little with getting my hair done, mani/pedi for both of us and a date night.

    What is your least favorite wedding tradition?
    I don't care for the wedding party dance. We skipped it. I also used to hate the head table, so thank goodness those are being replaced by "sweetheart tables" which we really enjoyed.  

    Favorite part of being married (or engaged)?
    I LOVE being able to call him my husband! :) I kinda felt like we were married in some ways already (been together almost 5 years, engaged for 1.5) But we can truly begin to plan our life together and start making our dreams a reality. How awesome is that!?! 

    Best advice to new brides
    No matter what the magazines, websites, etc. say, there is more than 1 way to do a wedding. In the few days since our wedding, it's the small touches that were "us" that people are still talking about. Also---it's hard at times to breath and take it all in.... but try! The wedding day is emotional and overwhelming as can be... But it's an amazing day when you will want to absorb as much as possible. It goes by SO fast! 

    Most akward question you have been asked since being married/engaged?
    Are you pregnant yet?! Ummm no... but when I am, my husband will be the first one to know, thanks! LOL!
  • -What item did you splurge on for your wedding and was it worth it?
    Photography. And YES. A million times YES.

    -What is your least favourite wedding tradition?
    Dollar dances / honeymoon funds.

    -Favourite part of being married (or engaged)?
    Living with my H. :)

    -Best advice to new brides?
    BREATHE. It is not worth losing your mind over.

    -Most akward question you have been asked since being married/engaged?
    How's the sex?

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    [QUOTE]-What item did you splurge on for your wedding and was it worth it? Photography. And YES. A million times YES. -What is your least favourite wedding tradition? Dollar dances / honeymoon funds. -Favourite part of being married (or engaged)? Living with my H. :) -Best advice to new brides? BREATHE. It is not worth losing your mind over. -Most akward question you have been asked since being married/engaged?<strong> How's the sex?</strong>
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    Oh my word! Someone really asked you that???? AWKWARD!
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  • Welcome to the board!!

    -What item did you splurge on for your wedding and was it worth it?
    The cake...and absolutely yes.  

    -What is your least favourite wedding tradition.
    The "tosses," but especially the garter toss.  It just creeps me out.  We skipped both and did an Anniversary dance instead.

    -Favourite part of being married (or engaged)
    Not being 1200 miles away from my best friend anymore. 

    -Best advice to new brides.
    Have a "go-to" person.  Even if you have a wedding coordinator/planner, give them someone else's number closer to the wedding.  Things were going PERFECTLY until the week before our wedding when several things at the reception venue almost went haywire.  Thankfully, my parents (specifically my dad...I think mom was about to go for blood) were able to handle it.  You just don't need that stress at the last minute.

    -Most akward question you have been asked since being married/engaged.
    I can't really think of one.  Mrandmrsbrist wins this one.  Seriously...who asks that????  I don't even talk about that with my married BFF.
  • What item did you splurge on for your wedding and was it worth it: The photography. $3k for 10 hours. My engagement photos turned out amazing. I cannot wait to see how beautifully our photog captures the wedding day!

    What is your least favourite wedding tradition: The tosses. No, I'm not giving anyone my bouquet. And, thanks, but I don't really want my daddy to watch my husband hunting around for my garter under my dress... 

    Favourite part of being married (or engaged): The countdown till the wedding!

    Best advice to new brides: Planning and planning early is vitally important but so is taking time to sit and think about how amazing it is to start this journey with your soon-to-be husband. While you're wedding is hugely important and very exciting, your marriage is much more important. Don't forget to take "wedding breaks" during your engagment and planning to just relax and have some romantic moments with your FI. 

    Most akward question you have been asked since being married/engaged: Honestly, I don't think I've really encountered anything I couldn't handle. 

    WELCOME! Laughing

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  • -What item did you splurge on for your wedding and was it worth it- Probably the videography and YES! I LOVE memories and all that sentimental stuff so a wedding video was a must for me. I have already watched the 2 and a half hour (or longer) DVD at least 3 times and we have only been married 11 months haha. 

    -What is your least favourite wedding tradition- The garter/bouquet. I don't mind the bouquet toss if it's the only toss done, but what I dislike is when both are done and then the guy who caught the garter has to put it on the girl who caught the bouquet's leg. It's super awkward to have a guy put a garter on a starnger's leg, especially when the DJ says the couple will have better luck the higher up the garter goes on the leg. I am not a fan of this. We didn't do either one.

    -Favourite part of being married (or engaged)- Being with my husband everyday, doing the "little things",  just building a life together, as one. I love it. 

    -Best advice to new brides- On your wedding day, DON'T worry of something goes wrong. At the end of the day, all that matters is that you're married to the love of your life. Take in every moment and ENJOY it. It's the best day of your life. Also, as you start your walk down the aisle, look right at your FI, lock eyes, and keep looking at him. It got me SO excited and calmed all my nervousness. Plus, it was awesome to see the look on his face when he saw me for the first time that day. 

    -Most akward question you have been asked since being married/engaged- Can't think of one


  • -What item did you splurge on for your wedding and was it worth it
    I didn't really splurge on anything, I tried to save money in every way possible.
    -What is your least favourite wedding tradition
    All of them, expect the 4 something's. :)
    -Favourite part of being married (or engaged)
    Shiny ring, friends & family, an improved relationship with Jesus
    -Best advice to new brides 
    Take your time to enjoy your engagement. Don't fret over the small stuff, and it's all small stuff.
    -Most akward question you have been asked since being married/engaged
    How big is your diamond? My first diamond was 1.16ct and my new diamond is a .59 Asscher. (It's a long story.)

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